Performance Anxiety

Crono1000 · 01-01-2008, 07:36 PM

oh man, how did I miss this thread

Now I can't wait till I see you walking around the streets of campus

It sounds like you got some solid advice though. Don't jerk it so much, are you sure you're attracted to her, and are you sure you're attracted to chicks. I'm not doubting you or anything, just throwing the idea out there.

I have a similar story I guess. I once knew a chick who was smoking hot but I could never crank one out to her without trying way too hard than I should have (crank one out solo mind you, I'm in a relationship and have no plans to mess that up). It was all so strange cuz she was like perfect, and I'd get so mad at my dick for not cooperating. It's gotta be mental man.

AKIRA · 01-02-2008, 09:45 AM

This girl is really fucking hot..and she looked her hottest on our last night together.

I was continuing to think about it...I did end up fucking her..twice, so I am not in that bad of a boat. However, the blowjob necessity is still there. Then AGAIN, I didnt need it the FIRST of the two times..

I wanted to fuck her again in the morning, but she was asleep. I wanted to touch her and, well, kiss her, but I didnt feel like fondling her and I couldnt kiss her cuz of morning breath. I was half hard almost the entire time...I suppose her not being in the mood turned me off(?)

A Black Guy · 01-02-2008, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I didnt feel like fondling her

Unacceptable.

FitnessRubber · 01-02-2008, 02:24 PM

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

KelJu · 01-02-2008, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by FitnessRubber

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

I would love to hear your source on this? Did you hear this one hanging around the cracker barrel?

HialeahChico305 · 01-02-2008, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by FitnessRubber

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

actually after a good work out I feel like fucking anything that walks on two legs ( anything without a tail in the front that is). I tought working out actually boosts you self esteem and gives you better performance in bed.

KelJu · 01-02-2008, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by HialeahChico305

actually after a good work out I feel like fucking anything that walks on two legs ( anything without a tail in the front that is). I tought working out actually boosts you self esteem and gives you better performance in bed.

There is science that backs up everything you were saying. I just felt like being a smart ass. Anyway, the comment the guy made is typically made by people who are jealous of others who have worked hard in the gym and look good.

AKIRA · 01-02-2008, 05:38 PM

Yeah after I work out I am hornier than usual and I know why.
Guess I shoulda worked out huh?

HialeahChico305 · 01-02-2008, 06:01 PM

yea either that or rigth after you wake up......her morning breath might turn ya off though so try to avoid toungue wrestling lol

evanps · 01-02-2008, 06:41 PM

Congratulations, you've conditioned yourself to have a limp dick. It worked for you one time and now, whether you consciously see it or not, you think you need it every time to get hard for this girl. Couple that with the stress this is causing and you've got quite a nasty little cycle goin there. I say stop lettin her blow you unless you're already hard and fuck her as often as you can. The more you're doin it without your BJ crutch the better it'll get.

That said I'll tell you why I believe this. I dated a girl in high school whom I had very little chance to bone in private so we had to sneak around her house and do so. I swear to you I got to the point where I didn't even wanna tough her unless someone else was around. Took me forever to develop any kind of desire for her when we were alone. Very weird what your mind can do.

A Black Guy · 01-02-2008, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by HialeahChico305

yea either that or rigth after you wake up......her morning breath might turn ya off though so try to avoid toungue wrestling lol

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

ReproMan · 01-03-2008, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

AKIRA · 01-04-2008, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

I was already in her when I noticed her breath...then the next day I coudlnt get it up for the same reason...oh and I had the hang over of the century.

A Black Guy · 01-04-2008, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I was already in her when I noticed her breath.

Classic.

Burner02 · 01-04-2008, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I was already in her when I noticed her breath...then the next day I coudlnt get it up for the same reason...oh and I had the hang over of the century.

dang, that's when you flip her and rear mount! Do we have to coach ya on all things????

maniclion · 01-05-2008, 12:43 PM

It's your ego, the disillusionment of your sexual self is dominating your will to bring pleasure to anothers life. Don't force any demands on your monument or it will not function properly, let the primal animalistic urges bring the uprising.....also look into tantric instruction, one of my exes were into that and she taught me a lot about sexuality....

Mista · 01-10-2008, 03:55 PM

This has happened to me and im only 21.

It started being drunk every time I met a chick, and thought that was the problem, then after that happening a few times and talking to friends I convinced myself something was wrong.

