Thread: Extremely Confused

Very simple ..... Just follow your heart.

Nobody can answer this question but you. You can sit hear and listen to peoples bs, but the bottom line is you must make the decision. Nobody here knows either one of those girls, how could they help you. (THINK MY BROTHER)

The other girl ..It is that kind of girl that just by looking you feel something different ?
Life is good because of the high risk that some situations have.

I say go for it.

Think if you will gain more with the new girl relationship than you do right now with your girlfriend! Think if you feel more confortable by her side and with her (as a girlfriend) as you do with your now girlfriend. (sorry my english).

But hurry to made up your mind, because you will get much more confused... Think wisely.

dude, you are too youong to be in a serious relationship for just this reason. This is your time to find out what you like and don't like, to experiment and experience. you can't do that when you are tied down. go with your feelings and have fuin now, settle later. Trust me, one of the stupidest things you can do is waste your youth with one girl. Waaaayyyy too young bro. believe that!!! take advantage or you will regret it.

Here are a few things that I can't help but put emphasis on in this situation:

Originally posted by Randy
Nobody can answer this question but you. You can sit hear and listen to peoples bs, but the bottom line is you must make the decision.

This is the bottom line. The truth is no matter how right, or how much sense we make, you're still going to do what you're going to do. So don't think anyone can give you the answer, but maybe we can help you figure this out yourself.

Originally posted by gr81
This is your time to find out what you like and don't like, to experiment and experience. you can't do that when you are tied down. .. have fuin now, settle later.

Now let me place a disclaimer here before I say anything, especially since Tit frequents the boards sometimes. I absolutely love my gf 100% and nothing can change that, I've never been tempted or even thought about it, we've had a strong healthy faithful relationship that has been based on the most amazing display of trust, honesty, and respect. And she has an amazing rack honest

I'm only a few years older than you, but as I've discussed with my single friends, being single in college must be the coolest feeling in the world. It's like hunting while all of the deer in the woods are surrounding you, grazing feet away from you oblivious of your threat, exposing their meaty flesh while you scope them tirelessly, brushing up against you in the bus... being naked in your dreams...

haha kidding! But these are experiences I will never get to partake in. Of course I'm forced to say here that I don't miss it, and in truth I don't regret it at all and certainly wouldn't change my circumstances for anything. But I certainly don't recommend it. (In the same way I don't recommend a long distance relationship, which I have also successfully gotten through) In a sense, it takes a certain amount of discipline and assurance, which is something you won't get until you have gone out and explored your dating oppurtunities.

Anyway, things will change in your future and like gr81 said you'll be missing out if you don't take advantage of this oppurtunity. I'm not saying that you're too young to fall in love, (although I must say on MY timeline you're still able to see other girls since u guys haven't been dating too long) but you haven't had the oppurtunity to know what you're looking for and what you like/dislike- and these are developing emotions you won't have until you see what's out there. Because when you leave Momma's doors, a whole world of oppurtunities (and pussy) will be throwing themselves at you.

So what do I mean by all this? Well for me being single and, in your case I'm assuming in high school, means learning who you are and what you like/dislike. It's time to have fun as gr81 said: break a few hearts, crash a few parties, and (although being smart about it) meeting a few women.

But enough with the Horny-version-of- Dr. Phil- crap, let me ask you the questions you want to hear. First of all, what does the new girl have to offer. You say your gf is sweet (and I'm a sucker for sweet- sweet face, sweet personality, sweet morals, big titties, sweet manners), is this new girl not? Is she "spicier?" Is she simply something new? If you maybe stopped seeing the new girl altogether, do you think you'd still miss her after, say, two weeks? Same question for current gf. (this would be a lot easier with names)

And of course it all comes down to this one deciding factor:

Is either Asian? Pick that one

good points crono. remember this kata, each girl is different and has different things to offer you. neither has to be better and worse, just different. You can love the way one girl fucks and also love the way another girl fucks. ya dig? I know what its like to be all wrapped up into someone at a young age, its hard to realize things until you moved on and have grown a bit. Once you do though you will realize that you need to take advantage. If this GF of yours is truley the ONE for you then you will find her later on when you are ready to settle. I mean how many women have you been with? I bet not enough to have found the one. anyways you get the point. live for yourself, not for others.. believe that shit my man.

the most sensitive thing to do is be honest. Ask your girlfriend if she minds you bringing another lady to bed some night?

who knows, she may surprise you. If she says no, then she wasn't the right woman for you to begin with

Crono....

