I need HUGE motivation..

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 01:03 AM

Ok, so I am stupid, well kinda.. I went up to the gym back in Feb. and got a year pass... I went there 2 times the first week and haven't returned to this day. The gym is an amazing place, very clean, so many pieces of equipment, I haven't ever seen so much.
I got a job not too long after starting my membership, it was an afternoon job, and I was fairly busy at the time. Sadly I got fired last week and I now have extra time on my hands, but I haven't done much cept sit around the house with this time. I know I want to, and I can admit that pot is my de-motivator, but I just can't bring myself to get out there, and I don't know why really. I need HUGE motivation here guys, I plan on getting into the Army at some point soon, and I need to get myself in shape for it. I know for a fact that my lungs are horrible right now, always have been. But is it possible to condition them so they don't hurt when I run? I mean like 1 min of running and I am gasping for air, its horrible. I want to be as fit as I was 4 years ago... PLEASE HELP ME GET BACK IN THE GAME!!

Big Smoothy · 05-26-2004, 01:11 AM

If this is not a windup, I offer my humble opinion.

I think motivation has to come from within: YOU.

It's often harder to start after a hiatus. Once you get rolling it'll be a part of your life, like getting the newspaper out of the mail box, or going to the grocery store.

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 01:21 AM

internal motivation is vital to have MG. Instead of lookin elsewhere for motivation, look closely at yourself in the mirror and get yourself motivated. use your dissatisfying situation as motivation. Is it possible to get your lungs in shape, yeah, start smoking less and doing more aerobic activity. Sorry if that sounds too simple but thats the deal.I can relate to you thou, I also am a bud smoker, and in the past it has been much more of a problem for me then it is now. it used to consume my life like I can't explain, I used to be an multiple time a day smoker for years and it never really occurred to me to stop or slow down. nowadays I don't even really think about it too much honestly, I am instead addicted to the feeling of satisfaction I get from being intense and dedicated to my training and that seems to supply my addictive nature with something to be consumed by. You have to let that feeling of dissapointment that you get when you are not being productive and focus on that, let that motivate yourself. Go off of that and just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Tell yourself you aren't gonna toke up until you have got what you needed to get done finished that day, including your training. If that doesn't work and you are that serious about it, go get in an outpatient program and maybe that change would help initiate change. Other then that, be honest with yourself and stop making excuses to yourself, just do it! forgive my bluntness. I am trying to help. good luck. remember, you can decieve everyone else, except for that person in the mirror staring back at you, you can never fool her, and if you think you are then you are fooling yourself! Good luck

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 01:32 AM

Ok, I know what I got to do, but I don't know how to go about it, I know right now that I am a fat-ass, is it best to work that off before I go at bulking, or should I just jump into bulking?

I am about 5'6, 150-160 lbs, and I am sure I have something like 25% bf or higher. I have good bones, and I know my muscle structure was made to bulk. I would like to bulk as much as I can, not so much cut.

I usually only smoke on the weekends.. when I am at my bf's, I am not sure what to do about that because he is an all day smoker and I like the feeling, and sometimes when there is a point where I think I need it, I go for it. This past weekend I had a bong cause I had a massive headache when I woke. I am thinking that I wanna tell the boy I am not coming over for a few weekends but I am not sure what his reaction might be. I know that for myself I want to quit weed totally, I know it's not what I want. But there is that one thing keeping me there, the feeling I get. I know what I have to do tho, and I will do it starting now.

Get back to me on that bulking/cutting first bit. I will take before pics this weekend, I am not sure if I will post them quite yet, but we will see.
Thanks for the advice guys

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 01:55 AM

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Originally posted by Muscle_Girl
Ok, I know what I got to do, but I don't know how to go about it, I know right now that I am a fat-ass, is it best to work that off before I go at bulking, or should I just jump into bulking?

I am about 5'6, 150-160 lbs, and I am sure I have something like 25% bf or higher. I have good bones, and I know my muscle structure was made to bulk. I would like to bulk as much as I can, not so much cut.

