I've had em for years. The solution? A camera!
I bought this camera that shoots on floppy so I can look at photos daily if I want.
Hey, I have been at this for over 8 years, and when I look in the mirror i think "lame." NOW, I snap a picture and load to computer and look at it objectively like I do IM photos and i say "damn, I'm friggin muscular...thats how i want to look!"
I know it sounds simple, but you have to get away from the mirror. Even abs...I look in the mirror and say "man, your too smooth." then I shoot a photo and see some ab definition I couldn't see while critisizing myself in front of the mirror.
My guess is alot of guys (girls) are too hard on themselves when they just use their mirror. Take pictures! Oh, listen to others once in awhile. I went to my aunt's house last summer (cut better then ever). She said "Wow, you lost alot of weight...are you ok? You need to eat." (well, naked I looked great, but not dressed). This year I go over before my cut and she says I look great, and so did other people. Yeah, my normal shirts are tight in the shoulders now Even my last GF didn't like me cut, she wanted meat, and i didn't like her cut, i like a little meat too. Anyway if you don;t compete, you are probably looking good if your not skinny or fat. Take a picture and judge that way. Forget the mirror and the scale.
Body image problems suck, don't they?