Thread: Is cyber sex cheating?

Originally posted by Mudge
Shitty loser poetry?

Hey what can I say?

Cyber sex isnt cheating untill physical contact is made. I think of it in the same caterogy as porn, or masterbating. Your girlfriend/wife/etc. does what to see it or know it is happening.

Originally posted by bigss75
Cyber sex isnt cheating untill physical contact is made. I think of it in the same caterogy as porn, or masterbating. Your girlfriend/wife/etc. does what to see it or know it is happening.

Uh Oh Bigss! MMAFITER is gonna rip you apart! I said the same thing and he ended up writing a "NOVEL" Anyone have a titled for his book below?? KUSO? Dero?


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Originally posted by davidjasondean
It's a very debatable subject. I'd have to say, "no" until there is a physical encounter with that person. However, if it starts overridding your personal life with your spouse leading to conflict, it's not the greatest thing in the world!
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So, as long as there'e no touching it's ok? How about if your girlfriend and I sat across from each other on the couch and masterbated while talking dirty to each other and expressing our undying love for each other? Still ok with that? There's no touching.

To me, cybersex is the same as the above scenario. And it gets even worse when the two people start giving out personal information, such as home phone numbers, addresses, etc. What do you need that info for? Are you gonna call each other? Meet? If you meet, what are you meeting for? Usually people will say "I just want to talk face to face." I doubt it. You've been talking to this guy for months, and masterbating like a champ. And you expect me to believe you are going through with the expense/time of meeting in person just to talk? Yeah right.

I wouldn't mind cybersex so much if it was just that. Like porn. But it invariably becomes more. The two start saying they "love" each other. The guy starts writing shitty loser poetry, professing how she is his soul mate, she tells him all her problems, He says he wished he wasn't married and wasn't an old man, etc.

Both people are putting on thier best "face" when they are online, and more and more the real relationships seem inadequate. How the fuck can you compete with a person who sits on thier ass all day thinking up bullshit to make themselves seem interesting? The answer is you can't

The only solace you can takke is if your real relationship is destroyed by cybersex cheating, the two people that destroyed so much are so fucked up in the head, thier relationship is bound to screw up eventually. In which case your spouse comes looking for you again because they see what they threw away, and you get to give them the big "FUCK YOU! Have a nice life."

i think the bottom line is you need to put yourself in your significant others/spouses shoes. How would you feel if they were communicatiing the way you are online. If you would be ok with it, then all is good, if you would be pissed, then maybe you should change the tone of your conversations.

Originally posted by Leslie2196
i think the bottom line is you need to put yourself in your significant others/spouses shoes. How would you feel if they were communicatiing the way you are online. If you would be ok with it, then all is good, if you would be pissed, then maybe you should change the tone of your conversations.

Hence that thought, I must add that if your partner is ignoring you or uh, masterbating night in and night out etc. then it becomes VERY bothersome! I guess, once it starts stealing time from the other who truly loves you then, that's when it should stop.

here's a good rule to follow. when you are in a relationship don't do anything that it would hurt you to have your significant other do. it's called respect. not only should you respect your mate but self respect is not such a bad thing to have. i really doubt there are a lot of people out there who would want their lover sexually involved with another person in any way. now if there were a chat engine like robot cyber maybe it'd be different but come on, there is a person on the other end of cyber n if it isn't your partner it's sleazy.

I think it's cheating but it's okay

If it is something you can not tell your spouse you are doing - it is cheating period.

Originally Posted by Vince2005

I think it's cheating but it's okay

yer...
Its fine, if your getting what you want instead of what you cant get out of your own relationship... Ive done it with someone who was married, mind you they were only just married.. so I guess in that sense its bad- why the hell did he marry her???!?! But I think it can be cheating, my even just thoughts is cheating, so if you do that, then talk dirty, then visualise and make some sort of contact... then why not go all the way. Its a waste if you dont.. you get nowhere but fricken more hornier.... mmmmm... like I am now...

i agree with MMA but i dont really care she'll get 5 across the eye if she pulls that jk!

Originally Posted by YourallIwant

yer...
Its fine, if your getting what you want instead of what you cant get out of your own relationship... Ive done it with someone who was married, mind you they were only just married.. so I guess in that sense its bad- why the hell did he marry her???!?! But I think it can be cheating, my even just thoughts is cheating, so if you do that, then talk dirty, then visualise and make some sort of contact... then why not go all the way. Its a waste if you dont.. you get nowhere but fricken more hornier.... mmmmm... like I am now...

My dreamgirl!

I think the concept of 'cheating' depends entirely upon the people in the relationship. I've been married to my wife for almost 13 years, and we've defined cheating as "Anything that you'r partner can't deal with you doing" ... so in a nutshell, if you're wife would freak out about it, then it's most likely cheating.

There are couples who actually have sex with other people, and if they're all OK with it, then I don't see anything wrong with it, but if you're wife has a problem with you looking at porn, then that's cheating.

To wrap it up, I think that anything you would have to hide from your spouse, would be considered cheating .. but then again .. that's just me ..