Thread: Extremely Confused

Originally posted by KataMaStEr
You know I made up my mind after a lot of headaches and I’m not going to change anything, I didn’t tell her anything. I think this is better if I keep it to myself. It’s not everyday you find a person like my girl, ending what we have would be plain stupid from my part and that’s FINAL.

Again that you all for the input I really appreciate it

Originally posted by KataMaStEr
You know I made up my mind after a lot of headaches and I’m not going to change anything, I didn’t tell her anything. I think this is better if I keep it to myself. It’s not everyday you find a person like my girl, ending what we have would be plain stupid from my part and that’s FINAL.

Again that you all for the input I really appreciate it

I'm so happy.

Originally posted by gr81
P put it perfectly here my man. Tell your GF that you are too damn young to be in a serious relationship and that you still wanna date, but you wanna see others too. You are only 18 man. I am telling you, don't get in a relationship like that until you are like 25. I guarantee you will regret it dude. How do you know theren't are other girls out there like her if your experiences are limited? Too young......

I have dated other girls man, and a lot of them weren’t exactly the person I would like to spend munch time with, it was all fun and that’s it. All I know is that there are not many out there like my girl (compared to the ones I know and have dated). I think this was just a case of me wanting something different (considering this is the longest I have been with someone) but sometimes you just can’t do something by just following your feeling. Got to put some thought behind it, that’s what I did and it is how I arrived at my conclusion.

You've gotten a lot of good advice already , but just remember- The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Maybe your attracted to the other girl, but you can always be attracted to someone else and still love the person you are with. Your always going to look, it's human nature. But whether or not you act on your "attraction" is up to you. You just need to ask yourself- is this girl worth ending your relationship with your current girlfriend? Keep in mind though, it's not fair to your girlfriend to think she's the "only one" if there is someone else you really want. Good Luck! I hope it all works out for you!

nc,

He's already decided to stay with his girl. He's not trying to graze on the other side of the hill

Originally posted by KataMaStEr
This has been bothering me for the last few days; I don’t know what to do. I can’t go to sleep without thinking about it. I say to myself I’m going to stay with my girl but next day when I’m around the other girl it softens me.

Originally posted by Randy
Very simple ..... Just follow your heart.

Not so simple when your heart is in two places, I have been there. I decided to stick who I was with, but it was almost 4 years. Now that we are split though I feel as if I should have listened closer, I avoided the "other girl" on purpose because things were so strong, it was crazy. The way she looked at me just made everything around me stop.

Anyway, that girl has since quit her job and it was a couple months after I split with the "ex" (I hate that word) that I went looking for her. I asked someone at her work and she ran me around in circles "not knowing who I was talking about." I never knew how honest she was being with me because I knew she had a thing for me too, damn life is rough

Anyway, ultimately I wish I looked at things closer, maybe it was a sign that I should have evaluated where I was at in my relationship at the time. Ultimately we all want to be with someone that fits us 100%, I dont want to be with someone who I argue with or etc so I dont see how some people settle for that. That wasn't the reason my relationship "failed" and I wont go into why, but it did and really I probably should have moved on if I wasn't such a puzzy. Now I am left wondering WHAT IF, and that bothered me for months. I haven't seen her for probably 9 months but I still remember her eyes and the way she looked at me, I swear it was as Romeo and Juliet as I've ever experienced in my life, she was litterally 'perfect' it seemed, but again I will never know now. Her physical body language was exactly the same as mine, I knew right away what was going on, for the few times that I saw her it really made me think.

Anyhow, good luck man, and yes I agree that only you can figure this out. Even if it means not calling your girlfriend for a couple days to see how you really feel, sometimes life has hard decisions to make. Just know that whichever one you do choose probably means there is no going back, so make it the right one.

Sometimes if its only physical attraction, the rest may be dissapointing, and I dont know how well you know this other girl...

Age is relative, we are not all the same people at 18, I know I sure as heck wasn't a slut at any age, it was never in my interest to be with 5 girls at once (minus my dreams).

I think you have to determine if this is a real attraction or just a sexual one.

Here in the college I see a lot of gorgeous girls, I also some of them checking me out. And damned if my mind doesn't think what it would be like to have sex with them, but I also know that I love my girlfriend very much, and I that I will never find another girl that I have such a connection with. So I remain faithful.

If you are getting a stronger connection with this other girl, not sexual, then maybe it's time to move on.

Your heart may of been in 2 places Mudge, but I'm talking about the heart in your chest, not the one in your pants

Originally posted by Mudge
Not so simple when your heart is in two places, I have been there. I decided to stick who I was with, but it was almost 4 years. Now that we are split though I feel as if I should have listened closer, I avoided the "other girl" on purpose because things were so strong, it was crazy. The way she looked at me just made everything around me stop.

