Sexual frequency in 40s

**malfeasance** · 06-20-2011, 10:01 AM

I need input from some of the older guys - Serious question here - what should one expect in his early-mid 40s? I have recently had sex with women I date multiple times in a night, but then I do not see them for a couple of weeks

, so I did not notice this issue. Recently, a new girlfriend invited me to stay together for several days in a row. It was great for the first two days (four times, three times

). By the third day, I was having a little trouble, and by the fourth morning, I felt completely drained, although she got me to come around once that fourth morning. She is significantly younger and has never dated anybody my age.

Should I be concerned, or is this just normal and to be expected once middle age rolls around?

I am several weeks out of PCT already.

It has been a long, long time (years!) since I had this much sex over several days, and it was no problem at all back then when I was younger. Is this just life now? If so, then getting old sucks! She is asking me to see her exclusively and more regularly, and I like the idea, but I am a little worried after our recent stay together.

I doubt you can have any meaningful input unless you are in your 40s yourself - I would not have even understood the question 10 years ago. I doubt this is a steroid post cycle issue so much as an aging issue, but I would like to hear your thoughts on the subject.

**bigmoe65** · 06-20-2011, 10:46 AM

Having sex 3 or 4 times a night is a lot of sex, of course youre drained. I wouldnt stress about it. IMHO its quality over quanity, instead of fucking like a rabbit just have 1 or 2 really good sessions. Im 43.

**REDDOG309** · 06-20-2011, 11:02 AM

I agree with Moe, Thats a lot of sex for any age. I thought my 40's were the best sex years of my life. One of the things I learned was to please my lady 2-3 times to my one.
I'm 52 right now and belive i max out at twice a night (on a good night) But Moe is right, it's quality over quanity, I became a better lover in my 40's when I started pleaseing her more than myself.

**malfeasance** · 06-20-2011, 11:12 AM

Originally Posted by bigmoe65

Having sex 3 or 4 times a night is a lot of sex, of course youre drained. I wouldnt stress about it. IMHO its quality over quanity, instead of fucking like a rabbit just have 1 or 2 really good sessions. Im 43.

Originally Posted by REDDOG309

I agree with Moe, Thats a lot of sex for any age. I thought my 40's were the best sex years of my life. One of the things I learned was to please my lady 2-3 times to my one.
I'm 52 right now and belive i max out at twice a night (on a good night) But Moe is right, it's quality over quanity, I became a better lover in my 40's when I started pleaseing her more than myself.

Guys, thanks for your input . . . makes me feel a little better. I am glad the thread has been treated seriously. I was in a terrible marriage for many years (almost no sex), so I missed out on a lot over the last few years, and this issue caught me by surprise.

Reddog, I agree, and that 2-3 times ratio is exactly what has been happening, but a few hours later she kept coming back for more anyway . . . I am not complaining, but I cannot possibly keep up for more than a day or two. Maybe she will calm down a little once the "newness" of the relationship wears off.

**DecaConstruction** · 06-21-2011, 01:54 PM

Get on more gear - gear is good - she will be the one starting a thread next thing you know.

**chosen1** · 06-21-2011, 02:24 PM

completely normal.. im n my forties with young gf and it was a little intimidating at first. ITS A GOOD PROBLEM TO HAVE!!

**malfeasance** · 06-21-2011, 03:11 PM

Originally Posted by DecaConstruction

Get on more gear - gear is good - she will be the one starting a thread next thing you know.

LOL!

Not time to do another cycle yet - trying to do this correctly and wait . . .

**Glycomann** · 06-21-2011, 03:29 PM

You know they have the winning organ hands down.

**bigmoe65** · 06-21-2011, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by Glycomann

You know they have the winning organ hands down.

Does the mouth and rectum count as an organ?

**ZECH** · 06-21-2011, 05:23 PM

A little test will do wonders. She will think you are a sex maniac. At least mine does. Im 47

**Curt James** · 06-21-2011, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by DecaConstruction

Get on more gear - gear is good - she will be the one starting a thread next thing you know.

lol

I was 33 and my girlfriend was 43. That's the only woman where I said, "Hold up, hold up. I gotta get some sleep!"

Turbo-charged.

I'll be 49 and suggest Viagra. Congratulations, good sir.

**Curt James** · 06-21-2011, 05:30 PM

Originally Posted by malfeasance

LOL!

Not time to do another cycle yet - trying to do this correctly and wait . . .

Oral.

And not AAS, mal. lulz

**sscar** · 06-21-2011, 05:42 PM

I wish i had that problem.No really i do wish i had that problem.married for 25 years and tiered of begging.You lucky s.o.b 48 here

**Curt James** · 06-21-2011, 05:55 PM

^^^^ Believe Prince had a thread on legalizing prostitution.