5'6" 160, I would take the next few months and cut bodyfat personally so I could start out from a clean slate and bulk nice and slow. Cutting is harder though mentally speaking thou IMO and more likeliness of getting frustrated and all that jazz. What are your goals, why don't we start out with that? What is important to you. Since you haven't been weight training for a while your muscles probably aren't in great shape. start out nice and light and just start going through the motions. Don't go to failure for a while and just get back in the swing of things till you feel comfortable. While you are doing this, I would sit down and be honest with yourself about your diet. Get some numbers down regarding your totals (protien/fat/carbs) and what they are like each day. Don't jump into the cardio right away like a crazed women, for several reason. One, its an easy way to get burned out and frustrated in the long run, and more importantly you want to realize that diet manipulation is gonna be THE key to weight loss. I would reccommend posting your diet totals in the diet section and get some detailed advice from the cats in there. You can also PM me and I will hook you up so feel free. I don't want to ramble off into too much detail here. As far as the cardio, I am personally a big fan of high intensity cardio. I think that getting on the track is best b/c you aren't on the treadmill for hrs per day, which is mindnumbing, and its more athletic of an endevour. Also you lose less LBM in the process get into better aerobic shape, along with numerous reasons. you wanna start light with the cardio and slowly add that in piece by piece. Forgive me if I am saying things that you are already on top of but I don't know your training history or knowledge base so you know. Anyways, you should post some pics, maybe some criticism is the thing you need to fuel you and get yourself moving. Thats my two cents. hope I could help. what'chuo think?

kim · 05-26-2004, 07:20 AM

Hi Muscle Girl,

I would like to encourage you to realize your dream and you can achieve what you are looking for. GR81 has bring you some real good tips.

Regarding my self I was where you are in January 2004. I am 5'6" and my weight was 160 pounds and I decided that it was enough.
I have take some pics of me and it have shock and realized that I was the one who was responsible for my body.

So I start training very hard on pushing weigh at the gym, training each body part once a week, but a harcore training.
I did 3 times a week HITT and have completetly change my eating habit. And I have been eating only clean food, 5 to 7 meals a day. I HAVE LOST FROM NOW 25 POUNDS OF FAT in 20 weeks, and I have build some nice muscle.

So if I have do it, yo can do it too.

Keep track of all your eating in a book, keep track of your weight training, cardio and take some few pics maybe every 6 weeks, it will keep you on going and stay away from the scale, only use your miror do don't get discouraged. YOU CAN MAKE IT.

kim

sftwrngnr · 05-26-2004, 10:09 AM

I would say that the first step is to actually decide that you're going to make a change. My wife is very heavy, and she had any number of excuses not to go to the gym, ranging from being embarassed, to not having child care for our daughter. I was looking into getting a membership at a local "hard core" powerlifting/bodybuilding gym, but my wife asked me to get a family membership at the "Y" instead. I begrudgingly agreed (the Y had less equipment for what I wanted to train for). I had decided that if a month passed, and she hadn't actually used the membership, then I would cancel it, and go to the gym that I really wanted to sign up for.
It has now been three months; she has gone 4 days a week, consistently.
My point would be this: if you want to make a change, then decide that your going to make it, and make it now. While wallowing in self pity does have its place, at some point, you need to decide that you're going to stop making excuses, and get your butt to the gym. On a personal note, you'll feel better about yourself when you go, and that will directly result in better self confidence. That self confidence will show when you interview.
-Dan

animalmachine · 05-26-2004, 10:29 AM

drop the loser who is an "all day smoker"

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 11:13 AM

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Originally posted by animalmachine
drop the loser who is an "all day smoker"

Lol, and who would be there to step up and do his job?

animalmachine · 05-26-2004, 11:44 AM

whoever can fulfill your greatest fantasy, if not now, once you reach your goals.... there in lies motivation. never settle for mediocrity.

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 11:45 AM

I am the type in which just goes out and does what I think I can do. When I make a decision to change, I really do change. It's just a matter of going and doing it. Yes I can admit that my bf is prolly half the battle as he smokes and eats unhealthy foods. Not to mention we only sit around the house all weekend and watch movies. I will be embarrassed about my pics, but I will post them when I get them in. I have decided that Monday will be my start date.. as there is too much shit in the house that is unhealthy lol, and I would like to get some clean before pics.

I will do what you have said Gr81. But for me, I think I might need a little more cardio than specified. It will take me a while to get the diet part going, right now I eat so much shit its crazy.

Kim, I have seen your pics rescently and I must say that is definately encouraging

And I get your point there Dan, the smallest changes make a difference.

Thanks guys, I will update you after the weekend has passed.

aztecwolf · 05-26-2004, 12:57 PM

throw on some metallica and get at it, all the motivation you need

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 02:10 PM

Ugh metallica.. more like Linkin park, Staind, Dry Cell, Trapt.. hmm, yah

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 02:11 PM

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Originally posted by animalmachine
whoever can fulfill your greatest fantasy, if not now, once you reach your goals.... there in lies motivation. never settle for mediocrity.

