How do I stop prematurely ejaculating?

Partyposer · 06-10-2008, 05:14 PM

I mentioned posed this question in the "foreplay" thread. Just I usually just get too excited during foreplay and explode all over myself and on my love interest. Anyone have any suggestions on how to curtail this?

NordicNacho · 06-10-2008, 05:37 PM

paxil

Rubes · 06-10-2008, 06:10 PM

start jackin off alot untill you get your endurance up or something.

min0 lee · 06-10-2008, 06:23 PM

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It's possible that your husband's premature ejaculation has gotten him so down that he's withdrawing from sex. If so, that can be easily remedied. Quite often, when a man gains good ejaculatory control, he suddenly becomes much more interested in sex. And even if he doesn't, it might be nicer for both of you if he lasted longer.

Faced with premature ejaculation, most men try to distract themselves during intercourse, believing that by thinking about other things, they can trick themselves into lasting longer. Usually, that only makes things worse.

Don't tune out your body. TUNE INTO IT. You need to become more familiar with your different levels of sexual arousal. You also need to recognize how you feel as you approach your point of ejaculatory inevitability, the "point of no return." Once you recognize how you feel close to your point of no return, it's not difficult to make small sexual adjustments that allow you to remain highly aroused without ejaculating.

Sexual arousal is a four-phase process. In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins. In the Plateau Stage, erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused. When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation. Then during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides. The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.

To learn ejaculatory control:

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Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.
Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to premature ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches). The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at -- their point of no return, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis, and you last longer.
Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.
Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. But many men fight it. They think they should stay in control by not breathing deeply and making the little love-moan sounds that go along with it. But when men work to control their breathing, they often sacrifice ejaculatory control. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their premature ejaculation.
Start with masturbation with a dry hand. By varying how you caress your penis, you can learn to stay highly aroused for quite a while without coming. When you feel yourself approaching your point of no return, simply back off a bit, stroke yourself more gently or not at all, and stay aroused without ejaculating. Then as you feel yourself getting a little distance from your point of no return, return to more vigorous self-stimulation. Repeat this several times over several sessions. Approach your point of no return, then back off. For most men, it doesn't take long to develop good ejaculatory control while alone.
Then move on to masturbation with a lubricated hand. Use saliva, vegetable oil, or a commercial sexual lubricant. For most people, lubricants increase the sensual intensity of erotic fondling. Follow the same program: Masturbate until you approach your point of no return, then back off. Repeat this several times over several sessions.
Once you have good control during masturbation, and appreciate whole-body sensuality, and feel comfortable breathing deeply during lovemaking, then you're ready for the couples program -- if you're in a couple. The couple approach is called the "Stop-Start Technique." First, arrange "stop" and "start" signals with your lover, for example, a light pinch or tap, or a tug on an ear.
Then, your lover strokes your penis by hand as you lie still. When you approach your point of no return, give the "stop" signal. Your lover immediately stops stroking you and simply holds your penis gently, as you continue to breathe deeply and pays close attention to the sensations you're feeling. When you no longer feels close to ejaculation, gives the "start" signal, and your lover begins stroking you again. How many stops and starts should you do? A half-dozen over a 15-minute period works well for most couples. Do what feels comfortable for you.

With stop-start, the focus is on the man. He's the one learning the new skill. But don't forget the woman's sensual needs. As part of each practice session, she might guide your hand over her to show you what she likes.

Once you've gained good ejaculatory control with your lover's hand, try the same stop-start procedure with oral caresses. Again, you begin by lying still.

Once you've gained good control orally, feel free to start moving. You're making love again -- but now you have ejaculatory control. Congratulations.