That is a nice thought...At what point did you wake up from your dream If I asked mine that question I would get my throat cut

Get the other girl. Screw as many as you can, becuase once you're married you'll hate yourself for not doing just that. I promise.

lots of good advice here...

one thing does come to mind though. i think there is always a certain excitement with the prospect of someone new that isn't there after you've been with someone for awhile.

my last relationship lasted 6+ years. even when things were great with us i did sometimes miss the thrill and excitement you feel when something is brand new.

that doesn't mean there aren't benefits to the familiar....but i have found in life that the thrill factor doesn't stay the same as time goes by even if the sex is great and everything is good....new is always more exciting (for good or bad)

KataMaStEr -- Follow your heart & mind. If you chose to the other girl, you've done so for a reason. A reason only you can understand. Like some peeps here have said, "Experiment and Experience" but, be safe!!!

You cannot live life constantly worring about other peoples feelings and emotions. You have to look out for #1! KataMaStEr!!
#1 has to be happy before he can make someone else happy.

Obviously something is missing in your current relationship and you need to respark it. If you love your girl, work at it and leave the other one for day dreaming! If you don't want to work with what you currently have, then move on with your feelings for this other girl.

Here, if you like this other girl and you want to get her attention. Don't do any of the following:

1. Don't come on too strong. : A woman knows when you are coming on strong, and chances are that she will either interpret it as desperation, or use it to manipulate you later on in the relationship if she does end up staying with you. You don't want to give her the impression that she is the absolute best you can do.

2. Don't become whipped: A woman needs a strong man that can take control of a situation. If you come across as an easily controlled mama's boy, then she'll likely never respect you. Make sure not to lose your identity either. You are who you are and she knew that when you got together.

3. Don't lose Control : As the man, you should initially start out with the overall control of the relationship, and as long as you maintain that control, you have, well, the control. Once you lose control, chances are she will expect you to spend less and less time with your friends.

4. Don't lose Confidence: Ask any woman and she'll tell you; a guy with confidence is a turn-on. But, if you end up losing confidence in yourself, it's likely she will do the same. If a woman does not have faith in your abilities as a man, then she will begin to lose the attraction that she once had for you. So make sure to hold your head up high at all times.

5. DONT LET SEX GET BORING!!!!!: Once your sex life becomes boring and predictable, the whole relationship will become boring. Keep it fresh and keep her interested at all costs. If she is always wondering what you are going to do to her next in bed, then she has no reason to fantasize about anyone else. Try surprising her by actually following through on some of her sexual fantasies. ***** This is probably TMI

6. Don't become insanely jealous: Let her know that you care, but don't become so jealous that she starts to resent you. If she had a couple of male friends before you began dating, then there is no real reason to get all worked up over it. What's acceptable in your relationship is up to both of you, so don't become too bossy or she will just use that as yet another reason to always be on your case. And if you can't accept her having male friends, then move on.


7. Don't talk too much: When she says that she wants to know everything you're thinking, she is wrong. That might be what she thinks she wants, but I know first-hand about the twisted thoughts that rummage through your mind, so take my advice; keep your mouth shut. When she asks if you were looking at another woman, deny it, or better yet, say, "What woman?"


AND 8 Keeo your Head up: No matter what you do, maintain spontaneity and use common sense, and you should be okay. Women don't want boring guys who don't think before they act. And remember; you have to be ready to adapt these basic ideas to any given situation at a moment's notice.

If you begin to question how you should react in a certain plight, just try to figure out which one of the 7 keys i brought up is best suited to the situation and adapt it. If it doesn't work, don't worry; there are plenty of women out there that you can mess up with.

