Thread: Permission to cheat!!!

no.

it means she already is.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

it means she already is.

and has or she wants to break up

If she allows it then she stops caring about you. You, sir, have a bigger problem.

Well no shit, she has no sex drive whatsoever... we have a 4 year old who chews up our free time... I'm down to a Saturday night only event, and I have to make it quick.

She tells me she doesn't care if I cheat, because she doesn't want to have sex ever since the kid.......

oh yeah, the other thing Is I just can't tell her about it... she doesn't want to know.

your wife sounds depressed. she needs to see a dr. if you want your family to stay together get her to work out her depression and keep your dick in your pants.

Cheating is never good or OK for the relationship, I'm 21 and even I know that.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

your wife sounds depressed. she needs to see a dr. if you want your family to stay together get her to work out her depression and keep your dick in your pants.

she has depression for sure ... I've been married for 7 years, and with her for 12.

I know her inside and out.

I only live once too though, why should I never have sex?????

Once a week and half-heartedly doesn't cut it.

Originally Posted by ihateschoolmt

Cheating is never good or OK for the relationship, I'm 21 and even I know that.

But is it cheating if its allowed?

I've been faithful this long, but wouldn't mind a little sex on the side... I'd probably feel guilty, but WTF, I only live once too, and I'm 34...

I'd much rather her be into like before the kid, but she wont go to the DR and talk about it.........

Originally Posted by Ravager

But is it cheating if its allowed?

I've been faithful this long, but wouldn't mind a little sex on the side... I'd probably feel guilty, but WTF, I only live once too, and I'm 34...

I'd much rather her be into like before the kid, but she wont go to the DR and talk about it.........

well, "technically" its not cheating(by definition). but your still having extramarital sex(aka adultery).

i would say no, its not ok. you should either man up, and get a divorce.. or try and work it out, by seeing a sex therapist.

IM sorry to tell you my friend, This relationship is over.... What woman or man on this planet, who is faithful, would allow their spouse to exchange body fluids and passion and lust with another person.

Shes either testing you, or shes cheating, even if she is not screwing around, you are no longer the center piece to her Universe. Im sorry, but this is true.. I feel for ya Bud!!!

I would test her, fuck it... I would come home and just say, well you got your wish, Ive been inside another woman. See how she responds, this will tell you everything you need to know in about 5 min. Im not saying to cheat, but I would test her intentions, and see the face value to this.

Originally Posted by stylus187

IM sorry to tell you my friend, This relationship is over.... What woman or man on this planet, who is faithful, would allow their spouse to exchange body fluids and passion and lust with another person.

Shes either testing you, or shes cheating, even if she is not screwing around, you are no longer the center piece to her Universe. Im sorry, but this is true.. I feel for ya Bud!!!

I would test her, fuck it... I would come home and just say, well you got your wish, Ive been inside another woman. See how she responds, this will tell you everything you need to know in about 5 min. Im not saying to cheat, but I would test her intentions, and see the face value to this.

Spot on bro...

Till death do us part, or until one changes their mind I guess.

A man that gets put in the dog house will eventually end up in the cat house.

I agree you have bigger problems it sounds like.get her so help this def sounds bad on alot of levels.this doesn't sound like its going to end well at all honestly bro.

Originally Posted by Ravager

she has depression for sure ... I've been married for 7 years, and with her for 12.

I know her inside and out.

I only live once too though, why should I never have sex?????

Once a week and half-heartedly doesn't cut it.

If that is the main concern in this relationship then it isn't a relationship.

You need to help her get back to normal or leave.

Sex CANNOT be the foundation for this relationship or it will fail!

Allowing it doesn't make it right

go for it

Originally Posted by dougie d

go for it

Could be the birthcontrol she is taking. That stuff kills my sex drive completely. So I switched to non hormonal BC and in a couple of months or less I was DTF. What is she taking?

Originally Posted by CellarDoor

Could be the birthcontrol she is taking. That stuff kills my sex drive completely. So I switched to non hormonal BC and in a couple of months or less I was DTF. What is she taking?

Microgestin??

Ever since the kid she barely has had a period in 4 years... she says the doctor visits check out fine, but never mentions zero labido during these visits.

I think she thinks its normal, and just accepts it as way of life.

Originally Posted by Ravager

Microgestin??

Ever since the kid she barely has had a period in 4 years... she says the doctor visits check out fine, but never mentions zero labido during these visits.

I think she thinks its normal, and just accepts it as way of life.

I wouldnt do it. Find a way to get her back into the sack. In the mean time can you get her to give you bj's? It could definatly hold you over, if she is willing.

I get sex once a week, on Saturday nights. So thats the only good thing about it, but until i'm inside her she doesn't want anything to do with it, but she gets into it once its happening....

The good news is, its Saturday, so I know I'm gonna get laid tonight.

Lol.. it just isn't what I had in mind I guess...

Nope, she don't give BJ's.... I picked a real winner. lol

I'll probably never cheat, and live the rest of my life without as much passion as I would like.

I have been in a similar situation before. She is not happy some where. This can be fixed. If you love her, then you did pick a winner. Don't cheat, the pain and trust issues never go away no matter how much is "all forgiven". My advice is to seek professional help if you want to save what you have. Some times we need someone on the out side of the relationship to help see and come up with resolutions to what ever it is that is going on. If you find someone to love you for who you are and you love them back, that is magical/real. Only you know where you and your relationship stand. Do what makes the most since.
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