Here are some other suggestions for lasting longer:

The man-on-top (missionary) position can be fun, but it's harder for most men to control their ejaculatory timing, because they have to hold themselves up. Try making love with the woman on top. This position is more relaxing for men, and it often helps ejaculatory control.
Make some noise. Love moans help men (and women) relax, and they often help men last longer.
It's important to understand that learning ejaculatory control takes time and practice. You may feel a little awkward along the way. Try to maintain a sense of humor about any accidental spills.
Some penile skin creams advertise that they help a man last longer. These products contain topical anesthetics that dull sensation in the penis. If you like to play with penile sensation, there's no harm in using them. But they're not a good idea for learning to last longer. They dull sensation. But the key to lasting longer is for the man to become more familiar with what he feels so he can back off from his point of no return while still remaining highly aroused.
Finally, the program we recommend for learning ejaculatory control is very likely to provide your lover with greater sexual enjoyment -- but not just because you last longer. Women generally prefer leisurely, playful, whole-body, massage-oriented sensuality that includes the genitals but is not limited to them. Women's main complaints about men's sexual style are that it's too rushed, too mechanical, too eager for intercourse, and that it focuses only on the breasts and genitals. Women generally feel that the whole body is a sensual playground and can't understand why so many men explore only a few corners of it. Like women, penises generally prefer leisurely, playful, whole-body, massage-oriented lovemaking. The rushed, penis-centered, intercourse-fixated sex style puts a lot of pressure on the penis, and leads to premature ejaculation. But when men make love the way women prefer, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis and you last longer. Basically, if men would make love the way women prefer, women would have fewer complaints, and men would have fewer sex problems.

min0 lee · 06-10-2008, 06:26 PM

Try this, if you do ejaculate try not to do it in her.
After you ejaculate just keep trying again till you get it hard. The first cum is always the fastest but after that you should last a little longer.

Mista · 06-10-2008, 06:32 PM

You could rub one out half an hour before you have sex.

**Gazhole** · 06-10-2008, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Mista

You could rub one out half an hour before you have sex.

Even on the same day helps.

If you've got a date in the evening, knock one out in the morning.

min0 lee · 06-10-2008, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mista

You could rub one out half an hour before you have sex.

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Originally Posted by Gazhole

Even on the same day helps.

If you've got a date in the evening, knock one out in the morning.

I remember this advice given in the movie Something About Mary ....the result.

Crono1000 · 06-10-2008, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Gazhole

Even on the same day helps.

If you've got a date in the evening, knock one out in the morning.

**Gazhole** · 06-10-2008, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

I remember this advice given in the movie Something About Mary ....the result.

HialeahChico305 · 06-10-2008, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by NordicNacho

paxil

dude, my dad use to take that crap.......that shit aint no joke lol. I took it once and felt like shit, dint feel like doing anything but laying down and crashing. For sure you wont feel like fucking with that shit on your system.

Partyposer · 06-12-2008, 07:08 PM

Rub one off before hand. I guess I should give that a shot. I let you know what happens tonight.

DaMayor · 06-12-2008, 08:32 PM

Print a small copy of THIS.....

hide it in the palm of your hand during sex with that hottie, and if you start to lose control, whip it out and take a quick glance at it.

Odds are it will take you at least four hours to regain your erection, if ever again.

But hey, no pre-mature stuff, right?

Mista · 06-12-2008, 08:56 PM

Lol at your avi ^

HialeahChico305 · 06-12-2008, 11:15 PM

LMAO at DAmayors avi..........

min0 lee · 06-13-2008, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by DaMayor

Print a small copy of THIS.....

?

He looks like one of those midgits from the wizard of Oz.

Art · 06-13-2008, 06:54 AM

If you feel it coming on you can change positions for a short
break without letting on why you're doing it.

**Gazhole** · 06-13-2008, 11:56 AM

My picture will be famous among the pre-ejac men of the world!

Maybe im the cure for premature ejaculation, it would explain why its never happened to me. Touch wood. Mmm.

Partyposer · 06-13-2008, 04:37 PM

Haha that pic was hilarious!

Yeah so I rubbed one off about 40 minutes before the deed. My woman was wondering what I was doing in the bathroom. "Hold on - I'll be out in a second - this should fix our problem". She goes: "Why don't you beat off while your in there - and then maybe I'll get some satisfaction". I though that was funny - she already knew the solution.

Anyway - It worked!
Thanks All!

NeilPearson · 06-13-2008, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Partyposer

Haha that pic was hilarious!