PLEASE point me in HIS direction

aztecwolf · 05-26-2004, 09:45 PM

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Originally posted by Muscle_Girl
Ugh metallica.. more like Linkin park, Staind, Dry Cell, Trapt.. hmm, yah

i kind find any new rock that is worth a lick to listen too, i like audioslave but it ain't the best wo music

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 10:17 PM

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Originally posted by Muscle_Girl
Lol, and who would be there to step up and do his job?

where in CA are ya!

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 10:23 PM

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Originally posted by gr81
where in CA are ya!

CA meaning California?

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 10:27 PM

meaning Canada, I didn't even think about the abbrev. my bad

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 10:30 PM

Lol, nps, I am in Ontario, about 2 hrs. north of Toronto.. you?

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 10:38 PM

I am up here in Washington, 'bout 15 mins north of it Seattle. Its a little bit of a drive..lol. How do you like living in Canada? Seems like there are alot of hotties from the Toronto area.. lucky U! ha ha

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 10:48 PM

You have no idea whether I am a hottie or not dood! (or did you mean guys?)
It's nice, I don't mind the change of season, and no scary SPIDERS all over the place, ugh. Not to mention all the other poison infested critters all over the states. Born in Mississauga, lived in Ontario all my life, I have had experiences in other places tho, Florida (family there), Cali (when I was young), Nova Scotia, Prince Edward Island.

So do you have a gf, or were you just saying "if" you had...

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 11:01 PM

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Originally posted by Muscle_Girl
You have no idea whether I am a hottie or not dood! (or did you mean guys?)

How dare U!! actually I was not referring to you, nice try thou. I was talking about chicks like Trish Stratus (who is my favorite) being from Toronto and there are a few other chicas that you see around comin from that area. thats all I was saying, sheeesh. Thats why I said lucky you, b/c you get to be there and the women over her in WA are pretty subpar to say the least. They all have kids for gods sake, bunch of zerox machines.
And nope no GF for moi. Don't really have time for or am even lookin for a relationship right now. I find that I cant be as great with a gf around. lol

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 11:26 PM

lol, great? sigh...
One I do hate is guys with humongus... EGOS

And how is it you have no time, what do ya do for a living?

gr81 · 05-26-2004, 11:34 PM

apparently I have to explain to you when I am kidding around.

Believe it or not, I am not at all arrogant in person, trust me. I can be pretty insecure as a result of the bodybuilding thing sometimes, not most of the time but sometimes. That feeling of never being good enough, no matter what.

Muscle_Girl · 05-26-2004, 11:36 PM

Ahh, yes, I understand that part.. and you dont have to explain everytime, its just hard to tell in text lol.

btw, job?

05-26-2004, 01:03 AM	#1
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	I need HUGE motivation.. Ok, so I am stupid, well kinda.. I went up to the gym back in Feb. and got a year pass... I went there 2 times the first week and haven't returned to this day. The gym is an amazing place, very clean, so many pieces of equipment, I haven't ever seen so much. I got a job not too long after starting my membership, it was an afternoon job, and I was fairly busy at the time. Sadly I got fired last week and I now have extra time on my hands, but I haven't done much cept sit around the house with this time. I know I want to, and I can admit that pot is my de-motivator, but I just can't bring myself to get out there, and I don't know why really. I need HUGE motivation here guys, I plan on getting into the Army at some point soon, and I need to get myself in shape for it. I know for a fact that my lungs are horrible right now, always have been. But is it possible to condition them so they don't hurt when I run? I mean like 1 min of running and I am gasping for air, its horrible. I want to be as fit as I was 4 years ago... PLEASE HELP ME GET BACK IN THE GAME!!
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 01:21 AM	#3
gr81 You Lack Intensity!!!! Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Just below our civil disguise Posts: 6,378 Photos: 10	internal motivation is vital to have MG. Instead of lookin elsewhere for motivation, look closely at yourself in the mirror and get yourself motivated. use your dissatisfying situation as motivation. Is it possible to get your lungs in shape, yeah, start smoking less and doing more aerobic activity. Sorry if that sounds too simple but thats the deal.I can relate to you thou, I also am a bud smoker, and in the past it has been much more of a problem for me then it is now. it used to consume my life like I can't explain, I used to be an multiple time a day smoker for years and it never really occurred to me to stop or slow down. nowadays I don't even really think about it too much honestly, I am instead addicted to the feeling of satisfaction I get from being intense and dedicated to my training and that seems to supply my addictive nature with something to be consumed by. You have to let that feeling of dissapointment that you get when you are not being productive and focus on that, let that motivate yourself. Go off of that and just take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Tell yourself you aren't gonna toke up until you have got what you needed to get done finished that day, including your training. If that doesn't work and you are that serious about it, go get in an outpatient program and maybe that change would help initiate change. Other then that, be honest with yourself and stop making excuses to yourself, just do it! forgive my bluntness. I am trying to help. good luck. remember, you can decieve everyone else, except for that person in the mirror staring back at you, you can never fool her, and if you think you are then you are fooling yourself! Good luck
	Testosterone Site/Elite Fitness-Dave Tate/West Side Barbell/Berardi Nutrition & Sports Performance/Steroid Laws- Rick Collins/John Defendis Intensity or Insanity articles/Save the Supersonics

