Oh, that "all or nothing" thing. That's a tough one to get people past. One trick I use when cutting hard is a kind of a promise. Suppose I have a free meal coming up in a week. I can't have it until then, right, so I start planning all the stuff I want. When the day comes, even if I find I no longer really want it, I have it anyway, because the "future" me promised the "last week" me that I'd have it - I'd just have to wait a bit. It's a deal between two people, a cheat meal. The person who is willing to wait has to trust the person on the other end of the week to go through with it. I never ever skip out on a planned free meal. If I did, the next time the "future me" promised the "dieting me" the treat in the future, the "dieting me" wouldn't believe it - so the "dieting me" would say "fuck it" and eat the treat NOW.
You have to trust yourself to go through with your promises. Even when they're to yourself.
Nobody loves me like me.....Oh, that's the other forum.
I really didn't/don't worry too much about free meals. I only ate one per week as a Cat3, simply because my appetite was so blunted I really couldn't care less...or when I did, it was still low/no carb, just higher in fat. I try not to get too psyched out about the whole carb thing....why bother? I'll just kust keep eating copious amounts of canned tuna, get a little hydrargyria going, maybe some sweet neurodegeneration..... and work on my abs. Who needs cake anyway, right?