Thread: Anyone tried swinging?

It seems that you and your wife have a pretty strong and very open relationship. Maybe spend a little more time on the idea and think about all possible endings and how you might overcome it. If everything is still looking good I'd say find a couple that both of you are attracted to, and make sure you have the biggest cock on the block. So when you slip it back in your wife you hear her purr and see her body relax almost saying, "yeah that's my man...". Then bring it home, just make sure you finish with your wife and release all those might be issue then. Ha ha! Being from CA I doubt you'll have trouble finding sexy couples in that underground community.

Originally Posted by SloppyJ

I get pissed when me and the GF walk down the street and some drunk ass says something about her boobs. I couldn't imagine letting another dude fuck her, even if I was fucking his wife/gf. It's kinda weird. But very interesting to say the least.

There is a party at a certain hotel bar once a month here and it's a swinger party. If I was single, i'd go. My buddy said that you had to bring a girl with you. But some how he got in and got a BJ from some rando.

This.. Evertime we go out i pretty much get in some kind of shit because guys sayin shit or tryin touchin my girl... I know i couldnt have sum random guy nailin her lol shit would get bad for him lol.

Theres a swinger club here... Shits like 90 for single guys and free for women lol , cant have a cock fest gotta charge them fellas lol

Wouldn't do it

If you are going to explore this you must have a few things first. 1: have a very open, trusting, and happy relationship. This will jot fix anything that is broken in your current relationship. It can however spice it up. 2: you have to have rules. Discuss what you and your wifeare comfortable and uncomfortable with. What you both want out of it and what you don't want. 3: a person/ couple that you are comfortable with and can trust. This person needs to know all of what you expectancy want from this experience and has to know the rules.
My husband and. Have discussed this before and I have a few couple/friends that are experienced swingers and I was given all this advice from them. You and your partner definitely have to be comfortable with your own abilities to please one another. Any jealousy will only make this experience a negative one.

your crazy bro, lol.. the image of my wife getting fuct by another dude would eat me alive. hell no!

Originally Posted by lisarox

If you are going to explore this you must have a few things first. 1: have a very open, trusting, and happy relationship. This will jot fix anything that is broken in your current relationship. It can however spice it up. 2: you have to have rules. Discuss what you and your wifeare comfortable and uncomfortable with. What you both want out of it and what you don't want. 3: a person/ couple that you are comfortable with and can trust. This person needs to know all of what you expectancy want from this experience and has to know the rules.
My husband and. Have discussed this before and I have a few couple/friends that are experienced swingers and I was given all this advice from them. You and your partner definitely have to be comfortable with your own abilities to please one another. Any jealousy will only make this experience a negative one.

thanks. My wife and I have discussed this in detail and have basically come to the conclusion that we aren't 100% sure that we wouldn't be jealous. Until we are sure of this, it isn't an option for us, and honestly, I'm not sure if it will ever be.
I was originally the one who brought up the idea, but it wasn't because anything is lacking in our relationship, just a curiosity with different forms of sexuality. In fact, our sex life couldn't be better, even after being together for 12 years.
Some things are just best left alone, especially if you aren't entirely sure about how it will turn out. Our relationship is much more important than some short lived sexual excitement.
For now, we're just exploring sex with different toys, sometimes alcohol and sometimes ecstacy, and sometimes both! We met on ecstacy and have been together since that moment 12 years ago.

I would stay away. Would never let a man touch my wife and live. It's natural to be curious about it. But you don't know how yours or her mind could flip after the deed is done. She could flip and treat it like you cheated on her even though she seemed fine wtih it going in. Also it can be a slippery slope. Like others, I had a friend and his wife that did it. Went to parties at bathhouses or whatever they are called, the wife started cheating behind his back. They ended up divorced. Just have a healthy toy collection and keep it between the two of you. My 2 cents. Everyone feels different on the topic though.

Originally Posted by exphysiologist88

So, I've been married for 6 years, been with my wife for 12. We've been discussing swinging and we're both slightly interested, or at least interested in entertaining the idea.

Our sex life is amazing in every way, especially since I've been on aas. Both of us have always had an above average libido, and we're both very comfortable in our abilities.

Our marriage couldn't be better, we've been together since the moment we met (we were on ecstacy), and it has only gotten better over the years. So, we feel comfortable in trying something new out. We don't have any jealousy issues either. In fact, we have both discussed in detail most of our past sexual experiences with other partners.

Just wanted to know if any of you guys or girls have tried it out.

• Was it worth it?
• Did it create any problems?
• Would you do it again?

Also, I've been with a couple before. No, I'm not gay. I was chosen by the wife to fulfill her fantasy of having 2 guys. It was a pretty good experience.

If you are going to do it go out of town and do it with a couple you plan on never seeing again...

If you do it with a couple you occasionally see it might get uncomfortable to be around them or the wife/you might be tempted to seek sex with the other partner in secret... (happens all the time)...

So go out of town...

Get drunk, high, or both...

Make a night of it, and leave it there...

This is the best way to try it out...

Good luck...

Originally Posted by ExLe

If you are going to do it go out of town and do it with a couple you plan on never seeing again...

If you do it with a couple you occasionally see it might get uncomfortable to be around them or the wife/you might be tempted to seek sex with the other partner in secret... (happens all the time)...

