Dating and sex

**AnnaDTX** · 10-28-2005, 02:45 PM

How many dates did you go on before you had sex?

**ponyboy** · 10-28-2005, 03:19 PM

Depends on the person. If when I was dating we hadn't progressed to the point where I knew we were going to have sex soon by three or four dates it wasn't worth my time. I've never had sex on the first date with someone but I have had sex with people you pick up at the bar first night...and then dated them afterwards...sometimes.

If you are physically attracted to someone and there is a connection...a REAL connection and the guy isn't just telling you what you want to hear...then why put a time limit on it? Sex is something to be enjoyed between two people who are physically attracted to each other IMO, not something that you need to freak out about.

Then again I seem to have different views than most.

**TJ Cline** · 10-28-2005, 03:25 PM

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**brian2440** · 10-28-2005, 03:26 PM

Originally Posted by ponyboy

Depends on the person. If when I was dating we hadn't progressed to the point where I knew we were going to have sex soon by three or four dates it wasn't worth my time. I've never had sex on the first date with someone but I have had sex with people you pick up at the bar first night...and then dated them afterwards...sometimes.

If you are physically attracted to someone and there is a connection...a REAL connection and the guy isn't just telling you what you want to hear...then why put a time limit on it? Sex is something to be enjoyed between two people who are physically attracted to each other IMO, not something that you need to freak out about.

Then again I seem to have different views than most.

I have to agree. If u are attracted to a person it is sometimes hard to wait a few dates before sleeping with them.

**lnvanry** · 10-28-2005, 03:44 PM

on average I would have to measure by time not the amount of dates....

I have never dated nor would I date someone who wouldn't have sex after 1month...If she isn't down w/ that, I would taper things off.

**brian2440** · 10-28-2005, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by lnvanry

on average I would have to measure by time not the amount of dates....

I have never dated nor would I date someone who wouldn't have sex after 1month...If she isn't down w/ that, I would taper things off.

If someone is waiting till marriage I respect that though.

**BritChick** · 10-28-2005, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by ponyboy

Depends on the person.

**TJ Cline** · 10-28-2005, 05:57 PM

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**Little Wing** · 10-28-2005, 06:49 PM

it depends on what you are looking for in life. if you are looking for a man that will love, respect and trust you i serouosly wouldn't reccomend sex on the 1st date type behavior but if you are just out to sow your wild oats so to speak go for it but be very careful n maybe give some though to down the road when you are looking for something lasting how are you going to feel when he asks about your past? men like to party w easy women but they rarely marry that type. (knowingly anyway)

**AnnaDTX** · 10-31-2005, 11:28 AM

well i definitly have wild oats but I dont want to be a . . slut. Gosh, I am having a hard time with this dating/sex stuff!!! Its been lonely, lonely, lonely! I definitly want a boyfriend, i miss feeling "giddy" but I dont want to just have a one night stand either. I dont want a f-buddy because I like all my friends as is, I dont want to have sex and ruin the friendship either. I know what I want, its just not happening, oh well until then I will workout my frustrations in the gym! At least the next time I hop in the sack I will look damn good!! HAHA (just kidding)

**The Monkey Man** · 10-31-2005, 11:48 AM

Just go ahead and pick a shy unsuspecting guy....

Then rock his world, but tell him "no strings"

Then keep him at arms length (for the callup)

**lnvanry** · 10-31-2005, 12:04 PM

Originally Posted by brian2440

If someone is waiting till marriage I respect that though.

sure I can respect that, but I would certainly not stick it out and wait X amount of years till marriage...What if she is a horrible lay. Sex isn't everything, but it is defintely something.

**Jodi** · 10-31-2005, 12:54 PM

Originally Posted by AnnaDTX

well i definitly have wild oats but I dont want to be a . . slut. Gosh, I am having a hard time with this dating/sex stuff!!! Its been lonely, lonely, lonely! I definitly want a boyfriend, i miss feeling "giddy" but I dont want to just have a one night stand either. I dont want a f-buddy because I like all my friends as is, I dont want to have sex and ruin the friendship either. I know what I want, its just not happening, oh well until then I will workout my frustrations in the gym! At least the next time I hop in the sack I will look damn good!! HAHA (just kidding)

OMG I so know how you feel

It sucks, I know, but whatever you do, make sure the person that you choose to give yourself to is going to be worthy. Once you find that person you will know it's time. No specific amount of dates will tell you when it's right, you will just know. It could the the 4th date, it may be the 20th date. Just make sure it's right. IMO such intimacy should be be a passionate moment and I don't feel you can truly have that passion unless you genuinely care for that person. I'm not saying love

but just care and the feeling that you do want to be with this person.

