I need some more opinions and perspectives about a touchy topic so i am going to describe the situation below without using names or anything. I am NOT one of these people so don't think I'm either Person A or Person B. Just look at the situation in general.
- Is an atheist
- Attends church regularly
- Has strong moral beliefs and values
- Believes in God
- Believes that miracles do happen (praying, faith, hope)
Example: Was born premature and had meningitis. Docs said he/she could be blind, have down syndrome, and other sorts of problems. Turns out he/she was fine and lived a normal life with no problems. He/she believes that God wanted this to happen because praying, having hope and faith helped his/her cause. Believes miracles happen for a reason. (This really did happen to Person A)
- Is Catholic
- Attends church once in a while (mainly holidays and special circumstances but is not religious)
- Doesn't necessarily believe in God
- Does not believe in miracles (luck, experience, timing, other factors)
Example: Using the example above, Person B believes the outcome of the situation was due to luck, experienced doctors, good timing, or any other factors that could helped Person A survive. Does not believe that God wanted it to happen and there is no such thing as miracles. If God did want this to happen, then why do some babies who are in the same boat as Person A end up dying? Does God choose who gets to live and who gets to die?
Onto the story ...
Person A and Person B have been friends for years. They were great friends and took it to the next level to see how a relationship would work out. Everything clicked. The chemistry was there, had a lot of things in common, made each other laugh, similar interests, etc.
Then it gets serious and conversations about marriage, religion, beliefs, and so forth come into play.
Person A takes a step back when he/she realizes Person B isn't on the same page as far as beliefs and values go. Person A strongly believes that a successful relationship is based on similar beliefs and religion. Will not attempt to try to settle the differences and always believes it would be a constant struggle no matter how much he/she may love Person B. Person A has seen many couples divorce solely because of differences in beliefs and religion.
Person B sees it differently. Person B thinks religion/beliefs/values should be more of an individual thing and it should not determine whether or not a relationship will be successful. He/she thinks that no two people are alike and it's human nature for couples to grow and learn about each other and adjust to each others' differences to the best of their ability. Person B has met many couples who have totally different beliefs and religious views but still manage a healthy marriage/relationship. Doesn't think divorce is always based solely on beliefs/religion but other factors such as money, personal differences (living location, wanting kids, etc.) and others.
Person A and Person B strongly disagree with each others beliefs but respect them. Person A thinks the relationship will not work out but Person B wants Person A to give it a try. Never judge something until you try it. Person A refuses and there is no relationship, just strictly friends. Person B thinks Person A is brainwashed and needs to broaden his/her perspective.
What do you guys think? Do you agree more with Person A or Person B? I would like to hear your opinions and get more perspectives.