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    debate on relationships

    here's a scenario:

    Your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend gets called up by an old lover, who "coincedently" moves into town with you two. The ex wants to meet up with your partner for lunch and he/she accepts. The ex is aware of your partner's status with you and in conversation, it arises that the ex is currently single. What is your stand on this, do you let your partner go or not?

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    Let her go. You'll see if she is faithfull or not. Plus you show her that you trust her.

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    he he ... of course! My take on that situation is that I have no control over what may or may not happen. If they go out and they hit it off again, me saying NO wouldn't only delay it. But then again, I'm not the jealous type.
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    I wouldn't want her to go, but I wouldn't say no. If she went out to meet him, it would let me know where I stand in the relationship though. If she was that inconsiderate of me, then I'd have to tell her to go fuck herself.

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    MMA ... you mean if you told her that you didn't want her to go and she went anyways then you'd know where you stood?
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    Originally posted by naturaltan
    MMA ... you mean if you told her that you didn't want her to go and she went anyways then you'd know where you stood?
    Yes. If I said "Honey, I don't like this, I feel really uncomfortable." And she just blew me off and went anyway. Then I'd be pissed.

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    gotcha ... that makes sense.
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    I would let her. A relationship is based on trust and it would be arrogant to believe that she would NEVER be in such a situation one on one with someone. At least this way you know where she is and she has your consent. If they're willing to cheat then it's going to happen regardless. Kind of a test.

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    Originally posted by Crono1000
    I would let her. A relationship is based on trust and it would be arrogant to believe that she would NEVER be in such a situation one on one with someone. At least this way you know where she is and she has your consent. If they're willing to cheat then it's going to happen regardless. Kind of a test.
    I agree your relationship should be based on trust, but I'm not willing to promote a situation where trust can be broken! I mean, sure, she can cheat with any guy, but I'm not going to set up the circumstances for that to happen.

    Women are fickle, they don't know what they want. If they make a connection with someone, they worry that maybe they're missing out on thier one true love. So, they immediately start to compare you to this new possibility. Plus it's human nature to think the grass is greener on the other side. It never is, but the damage can't be undone.

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    that little whore i'll get her for that i mean i've never be in that position........stupid whore


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    true true. Plus, any guy calling up an ex... or any girl for that matter... is just looking for a nooner

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    Originally posted by Crono1000
    true true. Plus, any guy calling up an ex... or any girl for that matter... is just looking for a nooner
    Exactly. I think it was Chris Rock who said "Ladies, anytime a guy is being nice to you, he's offering you dick. Can I open the door for you? You want some dick? Can I buy you a drink? You want some dick?"

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    Originally posted by mmafiter
    I agree your relationship should be based on trust, but I'm not willing to promote a situation where trust can be broken! I mean, sure, she can cheat with any guy, but I'm not going to set up the circumstances for that to happen.

    Women are fickle, they don't know what they want. If they make a connection with someone, they worry that maybe they're missing out on thier one true love. So, they immediately start to compare you to this new possibility. Plus it's human nature to think the grass is greener on the other side. It never is, but the damage can't be undone.
    I agree with this to some extent. I believe that if your in a commited relationship you should not expose yourself to situations that have potential for temptation. My analogy says "If youre on a diet, why bake brownies?" However, I would like to clarify something: men can be just as fickle as women. It definately is part of human nature.

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    Also... as far as the issue of knowing where you stand in the relationship is concerned.... I would appreciate being able to "stand" suffiently high on my partner's priority list, that he would not want to meet up with this other individual out of the respect for the relationship we're in. It's not so much about trust. It's more about showing respect for the present commitment and attributing such value to it, that you would not want to disrespect it in any way.

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    Definately let her go...relationships are about TRUST...if you can't trust him/her you shouldn't be together. If they meet up and something happens...on the positive side better to happen now than later.
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