Vieope

FURtherness

Little Wing

it won't be pleasant but tell him soon. i'm glad you cleared up what happened cuz just the question made me want to puke.

Little Wing

if your son has a really good sense of humor he could wait till him n this girl are around her mother n then he could rub the mothers hand n come on to her in an over the top obviously you're busted bitch way... this girl is a disgusting pig get rid of her fast.

juggernaut

I got a shitty job ahead of me.

Little Wing

yea i'm sorry. my daughter is 14 n a kid w a broken heart will break your's but it's better to let him know he can count on you to do the right thing.

joesmooth20

do the chick's mom

BulkMeUp

But i would start by trying to find out how serious he is about her presently. Based on that you can take tha conversation in a certain way. If he is not very serious then a conversation on how she is not good for him. If he is very serious, then he needs to know the kind of person he is getting serious with.

PreMier

Well, start the recording, then he can act hesitant.. then turn the recording off and then do her. Then let his son hear it, so she gets dumped, and his dad is the hero

P-side Inc.

"the post-workout high is more profound than any drug-induced rush imaginable." -Dante B.

juggernaut

I got more problems: He friggin likes her a lot. I brought it up around breakfast. I also asked (painfully) if he fooled around at all and thankfully he said no. So, I said make sure you really like this girl becuase you dont know anything about her. He asked what I meant, and I told him because with all the crazy shit going on these days you never know. He said okay. SO heres where I stand, it doesnt seem like he banged her yet-it does seem like hes on the way. I need to get his mother involved. This is fucking crazy.

BigDyl

If I was your son, I'd kill you.


Infact I think I'll inform him of this.

Total ownage.

Vieope

FURtherness

lioness

What a slut!

I'm not sure what I'd do. But, this is what I've seen:

When somebody tries to tell a friend/relative that the person they are in love with...is bad news...then the person who is trying to tell the truth...ALMOST ALWAYS gets blamed somehow!

Maybe that's just my experience. I've tried to tell friends their BFs were inappropriate with me...I even saved the emails one guy sent (b/c my BF at the time said it was a good idea)...she still blamed me for a long time...over a year. She's just now telling me she's sorry...he was a loser.

This is in the case of actual cheating...When you try to tell your son what's going on...my guess is...YOU are gonna somehow get blamed. Either way...he's gonna resent you for years to come!

Ask his mother? Sounds like a good idea. She might help him see this gal clearly in other ways...without it being about YOU.

Time reveals all things. Stay away from her. If/when he mentions to you or his mother that he is having doubts about her character...you both can encourage him by telling him what wisdom he has to see these things....

I'm not saying you shouldn't tell him. Just throwing a few thoughts I haven't seen posted yet. Good luck! This sucks!

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
~Anais Nin

juggernaut

shut up bitch.

Little Wing

take a deep breath n blurt it out. flat out tell him she came on to you. this isn't a time for games or hoping for the best. she could give him any number of diseases let alone tearing up his emotions onces he's even deeper than he is now. if it was a guy i really liked hitting on my mom it'd hurt yea but her not telling me would be the more painful betrayal... start by telling him you have wrestled with this and don't want to hurt him but that you love him too much to treat him like a child who needs to be protected from painful truths. that you respect that he is becoming a man and is prepared to take on some of lifes harder realities. tell him.

juggernaut

I'm doing it tonight.

MyK

keep us posted, and remember, your doing the right thing!

Scott17

Ya good luck man. I hope he doesn't take it to hard.

Let me describe the perfect date: I take her out to a nice dinner. She looks amazing. Some guy tries to hit on her... now he wants to fight - so I grab him - I throw him into the jukebox! Then the other ninja’s got a knife, he comes at me, we grapple, I turn his knife on him. Blood on the dance floor. She’s scared now. I take her home. I’m holding her in my arms. I reach in for a kiss... I hear something in the leaves, I flip her around, she gets a poison arrow right in her back. She was in on it the whole time... but I knew...

juggernaut

he took it hard. I just spit it out and guess who happened to call just as I was dropping the thermonuclear time bomb...the skank!!! He thought at first I was kidding. Then his face turned red, and he accepted it. I told him I didnt want him to hate me because this happened, but I didnt want him to get any godforbid diseases from this broad. He anwers his cell and is on for about a minute. He hangs up with her and says hes going to dump her ass to the curb.
Fast forward an hour later-probaly the most excruciating hour in my life. He tells me hes okay, he told her what i said she might try-the fucking douchebag tries to turn the tables on me , saying I did it first-total bullshit. He said to her you have ten seconds to get away from me before I send in my cousin to remove you from my sight (this cunt happens to be petrified of my niece-shes a bodybuilder in on season training)...she comes in anyway, tells hells her to leave. Now. and dont go around making tales of my uncle. Otherwise she'd find her.
This puts a smile on his face as he tells me this. It was this that told me hes going to be fine. My niece calls me and told me the entire story. He did cry a little to her but by the time he got home he was better. So, I did what Bill Cosby would do. I dropped some money on the table and told him to be at home by 1am. He gives me a kiss goodbye and I said to myself-shit hes getting like me.

Little Wing

good job. i'm glad it went well. he sounds like a great kid who's going to set some fine standards for the women in his life. must have learned a lot from his dad.

juggernaut

I made some mistakes but I did pretty good.

MyK

nice!

min0 lee

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home dad?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok"
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then

juggernaut

min0 lee

The song is about how a son becomes much like his father, it's an old song.

juggernaut

i know dat....but my kid is da shit!!!

min0 lee