Thread: Liftin', wife doesn't get it

well, i can't relate.. not married and no one nags me about it.. kinda un-related but my parents and sister and some of my friends think i'm too big and think i'd look nasty if i got any bigger

This is what my wife suggests for you- Hire a babysitter and take you wife out for a nice evening( something she would like to do). Then explain to her what working out means to you. That it gives you energy and helps you deal with stress, blah, blah whatever...Then offer to work out a schedule where you watch the kids while she does something that can be the same outlet for her (e.g. take a bath, go out with friends, watch tv...) in exchange for allowing you to have that time kid free and with her full support. Tell her how much her support means to you.

When you are at home and spending time with them, make sure you are really there emotionally and mentally and that they feel you are there with and for them. That will help her when it comes time for the w/o's.

Wow, that was weird. Felt like one of those mediums that has messages spoken through them from the other side. But try this, works for my wife and I.

Any way to get her involved with your fitness plan instead of her sitting in front of the TV while you are working out? Maybe take a class together or train together, or even take your child for a walk/jog in the stroller together. Often the spouse who isn't working out not only feels guilty but also feels ignored (like Rock said).

Cook some healthy meals for her and let her see how good she can feel if she changes positively like you have. Once you convert her the battle is won for both of you!

Rock nailed it.

Originally posted by MikeKy
Rock nailed it.

Rock's wife nailed it!

it's irritating how smart women are about this kind of stuff...

Originally posted by HoldDaMayo
it's irritating how smart women are about this kind of stuff...

And as she's telling me what to write, she's also reminding me that I need to do these things too.

Yeah... My girlfriend gets pissed. " Arn't we going out 2 night " I reply - " After the gym ".. then she just gets pissed. Oh well thats my priorite.

I know exactly how you feel. I was dealing with the *exact* thing. Of course, the results were greatly appreciated by her, but she couldn't stand the sacrifice and actually - dealing with all the garbage outside of the gym was more difficult that working out.

I handled it just about the way Rock's wife suggested. I got a baby-sitter for a couple of days and took her to the gym with me ... put together a workout for her and walked her through it. Then, I sent her to the gym to workout 3 x's a week and I watched the kids while she went. That way ... she too could benifit from all those things (relieving stress, more energy, get away from the kids for a while, blah blah blah). Also, she then could appreciate why I want to hit the gym 5 days a week and don't miss for anything.

It's worked like a dream for me anyway ....