Thread: Why does sex slow down?

It's a lack of open communication. There are 1,000,000 ways to spice things up so to speak. Most guys I meet are shy, quiet and reserved even though they claim to be great in bed. But when you try to communicate about what they/you want they suddenly don't have much to say. Lack of communication is my guess.

It is all you my friend. It is what you make it be. The fire of newness fades. It is up to you how to make sparks and create a new blaze.

Sometimes it is that way though too. The newness goes and there is nothing there between the two of ya to build with. It is called sexual incompatability. You want deep oral ... she gags at it. She likes a good muff diver ... you hate the smell or taste. You either work through it ... or see what's on HBO.

here is a question: is monogamy really natural?

if you think not, maybe that is the answer.

Interesting thought Prince...

Originally Posted by ponyboy

Do you think it is boredom? Or just familiarity? Or is it just not necessary to prove the relationship is strong?

d) all of the above.

you start getting used to them, and yhou want something new and exciting.

It never happened to me, but all my boys need something new every week....

you want something new? buy some handcuffs, buy a maids outfit, buy a 12 inch long dildo, etc. just because it is the same person doesnt mean it has to be boring.

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most def. I got bored and me and my hub start role playing!

Originally Posted by bulletproof1

you want something new? buy some handcuffs, buy a maids outfit, buy a 12 inch long dildo, etc. just because it is the same person doesnt mean it has to be boring.

www.adamandeve.com (for adults only)

And so my dear I'm loving the way you think again. (Kiss Kiss once again to another post of yours!)

im so glad at least 1 person i know cares about what i have to say.

Originally Posted by bulletproof1

im so glad at least 1 person i know cares about what i have to say.

LOL.. well you actually make sense in your posts.

wow i think thats the nicest thing anyones ever said to me ..... thats sad aint it lol.

my bad ...

wtf my name aint lucky luke

This may seem off the wall but - It isn't lack of communication that makes sex more infrequent or stale when it happens. It's communication. Something irrational comes out of her mouth and the thrill is gone.

Originally Posted by jack52

This may seem off the wall but - It isn't lack of communication that makes sex more infrequent or stale when it happens. It's communication. Something irrational comes out of her mouth and the thrill is gone.

keep a fire extinguisher close by jack. i have a feeling you might get flamed multiple times for that comment

I happen to disagree. LOL
Here's the idea:
You say fucked up things to each other, get pissed off, angry, hell even wrestle around a little and then you can have "Hard core, I hate you/I love you" all out loud make up sex???

Oh and PS Jack,
How would you know what she said... men never listen

Originally Posted by Flex

It never happened to me, but all my boys need something new every week....

there are highs and lows. sometimes its 3 times a day, sometimes it's once a week. i guess it depends on stress with other things in your life at the time- school, work, money, etc.

Originally Posted by BoneCrusher

my bad ...

no biggie on the mistake dude. i told her to hop on a plane too.

Cool ... felt like a Bonehead when I realised my bafooooonery.

I'm confused

you missed the post. he made a remark that we should get together ... he thought i was luke i think.

Originally Posted by Crono1000

there are highs and lows. sometimes its 3 times a day, sometimes it's once a week. i guess it depends on stress with other things in your life at the time- school, work, money, etc.

long story short...
my gf at the time had past probs, so we rarely fooled around. even though it was almost the same exact thing every time we did, it was still good cuz it was so few and far in b/w.

Originally Posted by shutupntra1n

Oh and PS Jack,
How would you know what she said... men never listen

We do listen my dear.....
Ever notice that "deer in the headlights" look that we give
when women ask "which is more important, me or that game?",
ever notice how WE know WE better not answer that question

Originally Posted by ponyboy

Normally in the beginning of a relationship after sex is introduced you go at it hot and heavy whenever possible several times a week if not several times a day.

Do you think it is boredom? Or just familiarity? Or is it just not necessary to prove the relationship is strong? Are there any couples out there who still go at it 5 times a week after years together? Please discuss.

Wow, "5 times a week after years together?", Well, I haven't hit the year mark yet, but I wish it was at least 3 times a week.

After a couple of months it starts to dwindle down.. I really dislike when that happens. Me personally, I want to do it all the time... before going to bed, or in the morning. If we go out, at different places.

I feel you need to make it fun for both of you, and change it up. But that's if your SO is into that too. If their not comfortable with it, or not interested, it makes it a bit more chellenging... If the couples are comfortable with each other, and understand each others needs in the world of sex, I believe it would last for years..

Originally Posted by DFINEST

We do listen my dear.....
Ever notice that "deer in the headlights" look that we give
when women ask "which is more important, me or that game?",
ever notice how WE know WE better not answer that question

Okay I see your point but your telling the wrong girl. I for one like to watch "the game", I sleep after sex (rarely cuddling), don't want my bf meeting my family so soon, don't want a ring until I'm over 40, hate shopping except for grocery shopping, hate cooking, don't like the color pink, love cars, don't mind burping or other bodily functions (be creative), love action movies, don't spend alot of time getting dressed to go anywhere, never cry, curse too much while drinking (im italian), like mags like fhm and dont care if my bf orders them by mail monthly, hate long phone conversations, don't like to be paid for or bought gifts without a holiday to account for it, don't want diamonds, hate gossip, don't watch the show Friends, rather watch cops, prefer my breasts to shrink, and well i think you get the point.

I for one understand the common woman well. She's everything I try not to be.

Originally Posted by shutupntra1n

Oh and PS Jack,
How would you know what she said... men never listen

Sorry for the delay answering it's not that I wasn't listening, I was doing UBWO and cardio and just got back. It's not that I don't love her, I do, but there's a time and place for telling me stupid stuff. And while I have your attention, How long do we need to hang around after the last time? Yeah I'm a sensitive guy!

Originally Posted by shutupntra1n

Okay I see your point but your telling the wrong girl. I for one like to watch "the game", I sleep after sex (rarely cuddling), don't want my bf meeting my family so soon, don't want a ring until I'm over 40, hate shopping except for grocery shopping, hate cooking, don't like the color pink, love cars, don't mind burping or other bodily functions (be creative), love action movies, don't spend alot of time getting dressed to go anywhere, never cry, curse too much while drinking (im italian), like mags like fhm and dont care if my bf orders them by mail monthly, hate long phone conversations, don't like to be paid for or bought gifts without a holiday to account for it, don't want diamonds, hate gossip, don't watch the show Friends, rather watch cops, prefer my breasts to shrink, and well i think you get the point.

I for one understand the common woman well. She's everything I try not to be.