KataMaStEr,

I say you drop both girls and go for Babsie...
After all, she lined the pavement for you already

Damn Satan you are bold, but to the point

Originally posted by TheGreatSatan
Get the other girl. Screw as many as you can, becuase once you're married you'll hate yourself for not doing just that. I promise.

Originally posted by Randy
KataMaStEr,

I say you drop both girls and go for Babsie...
After all, she lined the pavement for you already

He's a youngen. I go for the older more settled type

I can respect that Babsie

I thought you'd agree

You off work yet Babsie?
Happy Friday by the way

Nope still sitting here.......bored..

Back at ya bud

Sorry to hear your still at work Babsie
Well it could be worse ya know. You could be sitting at home with no work and no paycheck coming in.

Any exciting plans for the weekend?
Weather is still cold and miserable here.
I'm affraid anything I do this weekend will have to be indoors.

Originally posted by KataMaStEr
Guys and gals I really need your help. Believe or it this is probably the most serious question I have ever asked here. My girl friend and I have been together for almost a year, she is the sweetest thing I have ever been with. The last thing I would ever like to do is to hurt her. But I have known a girl in one of my classes for the past two-three months and I really feel attracted to her, something about her that I just don’t feel with my girl. This has been bothering me for the last few days; I don’t know what to do. I can’t go to sleep without thinking about it. I say to myself I’m going to stay with my girl but next day when I’m around the other girl it softens me. I have felt like this before but not to this extent, this is that felling of before x 100. I don’t know if I have a face to be able to end my relationship, doing that to her hurts. Maybe some you have been in the same spot I’m drowning right now, I don’t know if you can understand me but please take this seriously I really need your opinion on what would you do it you where me.

Ahhh...temptation ? before I was married someone once told me..."Don't buy before you try "that thought pondered on my mind for a long time...it did'nt mean that I ran out and did it with every guy possible , what I did was just follow my heart and feelings with similar situations that you have described ,in doing that I feel now that I'm married , it's all so good because I experienced how you say "the other side", all my desires fullfilled .I'm happily married to my hubby for now 12yrs!!!

I hope you were emplying you don't have work nor any income. That would be the pits, I agree.

Still here.......for about.....hmmmmmmmm 30 more mins I think. Should've been out of here. I have a couple things to complete in order to meet a deadline. I'd like to get it done now rather than answer for it come Monday. THAT my friend, wouldn't be such a good idea!

Nope, no exciting plans for the weekend. Gonna try to stay warm and work out.

Like you, I'm probably going to do things around the house. Like, cleaning, cooking, doing laundry & maybe do some craft making. I love making slate pieces. So much fun!

The cold wearther is bitterly cold. Hubby just called and said it's -6 outside.............AND I HAVE TO WARM MY CAR UP YET......

Wanna come get my keys and start it for me?

Bab's don't want to make you jealous but this side of Oz is warm and yummy...hey have a great weekend !!

Okay....just when you said you didn't want to make me jealous, you go and do just that

Wish I were there.

Hey. you have a great weekend also........Don't spend too much time out in the sun

yep - sunny and 70 here and my poor parents back east are freezing and buried in snow.

Thanks you all for all the comments, I’m still undecided on what I will do, I’ll let you all know when I make up my mind, for now I still have some thinking to do.

I agree with the go with your heart response. But make sure it is your heart that is leading you.

I would say that if you are even interested in the other girl, then the one you are with isn't the one for you. Sit your girl down and tell her how you feel. You don't have to tell her that you want someone else but tell her the truth-that maybe you aren't ready to be in a long term relationship. It might hurt right now, but it will be better than in the future when you have more invested in the relationship.

You know I made up my mind after a lot of headaches and I’m not going to change anything, I didn’t tell her anything. I think this is better if I keep it to myself. It’s not everyday you find a person like my girl, ending what we have would be plain stupid from my part and that’s FINAL.

Again that you all for the input I really appreciate it

Sounds like you made a good decision Kata....
Way to go.