So go out of town...

Get drunk, high, or both...

Make a night of it, and leave it there...

This is the best way to try it out...

Good luck...

thanks, but we've decided it's not a risk we're willing to take. somethings are best left alone. Especially if you already have a great marriage and sex life.

Originally Posted by exphysiologist88

thanks, but we've decided it's not a risk we're willing to take. somethings are best left alone. Especially if you already have a great marriage and sex life.

Nice choice...

Why watch or know your wife is banging another dude just for some new snatch for yourself...

Secretly cheating is much more exciting anyways...

You only live once...

Originally Posted by jbzjacked

This.. Evertime we go out i pretty much get in some kind of shit because guys sayin shit or tryin touchin my girl... I know i couldnt have sum random guy nailin her lol shit would get bad for him lol.

Theres a swinger club here... Shits like 90 for single guys and free for women lol , cant have a cock fest gotta charge them fellas lol

I agree. I'm way too jealous for swinging.

Shit my wife and I have been married 30 years. We never did the swinging thing, but we love to talk about it when we are having sex. She gets off thinking about doing some of her friends and some of our married friends husband. I find it to be cool as long as it stays in the house. The thing is I think she did it years ago when we were first married with her girlfriend and the girlfriends husband. I was away at a powerlifting contest. The guy actually called my wife after she had stay with them for the weekend, as he was a travelling salesman and she was finishing school in NYC. I happen to answer the phone and he ask to talk to her. I didn't think anything about it. She said he ask if she wanted to crash at the hotel he was in.She told him no, but I bet if she had gotten to the phone before me she most likely would have. She would have lied and said she was staying with her girlfriend in the city. Still I never put it together. All I have to do is bring it up in bed and start asking questions and she ends up cumming about 4-times. It happened so long ago and I don't see them anymore, my wife doesn't see them either. Back then I would have beat the shit out of the guy, and booted my wife out. Now it's just a turn on knowing she was a slut. Just my story, who knows maybe there were other guys I don't even know about. Shit I was 24 and she was 22 when we married.

somewhere on here there is a post where a guy was in your position and the guy his wife fucked had a bigger dick and she loved it. he hated her after and couldn't get it out of his head. it ruined their sex life and relationship. he too thought it would be cool.

that's why i always keep half my cock in the dry...

If it were me,i wont do this.

Originally Posted by GMO

I just couldn't let another man screw my wife. I'd have to beat his face in afterward...

I agree. I don't think I could handle some clown sticking his cock in my wife. In addition, I don't think I would feel comfortable enough to screw another chick with my wife watching. It would feel to weird.

The minute the "associations" shift - e.g. a 3-some becomes 2 + 1 and the "2" isn't the same two show showed up together, the jealousy starts. It can be very subtle. It doesn't have to be a 3-some - the minute a connection is made outside of the established "connections" (i.e. you & your wife), things can go downhill in a heart beat. Doesn't even need to be a real connection - just a perceived connection that the other person sees, or the lack of connection for the other person can be just as bad. All the planning in the world can't anticipate that moment.

Originally Posted by GMO

I just couldn't let another man screw my wife. I'd have to beat his face in afterward...

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I could never handle it bro. I would forever think that she enjoyed it with him more than me. Shit would get real violent real quick. I will stick with my wife and my hand. Far less complications.

Some friends of mine got into that a few years ago. Three marriages ended because of it. IMO, not a good idea.

I never did but came close at one point but was very happy we didnt end up doing it, it would have been more my wife with another chick. I suggest visiting a wild resort like Temptation Cancun it's a blast weather you are a swinger or just want to get a little wild.

i haven't done,and i won't do this.

My wife and I have great sex and I"m the only guy she's ever been with (been married for almost 7 years). I appreciate the fact that she doesn't desire variety or want to experience a different "flavor" of man. This is good b/c I would never and could never be ok with another man entering her and experiencing her. Noty judging the couples who swing but it's not for wife and I b/c we simply want each other all to ourselves and no chance of sharing, etc.

If it was me, I wouldn't. Don't 50% of marriages end in divorce nowadays. I'm sorry guy, I'm old fashioned and close minded, but hey it's your marriage, and you already know the answer here.....you're going to do it anyway.

Originally Posted by rage racing

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I could never handle it bro. I would forever think that she enjoyed it with him more than me. Shit would get real violent real quick. I will stick with my wife and my hand. Far less complications.

quoted for truth!

I've had numerous 3somes with other girls involved and another couple, just never extra guys and no other guys in the gf's.
I'd actually recommend going into discovery of tantric or karetza. Tantric you learn to not ejaculate and have 10 orgasms that are internal. Building energy instead of spending it. Testosterone actually rises after 8 days of no ejaculations as well.
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this is interesting as well with the focus off of orgasms completely and just aiming at bonding and intimacy.

Most swinging couples fall apart, mainly from the male jealousy. One version that does have success is the male faithful and the woman fucking anyone she likes.
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cant say i would, the thought of spending 25 years/life for removing another mans vital organs with a rusty spoon dipped in pig shit for touching my wife isnt a real incentive!
being thin, tall and white, in prison id get laid alot more than i wanted or id smell like shit cause fuck the soap, dont want any, dont need any!