05-26-2004, 01:32 AM	#4
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	Ok, I know what I got to do, but I don't know how to go about it, I know right now that I am a fat-ass, is it best to work that off before I go at bulking, or should I just jump into bulking? I am about 5'6, 150-160 lbs, and I am sure I have something like 25% bf or higher. I have good bones, and I know my muscle structure was made to bulk. I would like to bulk as much as I can, not so much cut. I usually only smoke on the weekends.. when I am at my bf's, I am not sure what to do about that because he is an all day smoker and I like the feeling, and sometimes when there is a point where I think I need it, I go for it. This past weekend I had a bong cause I had a massive headache when I woke. I am thinking that I wanna tell the boy I am not coming over for a few weekends but I am not sure what his reaction might be. I know that for myself I want to quit weed totally, I know it's not what I want. But there is that one thing keeping me there, the feeling I get. I know what I have to do tho, and I will do it starting now. Get back to me on that bulking/cutting first bit. I will take before pics this weekend, I am not sure if I will post them quite yet, but we will see. Thanks for the advice guys
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 07:20 AM	#6
kim Fit by 40 Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: canada Posts: 219 Photos: 5	Hi Muscle Girl, I would like to encourage you to realize your dream and you can achieve what you are looking for. GR81 has bring you some real good tips. Regarding my self I was where you are in January 2004. I am 5'6" and my weight was 160 pounds and I decided that it was enough. I have take some pics of me and it have shock and realized that I was the one who was responsible for my body. So I start training very hard on pushing weigh at the gym, training each body part once a week, but a harcore training. I did 3 times a week HITT and have completetly change my eating habit. And I have been eating only clean food, 5 to 7 meals a day. I HAVE LOST FROM NOW 25 POUNDS OF FAT in 20 weeks, and I have build some nice muscle. So if I have do it, yo can do it too. Keep track of all your eating in a book, keep track of your weight training, cardio and take some few pics maybe every 6 weeks, it will keep you on going and stay away from the scale, only use your miror do don't get discouraged. YOU CAN MAKE IT. kim
	[b]kim - Fit by 43

05-26-2004, 10:09 AM	#7
sftwrngnr Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Location: Chandler, AZ Posts: 187 Photos: 2	I would say that the first step is to actually decide that you're going to make a change. My wife is very heavy, and she had any number of excuses not to go to the gym, ranging from being embarassed, to not having child care for our daughter. I was looking into getting a membership at a local "hard core" powerlifting/bodybuilding gym, but my wife asked me to get a family membership at the "Y" instead. I begrudgingly agreed (the Y had less equipment for what I wanted to train for). I had decided that if a month passed, and she hadn't actually used the membership, then I would cancel it, and go to the gym that I really wanted to sign up for. It has now been three months; she has gone 4 days a week, consistently. My point would be this: if you want to make a change, then decide that your going to make it, and make it now. While wallowing in self pity does have its place, at some point, you need to decide that you're going to stop making excuses, and get your butt to the gym. On a personal note, you'll feel better about yourself when you go, and that will directly result in better self confidence. That self confidence will show when you interview. -Dan
	*"Dude... thats a lot-a weight... I mean yer like... what... 50??"* Said to me by a 17 year old when I was doing deadlifts. -------------------------------------- Current Stats: Age: 39 Squat: 585 Bench: 265 (STILL Pathetic) Deadlift: 565 Weight: 218 Goals: Interrupted due to accident ! Rehab journal: Dan's rehab journal Training journal: Dan's westside training journal

05-26-2004, 01:11 AM	#2
Big Smoothy Windy City Elite Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Chicago Posts: 2,816	If this is not a windup, I offer my humble opinion. I think motivation has to come from within: YOU. It's often harder to start after a hiatus. Once you get rolling it'll be a part of your life, like getting the newspaper out of the mail box, or going to the grocery store.