Yeah so I rubbed one off about 40 minutes before the deed. My woman was wondering what I was doing in the bathroom. "Hold on - I'll be out in a second - this should fix our problem". She goes: "Why don't you beat off while your in there - and then maybe I'll get some satisfaction". I though that was funny - she already knew the solution.

Anyway - It worked!
Thanks All!

lol, are you really 31?

min0 lee · 06-13-2008, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

He looks like one of those midgits from the wizard of Oz.

Partyposer · 06-13-2008, 05:56 PM

I don't get the midgets??? Did I miss something?

Art · 06-13-2008, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

He looks like one of those midgits from the wizard of Oz.

Coz the pic posted a few posts back was supposed to turn you off.

rick22 · 07-13-2008, 04:50 AM

theres some technique to stop premature ejaculation..
i think its something to do with holding the penis from the nerve..
you should consult a doc.. for this matter.

Floods7 · 03-19-2009, 04:28 PM

pull on your balls, HAHA .... but seriously no joke. when you go to change positions pull on your balls for about 5-8 sec before going back in. It really works.. sounds funny, but try it. It will defiantly buy you some time.

danzik17 · 03-19-2009, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Floods7

pull on your balls, HAHA .... but seriously no joke. when you go to change positions pull on your balls for about 5-8 sec before going back in. It really works.. sounds funny, but try it. It will defiantly buy you some time.

Try a good hammer to the nuts in between positions. I hear that should improve times astronomically.

DiGiTaL · 03-19-2009, 11:35 PM

Oh this thread's alive.

Um look it up, there is a lot of science behind this. There are things you can do to practice at home. lol.

Malcom · 03-20-2009, 05:24 PM

wear 3 condoms at the same time, never tried that, it might work tho

06-10-2008, 05:14 PM	#1
Partyposer Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Marin, CA Posts: 7	How do I stop prematurely ejaculating? I mentioned posed this question in the "foreplay" thread. Just I usually just get too excited during foreplay and explode all over myself and on my love interest. Anyone have any suggestions on how to curtail this? Partyposer.com - Hotties and Douchebags in one place.

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Partyposer Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Marin, CA Posts: 7	Rub one off before hand. I guess I should give that a shot. I let you know what happens tonight. Partyposer.com - Hotties and Douchebags in one place.

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DaMayor On a Perpetual Bulk Elite Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: ... Posts: 6,145	Print a small copy of THIS..... hide it in the palm of your hand during sex with that hottie, and if you start to lose control, whip it out and take a quick glance at it. Odds are it will take you at least four hours to regain your erection, if ever again. But hey, no pre-mature stuff, right?

06-12-2008, 08:56 PM	#14
Mista Registered User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Adelaide Posts: 2,288	Lol at your avi ^ My journal

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Partyposer Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Marin, CA Posts: 7	Haha that pic was hilarious! Yeah so I rubbed one off about 40 minutes before the deed. My woman was wondering what I was doing in the bathroom. "Hold on - I'll be out in a second - this should fix our problem". She goes: "Why don't you beat off while your in there - and then maybe I'll get some satisfaction". I though that was funny - she already knew the solution. Anyway - It worked! Thanks All! Partyposer.com - Hotties and Douchebags in one place.

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Partyposer Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Marin, CA Posts: 7	I don't get the midgets??? Did I miss something? Partyposer.com - Hotties and Douchebags in one place.

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rick22 Newbie Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 10	theres some technique to stop premature ejaculation.. i think its something to do with holding the penis from the nerve.. you should consult a doc.. for this matter.

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Floods7 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Cleveland Posts: 52	pull on your balls, HAHA .... but seriously no joke. when you go to change positions pull on your balls for about 5-8 sec before going back in. It really works.. sounds funny, but try it. It will defiantly buy you some time.

03-19-2009, 11:35 PM	#27
DiGiTaL .::.:: Legend ::.::. Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ca Posts: 1,466 Photos: 2	Oh this thread's alive. Um look it up, there is a lot of science behind this. There are things you can do to practice at home. lol. Stats: Weight: 183lbs \| BF: 13% My Cutting Journal come motivate me.

03-20-2009, 05:24 PM	#28
Malcom Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: England Posts: 67	wear 3 condoms at the same time, never tried that, it might work tho

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