Dating sucks ass!

I think I forget what sex is

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 01:20 PM

get complete STD tests done before you become intimate!!!!

**Little Wing** · 10-31-2005, 01:37 PM

lonely is hard but regrets are worse. and stds the scary thing is knowing they are out to survive too n i guess they must mutate to do so because i recently read there are new strains of gonnoreah and syphylis that can't be cured. if you do become sexually active test test n retest n be very careful who you trust. n people who think a condom will protect you from everything are living at neverland.

**AnnaDTX** · 10-31-2005, 04:04 PM

And STDS are another thing I am scared of. Its just not worth it to me.

**Jeeper** · 10-31-2005, 08:32 PM

Just dont be a ho. I have dumped girls I liked because I found out how many guys they had been with. It would suck to meet someone you really were into and then they kick you to the curb since you are to easy.

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 08:34 PM

Originally Posted by Jeeper

Just dont be a ho. I have dumped girls I liked because I found out how many guys they had been with. It would suck to meet someone you really were into and then they kick you to the curb since you are to easy.

so how many is too much??

**PreMier** · 10-31-2005, 08:38 PM

I dont wanna know a womans sexual history.. I mean Im always curious, but some stones are better left un turned.

I dont know how long to wait. If its someone I really like, maybe 2-3 months.

**jasone** · 10-31-2005, 09:32 PM

Originally Posted by AnnaDTX

How many dates did you go on before you had sex?

Well, I was 22 years old that summer. I started dating when I was about 16. A new girl every month. There must have been a hundred dates or so between 16 and 22. I was such a religious zealot then. I couldn't help it, I was too weak, I'm such a slut now.

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 09:34 PM

Originally Posted by PreMier

I dont wanna know a womans sexual history.. I mean Im always curious, but some stones are better left un turned.

I dont know how long to wait. If its someone I really like, maybe 2-3 months.

Thats just crazy talk

1 month tops

**jasone** · 10-31-2005, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by AnnaDTX

How many dates did you go on before you had sex?

Well, I was 22 years old that summer. I started dating when I was about 16. A new girl every month. There must have been a hundred dates or so between 16 and 22. I was such a religious zealot then. I couldn't help it, I was too weak, I'm such a slut now.

They like me better that way.

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 09:38 PM

Originally Posted by jasone

Well, I was 22 years old that summer. I started dating when I was about 16. A new girl every month. There must have been a hundred dates or so between 16 and 22. I was such a religious zealot then. I couldn't help it, I was too weak, I'm such a slut now.

They like me better that way.

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 09:39 PM

Originally Posted by jasone

Well, I was 22 years old that summer. I started dating when I was about 16. A new girl every month. There must have been a hundred dates or so between 16 and 22. I was such a religious zealot then. I couldn't help it, I was too weak, I'm such a slut now.

:

**jasone** · 10-31-2005, 09:45 PM

Im confused, what just happened with my post?

**TJ Cline** · 10-31-2005, 09:46 PM

Originally Posted by jasone

Im confused, what just happened with my post?

**PreMier** · 11-01-2005, 09:44 PM

**BritChick** · 11-01-2005, 10:15 PM

Originally Posted by PreMier

I dont wanna know a womans sexual history.

Kinda interesting how some people want to know this stuff and others not... my husband asked me one question about my sexual history and before I had time to answer said he'd changed his mind and didn't want to know.

His only 'knowledge' that I have a past at all is the evidence by way of my two kids!

**Jeeper** · 11-02-2005, 10:40 AM

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

so how many is too much??

I wouldn't say there is a specific number. I am more interested that the girl wasn't a ho out having one night stands, or being someones booty call. It just denotes that they have likely have other emotional issues. I don't see an issue with having sex if you had a relationship, just don't be a bar girl that goes home with slimy bar guys and then ends up on the curb in the morning.

**TJ Cline** · 11-02-2005, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by Jeeper

I wouldn't say there is a specific number. I am more interested that the girl wasn't a ho out having one night stands, or being someones booty call. It just denotes that they have likely have other emotional issues. I don't see an issue with having sex if you had a relationship, just don't be a bar girl that goes home with slimy bar guys and then ends up on the curb in the morning.

I agree with this....most people men or women who sleep with 50, 60, 70 people or more by 24 have other issues they are dealing with. The last thing you want is an emotional cripple or a walking STD.

I think it depends on your age....my basic rule is if she slept with more people than I did she is a tramp..........because I am/was.

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