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    Harmless flirting gone wrong - advice

    Okay, here's the scoop:

    Talking to a female friend of mine on IM and talking about going to dinner over the next couple of weeks because haven't seen her in a while. She is engaged, but her fiance lives in California. We flirt with each other a lot but have known each other for ten years and are close friends but that is it. We always chat and flirt over messenger.

    Anyway, I can tell something is wrong so I fire a line at her saying that I can make her feel better just like the last time I saw her (joking). Tell her just to wait until I see her and I'll make everything all better.

    Apparantly her fiance was actually in town (unknown to me - she didn't say anything) and happened to walk into the room just as that message popped up. He flipped out and accused her of cheating, etc while he isn't there.

    Can I do anything to make this better? Besides confronting the guy directly and telling him how it didn't mean anything?
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    Example #6,347 of why online flirting is a bad idea, serious or not. Sorry about your predicament, Ponyboy. Keep in mind you are not completely to blame here. Your IM friend, whoever it is, shouldn't be flirting back if she is involved with someone. There is no such thing as harmelss flirting.

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    Originally posted by I Are Baboon
    There is no such thing as harmelss flirting.
    You really don't think so?? I think a male and female can be best of friends without any sexual ties. But being friends and flirting are different.




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    I'd say... harmless flirting is ok between two single people... hell even 2 people with boyfriends/girlfriends... but married people? no... I don't think it's all that cool...
    Are you kidding me????

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    Originally posted by dg806
    You really don't think so?? I think a male and female can be best of friends without any sexual ties. But being friends and flirting are different.
    Sure men and women can be friends without sexual ties. But flirting is a form of sexual expression. I have plenty of women friends I don't flirt with.

    If I had a nickel for every time someone's online flirting with other members here got them into real trouble, I'd have like fifty cents or something.

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    ponyboy how could you bring our relationship out into the open like this

    just kidding

    yes IM has been the birthplace of many a online relationship troubles. I guess that knowledge is the benefit from being a long term member, you see people and relationships come and go. Sad really, I wish we could all just get along

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    I think you should talk to the guy directly since obviously you don't want to break off a long term friendship and I believe it would be the most respectful thing to do.

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    I concur!
    Are you kidding me????

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    I understand, but how? Plus, if I were him I'd be the last person I'd want to speak to. I actually feel quite badly about the whole thing.
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    I think you should go and smash him one and then have your way with her

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    Ris, you're always the voice of reason .

    Actually, she is quite hot. Maybe that's an option.
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    ponyboy...personally i dont really think that you feel bad about it because you just typed a flirt again...i have learnt from experience type things that you would say if your sig other was standing behind you reading ONLY. otherwise your up shits creek.

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    Originally posted by Crono1000
    ponyboy how could you bring our relationship out into the open like this

    just kidding

    yes IM has been the birthplace of many a online relationship troubles. I guess that knowledge is the benefit from being a long term member, you see people and relationships come and go. Sad really, I wish we could all just get along

    not that it matters but I THINK when ponyboy said IM he meant instant messenger and not ironmagforums. (i'm only mentioning it so we don't lose sleep trying to figure out who the woman is. )
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    Originally posted by nikegurl
    not that it matters but I THINK when ponyboy said IM he meant instant messenger and not ironmagforums. (i'm only mentioning it so we don't lose sleep trying to figure out who the woman is. )
    So it's you NG!!

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    oooooooooooooh ok, that makes more sense. I was biting my tongue trying not to be the first to ask who it is.

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