Anyway, that girl has since quit her job and it was a couple months after I split with the "ex" (I hate that word) that I went looking for her. I asked someone at her work and she ran me around in circles "not knowing who I was talking about." I never knew how honest she was being with me because I knew she had a thing for me too, damn life is rough

Anyway, ultimately I wish I looked at things closer, maybe it was a sign that I should have evaluated where I was at in my relationship at the time. Ultimately we all want to be with someone that fits us 100%, I dont want to be with someone who I argue with or etc so I dont see how some people settle for that. That wasn't the reason my relationship "failed" and I wont go into why, but it did and really I probably should have moved on if I wasn't such a puzzy. Now I am left wondering WHAT IF, and that bothered me for months. I haven't seen her for probably 9 months but I still remember her eyes and the way she looked at me, I swear it was as Romeo and Juliet as I've ever experienced in my life, she was litterally 'perfect' it seemed, but again I will never know now. Her physical body language was exactly the same as mine, I knew right away what was going on, for the few times that I saw her it really made me think.

Anyhow, good luck man, and yes I agree that only you can figure this out. Even if it means not calling your girlfriend for a couple days to see how you really feel, sometimes life has hard decisions to make. Just know that whichever one you do choose probably means there is no going back, so make it the right one.

Sometimes if its only physical attraction, the rest may be dissapointing, and I dont know how well you know this other girl...

Originally posted by Crono1000
Here are a few things that I can't help but put emphasis on in this situation:

This is the bottom line. The truth is no matter how right, or how much sense we make, you're still going to do what you're going to do. So don't think anyone can give you the answer, but maybe we can help you figure this out yourself.


Now let me place a disclaimer here before I say anything, especially since Tit frequents the boards sometimes. I absolutely love my gf 100% and nothing can change that, I've never been tempted or even thought about it, we've had a strong healthy faithful relationship that has been based on the most amazing display of trust, honesty, and respect. And she has an amazing rack honest

I'm only a few years older than you, but as I've discussed with my single friends, being single in college must be the coolest feeling in the world. It's like hunting while all of the deer in the woods are surrounding you, grazing feet away from you oblivious of your threat, exposing their meaty flesh while you scope them tirelessly, brushing up against you in the bus... being naked in your dreams...

haha kidding! But these are experiences I will never get to partake in. Of course I'm forced to say here that I don't miss it, and in truth I don't regret it at all and certainly wouldn't change my circumstances for anything. But I certainly don't recommend it. (In the same way I don't recommend a long distance relationship, which I have also successfully gotten through) In a sense, it takes a certain amount of discipline and assurance, which is something you won't get until you have gone out and explored your dating oppurtunities.

Anyway, things will change in your future and like gr81 said you'll be missing out if you don't take advantage of this oppurtunity. I'm not saying that you're too young to fall in love, (although I must say on MY timeline you're still able to see other girls since u guys haven't been dating too long) but you haven't had the oppurtunity to know what you're looking for and what you like/dislike- and these are developing emotions you won't have until you see what's out there. Because when you leave Momma's doors, a whole world of oppurtunities (and pussy) will be throwing themselves at you.

So what do I mean by all this? Well for me being single and, in your case I'm assuming in high school, means learning who you are and what you like/dislike. It's time to have fun as gr81 said: break a few hearts, crash a few parties, and (although being smart about it) meeting a few women.

But enough with the Horny-version-of- Dr. Phil- crap, let me ask you the questions you want to hear. First of all, what does the new girl have to offer. You say your gf is sweet (and I'm a sucker for sweet- sweet face, sweet personality, sweet morals, big titties, sweet manners), is this new girl not? Is she "spicier?" Is she simply something new? If you maybe stopped seeing the new girl altogether, do you think you'd still miss her after, say, two weeks? Same question for current gf. (this would be a lot easier with names)

And of course it all comes down to this one deciding factor:

Is either Asian? Pick that one

Until that final line I was having serious trouble believeing Cronno typed all that himself

Hey your in very initial stage with another girl to think about hurting your current relation, spend more time with her, get to know more, dont take any hasty decision so fast, just be friend with her, if you think she is perfect for you and you can be happy with her so you have to take the decision to leave your current gf, most important is where you feel happy instead of thinking of other persons happiness if you dont feel happy with this girl, how will she be happy with you,

dude you're advice is 7 years too late and he already made a decision did you read anything

Originally Posted by ebn2002

dude you're advice is 7 years too late and he already made a decision did you read anything

How in gods name did a thead from 7 years ago get found and then replied to???

take the new girl for a test run and see what it is like, then if she no good go back to the other. win win

O.M.G. I was wondering who in the hell bumped a 7 yr. old thread.