Thread: If she doesn't get off, should he?

Well it depends on the girl.....i as a man feel a little guilty not being able to make her get off but sometimess she says she not really in the mood but because i would still want it....once i make it quick enough she's happy

if your guys horny and you aren't it's still fun to get him off but it shouldn't feel like an obligation.

These threads are NOT helping my priapism situation!

All i know is, i dont even begin sex until ive performed oral on her. Once she cums and her juices are running down my neck, face and chest, then and only then do i penetrate.

How many times has my gf not been in the mood until i began digging into her crevise with my tounge? Plenty! The point is he needs to be slurping up your juices like a thirsty ethiopian child who just stumbled upon a water well. Then when he whips it out, it wont seem like such a chore because you'll be begging for his manpole.

It's a game of give and take.

If my back is itchy, and I ask hubby to scratch it for me, he doesn't hold out and say "no, I don't want to scratch your back - MINE isn't itchy" - right? Furthermore, just because my back was itchy and he scratched it for me, doesn't mean he wants me to immediately scratch his back - his might not be itchy right now.

To me, this is the same thing.

That was well said Built!!

Originally Posted by Built

If my back is itchy, and I ask hubby to scratch it for me, he doesn't hold out and say "no, I don't want to scratch your back - MINE isn't itchy" - right?

If I am in mood, and I ask hubby to give me oral, he doesn't hold out and say "no, I don't want to because I am not in mood" - right?

Furthermore, just because my back was itchy and he scratched it for me, doesn't mean he wants me to immediately scratch his back - his might not be itchy right now.

Furthermore, just because I am in mood and he gives me oral, doesn't mean he wants me to immediately give him back -he might not be in mood right now.

Built, did I paraphrase it correctly?

i enjoy eating pussy!

He will find pussy somewhere. May as well be yours, unless you don't care if he cheats.

Chicks that hold out on their men are dumb and cheated on.

I would rather my women be pleased before me though. Its way more fun when she gets off.

Originally Posted by heavyiron

He will find pussy somewhere. May as well be yours, unless you don't care if he cheats.

Chicks that hold out on their men are dumb and cheated on.

I would rather my women be pleased before me though. Its way more fun when she gets off.

Lol my gf tell me this....she prefers to take care of me than deprive me and make me go looking....she's not always in the mood but she plays along when she needs to. As Built said....its not always about you....being selfish in a relationship or thinking only about what you want never really ends in a good way!

I enjoy making my fiancee climax before I get off. I love making her feel as good as I do. Plus, the more pleasure she gets, the more I'll get in the future.

If done right, I can get her off once during and then a second time when I get off!

My wife and I fuck and we make love. When we fuck it is basicly a quickie for me to get off. When we make love it is basicly for her to get off. We fuck in the morning and make love at night.

Originally Posted by Built

If my back is itchy, and I ask hubby to scratch it for me, he doesn't hold out and say "no, I don't want to scratch your back - MINE isn't itchy" - right? Furthermore, just because my back was itchy and he scratched it for me, doesn't mean he wants me to immediately scratch his back - his might not be itchy right now.

To me, this is the same thing.

I think I love you Built.

Originally Posted by Built

If my back is itchy, and I ask hubby to scratch it for me, he doesn't hold out and say "no, I don't want to scratch your back - MINE isn't itchy" - right? Furthermore, just because my back was itchy and he scratched it for me, doesn't mean he wants me to immediately scratch his back - his might not be itchy right now.

To me, this is the same thing.

I think you may need a 'back scratcher'. *wink*wink*

I happen to believe a young man only wants his, and neglects hers.

A seasoned man is more obliged with hers, but still wants to achieve his.

90% of the time i make sure she's at least got off once (the other 10% i'm lazy) and then i can focus on me.......knowing that she's satisfied makes it more intense and better my my orgasm......the mental aspect of knowing that DOES make it more satisfying and easier to get off

I have been there, had that relationship where it was amazing and fulfilling to get my partner off. I guess I have just been put into the mindset that I should feel bad if he doesn't get off. It wasn't fully selfish of me, but I have been there and gone along with it all just to please him, and found myself unsatisfied frequently.

I am currently in a situation where things are fresh, including him (virgin, never been in a relationship). So, I wanted to make sure I didn't just toss my needs aside this time. Its been interesting so far, and frustrating at times. I am used to a take charge guy, he is as docile as they come. He expects that he will learn it all through experience, but frankly, its a little much when I have to explain everything.. I mean everything surrounding the relationship, not just sex.

I'm not even fully aroused until my partner get's off. I need that reassurance I guess before I can fully relax and get totally into it. Sounds like I have a bit of a performance anxiety...seems to serve me well though.

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

I have been there, had that relationship where it was amazing and fulfilling to get my partner off. I guess I have just been put into the mindset that I should feel bad if he doesn't get off. It wasn't fully selfish of me, but I have been there and gone along with it all just to please him, and found myself unsatisfied frequently.

I am currently in a situation where things are fresh, including him (virgin, never been in a relationship). So, I wanted to make sure I didn't just toss my needs aside this time. Its been interesting so far, and frustrating at times. I am used to a take charge guy, he is as docile as they come. He expects that he will learn it all through experience, but frankly, its a little much when I have to explain everything.. I mean everything surrounding the relationship, not just sex.

You can make or break this "virgin" for yourself and his future lady friends. If you teach him the right ways to do things now, You will benefit from your teachings. If things don't work out between you two, At least someone from your sisterhood will enjoy the work you put in.

totally!


I would, especially if they are a dime a dozen sort

Originally Posted by heavyiron

He will find pussy somewhere. May as well be yours, unless you don't care if he cheats.

Chicks that hold out on their men are dumb and cheated on.

I would rather my women be pleased before me though. Its way more fun when she gets off.

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Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

I have been there, had that relationship where it was amazing and fulfilling to get my partner off. I guess I have just been put into the mindset that I should feel bad if he doesn't get off. It wasn't fully selfish of me, but I have been there and gone along with it all just to please him, and found myself unsatisfied frequently.

I am currently in a situation where things are fresh, including him (virgin, never been in a relationship). So, I wanted to make sure I didn't just toss my needs aside this time. Its been interesting so far, and frustrating at times. I am used to a take charge guy, he is as docile as they come. He expects that he will learn it all through experience, but frankly, its a little much when I have to explain everything.. I mean everything surrounding the relationship, not just sex.

to hell with tossing your needs. he should be tossing your salad

Originally Posted by hunter121

It's a game of give and take

You don't have to repeat after me.

long as ive squirted my load i dont care i just go make a chicken sandwhich and protein shake!

I think its ok for one to get off and the other not. there have been times when I worked him so hard and fast that he could not wait. i kinda like that power sometimes!

Sal

Originally Posted by salliann

I think its ok for one to get off and the other not. there have been times when I worked him so hard and fast that he could not wait. i kinda like that power sometimes!

Sal

Great first post Sal, I look forward to reading more.

i ALMOST don't enjoy getting off if my girl doesn't too. obviously, there are those "quicky" type situations where i'm so horny that i'm in pain. most chicks will suck or pound you off really quick just so life can go on normally. there has to be a mutual understanding and respect about it though. most chicks i've been with aren't into "quickies" anyway. they will gladly take a fast one for a long, drawn-out, slow, wet, hot "pay-back" later.

My wife is great... When im horny and she isnt she plays the part and lets me nut. I love eating pussy so most times she nuts before we even started to fuck.. If the wife doesnt give it up you better believe guys will find it somewhere else.