**heavyiron** · 06-21-2011, 07:19 PM

A few weeks PCT is part of the issue. Age another part.

A small amount of Test and some Cialis and she will be begging you to stop.

**malfeasance** · 06-22-2011, 01:35 PM

Originally Posted by Curt James

Oral.

And not AAS, mal. lulz

Yeah, doing that, too.

And just to be clear - I am not complaining. This is a good problem to have. I was just curious about whether age is getting to me.

Had a conversation with a 43 year old married friend today - he told me he has the same issue on a busy weekend. LOL!

**MDR** · 06-22-2011, 01:40 PM

Nothing wrong with a bit of Cialis or Viagra. Always a good idea to focus on foreplay (for her) during the refractory period, either.

**olded** · 06-27-2011, 02:10 AM

Originally Posted by sscar

I wish i had that problem.No really i do wish i had that problem.married for 25 years and tiered of begging.You lucky s.o.b 48 here

I'm with SSCAR, I'm 53, married 34 years and unless I start something with wife, then nothing. After all these years my wife knows I like her to talk to me when having sex. It turns her on to. If we fantasy about some woman or friend she finds hot she can come 3 or 4 times. I'm lucky to get one in. But and this is the big let down, I have to start talking first. It sucks. I went to my Dr and explained that I'm have trouble getting it up, and that's on test. He said what do you expect your married so long, and your wife isn't helping make it fun. He told me that if he put a 25-30 year old in the room with me I'd be fine. I got to believe him. Shit you are a lucky man. I love my wife, but something sweet on the side would be nice. lol

**malfeasance** · 06-28-2011, 12:53 PM

Spending one or two days together a couple times a week over the last week is working out quite nicely, and she has been going on and on about the four days together (from my original post), so I guess she did not have any complaints . . .

Thanks for all the input.

For the married guys complaining - been there, done that. Almost a decade of almost no sex. This is such a welcome change.

**yoyome** · 06-28-2011, 02:09 PM

ur alright as long as u can take care of her ur good , my girl is younger im 48 i like it at least every other day twice if i can iv been lucky still horny as hell

**Built** · 06-28-2011, 02:22 PM

It's normal. I highly recommend viagra/cialis. And test.

**malfeasance** · 07-01-2011, 09:46 AM

Well, since this is an anonymous board, I feel like I can post this here. She told me this morning that she has always wanted sex as many times as we do it in a night, but no man she has been with has been able to . . . made me feel pretty good since I am the oldest man she has ever dated. She claimed she is "very satisfied" in a way that she has not been before in her life.

Things have been going very well.

I kind of feel silly for worrying now - I am glad I expressed my worry here on the board and not to her.

**malfeasance** · 07-01-2011, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by Built

I highly recommend viagra/cialis.

LOL! She also mentioned among her disappointments that her last boyfriend, 10 years younger than me, "had to use ED pills" to have sex. I was kind of shocked.

**Built** · 07-01-2011, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by malfeasance

LOL! She also mentioned among her disappointments that her last boyfriend, 10 years younger than me, "had to use ED pills" to have sex. I was kind of shocked.

See, we don't HAVE to use 'em. We LIKE 'em! You ever tried any?

**malfeasance** · 07-01-2011, 02:12 PM

Originally Posted by Built

See, we don't HAVE to use 'em. We LIKE 'em! You ever tried any?

Built, no, I have not. I thought this would be for just if one could not get it up. Is there another use for them?

**Built** · 07-01-2011, 02:26 PM

Your erection will be harder and your penis will appear fuller and larger. Hubby also contends the orgasm is stronger. I've taken Viagra a few times myself, and I too found the orgasm stronger when I've taken it before sex.

It's also great before a workout (think "ULTIMATE NO-Explode").

**Prince** · 07-02-2011, 06:43 PM

I am almost 42 years old and my wife (Gena Marie) and I have sex at least once daily, of course we are both using AAS.

**swingslammer** · 07-05-2011, 05:14 AM

I am 46 and my wife is 39.....she wants it way more than I do...oh well.

**vannesb** · 07-05-2011, 02:01 PM

Originally Posted by malfeasance

Built, no, I have not. I thought this would be for just if one could not get it up. Is there another use for them?

I am 47 and I use them not because I can't get it up but with the test I can go for a few hours which is nice at times. Several times in one night not anymore for me, unless with a little help from a pill!

**malfeasance** · 07-06-2011, 02:03 PM

Originally Posted by Built

Your erection will be harder and your penis will appear fuller and larger. Hubby also contends the orgasm is stronger. I've taken Viagra a few times myself, and I too found the orgasm stronger when I've taken it before sex.

It's also great before a workout (think "ULTIMATE NO-Explode").

Well, I did a little reading, and concrete information is hard to come by, but anecdotal evidence is that it delays orgasm, but there is still a refractory period. Does this sound correct?

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