I went to the doctors and she was pretty sure it was in my head but wanted to do blood tests. I hate needles and convinced her to give me a sample cialis just so I could get it up before I went away. It worked, I got it up. Then again when I was away no worries.

Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen.

AKIRA · 01-10-2008, 03:57 PM

I dont understand your very last line..

Mista · 01-10-2008, 04:02 PM

"Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen."

I went to the docs before my holiday now i'm home again. The girl knows the right things to do to turn me on. Once I knew I could get it up, it didn't seem to be a problem.

Understand?

AKIRA · 01-10-2008, 05:59 PM

Ahhh. See, when I have a girlfriend...Ill eventually have sex with HER numerous times, so the anxiety is non-existent.

Kinda like being dragged out to the dance floor. For the first couple of minutes, youre stiff as a board, but after a while, you loosen up cuz you realize its not a big deal and nobody will make fun of you. (well, if youre within a crowd)

A Black Guy · 01-10-2008, 06:10 PM

I wish dancing was as easy as getting hard...

ReproMan · 01-10-2008, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I wish dancing was as easy as getting hard...

Too bad he can't do that either.

A Black Guy · 01-10-2008, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by ReproMan

Too bad he can't do that either.

Well it's a damn good thing he can sing....wait...

Burner02 · 01-11-2008, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

Ahhh. See, when I have a girlfriend...Ill eventually have sex with HER numerous times, so the anxiety is non-existent.

Kinda like being dragged out to the dance floor. For the first couple of minutes, youre stiff as a board, but after a while, you loosen up cuz you realize its not a big deal and nobody will make fun of you. (well, if youre within a crowd)

actually...when was a bouncer in a night club...we'd see the guys who really couldn't dance...and make fun of them...
sorry...well, there's hope: You can join a planet fitness and at least won't be judged there...

A Black Guy · 01-11-2008, 01:21 PM

What about never getting all the way hard during oral?

TrojanMan60563 · 01-11-2008, 08:38 PM

Maybe you are gay? Ever tried to see if you have that problem with a male?

j/k

I would go with eat some pussy...more foreplay. It sound to me unless you leave out a lot of details you do nothing to get her excited...its just about you getting hard or getting head? I personally get more turned on my pleasing the girl I'm with...and nothing helps you get more relaxed then eating her pussy and making her cum all before the sex starts. That takes ALL the pressure off the situation when you know you've finished the job before you ever got started. In her book you are the man, and you should be relaxed and ready to bone after that.

I've only had that issue when I am not really digging the girl I'm fucking, or I've already came and the interest isn't enough to make the effort for round two. I don't really have issues with round one unless I prolong it too much and lose the feeling. Then its like starting over from the beginning of round two.

01-01-2008, 07:36 PM	#31
Crono1000 Peelosopher Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 5,600 Photos: 11	BODYBUILDING SUPPLEMENTS High Quality Supplements For Bodybuilders and Athletes. www.ironmaglabs.com oh man, how did I miss this thread Now I can't wait till I see you walking around the streets of campus It sounds like you got some solid advice though. Don't jerk it so much, are you sure you're attracted to her, and are you sure you're attracted to chicks. I'm not doubting you or anything, just throwing the idea out there. I have a similar story I guess. I once knew a chick who was smoking hot but I could never crank one out to her without trying way too hard than I should have (crank one out solo mind you, I'm in a relationship and have no plans to mess that up). It was all so strange cuz she was like perfect, and I'd get so mad at my dick for not cooperating. It's gotta be mental man.

01-02-2008, 09:45 AM	#32
AKIRA I am Rollo Tomassee.. Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Outside the box Posts: 7,494 Photos: 3	This girl is really fucking hot..and she looked her hottest on our last night together. I was continuing to think about it...I did end up fucking her..twice, so I am not in that bad of a boat. However, the blowjob necessity is still there. Then AGAIN, I didnt need it the FIRST of the two times.. I wanted to fuck her again in the morning, but she was asleep. I wanted to touch her and, well, kiss her, but I didnt feel like fondling her and I couldnt kiss her cuz of morning breath. I was half hard almost the entire time...I suppose her not being in the mood turned me off(?)
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01-02-2008, 02:24 PM	#34
FitnessRubber Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 178	I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.
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01-02-2008, 05:38 PM	#38
AKIRA I am Rollo Tomassee.. Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Outside the box Posts: 7,494 Photos: 3	Yeah after I work out I am hornier than usual and I know why. Guess I shoulda worked out huh?
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01-10-2008, 03:57 PM	#48
AKIRA I am Rollo Tomassee.. Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Outside the box Posts: 7,494 Photos: 3	I dont understand your very last line..
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01-02-2008, 06:01 PM	#39
HialeahChico305 focused on the prize Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Miami Posts: 847 Photos: 9	yea either that or rigth after you wake up......her morning breath might turn ya off though so try to avoid toungue wrestling lol