05-26-2004, 10:29 AM	#8
animalmachine Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 206 Photos: 4	drop the loser who is an "all day smoker"

05-26-2004, 11:44 AM	#10
animalmachine Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 206 Photos: 4	whoever can fulfill your greatest fantasy, if not now, once you reach your goals.... there in lies motivation. never settle for mediocrity.

05-26-2004, 11:45 AM	#11
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	I am the type in which just goes out and does what I think I can do. When I make a decision to change, I really do change. It's just a matter of going and doing it. Yes I can admit that my bf is prolly half the battle as he smokes and eats unhealthy foods. Not to mention we only sit around the house all weekend and watch movies. I will be embarrassed about my pics, but I will post them when I get them in. I have decided that Monday will be my start date.. as there is too much shit in the house that is unhealthy lol, and I would like to get some clean before pics. I will do what you have said Gr81. But for me, I think I might need a little more cardio than specified. It will take me a while to get the diet part going, right now I eat so much shit its crazy. Kim, I have seen your pics rescently and I must say that is definately encouraging And I get your point there Dan, the smallest changes make a difference. Thanks guys, I will update you after the weekend has passed.
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 12:57 PM	#12
aztecwolf Sackin' up every day Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: san diego Posts: 1,267 Photos: 3	throw on some metallica and get at it, all the motivation you need
	-Sack Up- "If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding. How can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?" Pink Floyd, Another Brick in the Wall

05-26-2004, 02:10 PM	#13
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	Ugh metallica.. more like Linkin park, Staind, Dry Cell, Trapt.. hmm, yah
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 10:27 PM	#18
gr81 You Lack Intensity!!!! Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Just below our civil disguise Posts: 6,378 Photos: 10	meaning Canada, I didn't even think about the abbrev. my bad
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05-26-2004, 10:30 PM	#19
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	Lol, nps, I am in Ontario, about 2 hrs. north of Toronto.. you?
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 10:38 PM	#20
gr81 You Lack Intensity!!!! Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Just below our civil disguise Posts: 6,378 Photos: 10	I am up here in Washington, 'bout 15 mins north of it Seattle. Its a little bit of a drive..lol. How do you like living in Canada? Seems like there are alot of hotties from the Toronto area.. lucky U! ha ha
	Testosterone Site/Elite Fitness-Dave Tate/West Side Barbell/Berardi Nutrition & Sports Performance/Steroid Laws- Rick Collins/John Defendis Intensity or Insanity articles/Save the Supersonics

05-26-2004, 10:48 PM	#21
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	You have no idea whether I am a hottie or not dood! (or did you mean guys?) It's nice, I don't mind the change of season, and no scary SPIDERS all over the place, ugh. Not to mention all the other poison infested critters all over the states. Born in Mississauga, lived in Ontario all my life, I have had experiences in other places tho, Florida (family there), Cali (when I was young), Nova Scotia, Prince Edward Island. So do you have a gf, or were you just saying "if" you had...
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 11:26 PM	#23
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	lol, great? sigh... One I do hate is guys with humongus... EGOS And how is it you have no time, what do ya do for a living?
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!

05-26-2004, 11:34 PM	#24
gr81 You Lack Intensity!!!! Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Just below our civil disguise Posts: 6,378 Photos: 10	apparently I have to explain to you when I am kidding around. Believe it or not, I am not at all arrogant in person, trust me. I can be pretty insecure as a result of the bodybuilding thing sometimes, not most of the time but sometimes. That feeling of never being good enough, no matter what.
	Testosterone Site/Elite Fitness-Dave Tate/West Side Barbell/Berardi Nutrition & Sports Performance/Steroid Laws- Rick Collins/John Defendis Intensity or Insanity articles/Save the Supersonics

05-26-2004, 11:36 PM	#25
Muscle_Girl Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 1,757 Photos: 3	Ahh, yes, I understand that part.. and you dont have to explain everytime, its just hard to tell in text lol. btw, job?
	Just a girl.... Looking for muscles!!