01-02-2008, 06:41 PM	#40
evanps Member Elite Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Ky Posts: 173	Congratulations, you've conditioned yourself to have a limp dick. It worked for you one time and now, whether you consciously see it or not, you think you need it every time to get hard for this girl. Couple that with the stress this is causing and you've got quite a nasty little cycle goin there. I say stop lettin her blow you unless you're already hard and fuck her as often as you can. The more you're doin it without your BJ crutch the better it'll get. That said I'll tell you why I believe this. I dated a girl in high school whom I had very little chance to bone in private so we had to sneak around her house and do so. I swear to you I got to the point where I didn't even wanna tough her unless someone else was around. Took me forever to develop any kind of desire for her when we were alone. Very weird what your mind can do.

01-05-2008, 12:43 PM	#46
maniclion Catalyst Elite Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Hawaii, selling munitions for the war on EcoTerror Posts: 17,364 Photos: 10	It's your ego, the disillusionment of your sexual self is dominating your will to bring pleasure to anothers life. Don't force any demands on your monument or it will not function properly, let the primal animalistic urges bring the uprising.....also look into tantric instruction, one of my exes were into that and she taught me a lot about sexuality....

01-10-2008, 03:55 PM	#47
Mista Registered User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Adelaide Posts: 2,261	This has happened to me and im only 21. It started being drunk every time I met a chick, and thought that was the problem, then after that happening a few times and talking to friends I convinced myself something was wrong. I went to the doctors and she was pretty sure it was in my head but wanted to do blood tests. I hate needles and convinced her to give me a sample cialis just so I could get it up before I went away. It worked, I got it up. Then again when I was away no worries. Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen.

01-10-2008, 04:02 PM	#49
Mista Registered User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Adelaide Posts: 2,261	"Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen." I went to the docs before my holiday now i'm home again. The girl knows the right things to do to turn me on. Once I knew I could get it up, it didn't seem to be a problem. Understand?

01-10-2008, 05:59 PM	#50
AKIRA I am Rollo Tomassee.. Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Outside the box Posts: 7,494 Photos: 3	Ahhh. See, when I have a girlfriend...Ill eventually have sex with HER numerous times, so the anxiety is non-existent. Kinda like being dragged out to the dance floor. For the first couple of minutes, youre stiff as a board, but after a while, you loosen up cuz you realize its not a big deal and nobody will make fun of you. (well, if youre within a crowd)
	6' 209lbs (8/16) Bench 360 (11/29) Weighted Pullups 80lbs 3x3 (3/19) Squat 370 Deadlift after herniation 385lbs 3x3 (3/17) NASM certified 2/06 Journal

01-10-2008, 06:10 PM	#51
A Black Guy Registered Offender Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Fort Pierce, FL Posts: 678 Photos: 1	I wish dancing was as easy as getting hard...

01-11-2008, 01:21 PM	#55
A Black Guy Registered Offender Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Fort Pierce, FL Posts: 678 Photos: 1	What about never getting all the way hard during oral?

01-11-2008, 08:38 PM	#56
TrojanMan60563 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: The U-S of A Posts: 2,893 Photos: 1	Maybe you are gay? Ever tried to see if you have that problem with a male? j/k I would go with eat some pussy...more foreplay. It sound to me unless you leave out a lot of details you do nothing to get her excited...its just about you getting hard or getting head? I personally get more turned on my pleasing the girl I'm with...and nothing helps you get more relaxed then eating her pussy and making her cum all before the sex starts. That takes ALL the pressure off the situation when you know you've finished the job before you ever got started. In her book you are the man, and you should be relaxed and ready to bone after that. I've only had that issue when I am not really digging the girl I'm fucking, or I've already came and the interest isn't enough to make the effort for round two. I don't really have issues with round one unless I prolong it too much and lose the feeling. Then its like starting over from the beginning of round two.
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01-11-2008, 10:43 PM	#57
AKIRA I am Rollo Tomassee.. Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Outside the box Posts: 7,494 Photos: 3 <