Thread: Should I Be Upset?

I never let any person question how I lift, espically if they can't bench what I DB curl. Who cares what he thinks, just do your thing and don't let anyone mess with your training style.

You shoulda racked the weight and stand up and asked him "what the f*ck are you doing? .

Why be upset? This is probably just his personality and you shouldn't take it personal.

see the thing is how do you let someone know that you don't need their help without seeming like an asshole. see he was just looking out for me, making sure i didn't get stuck under 300lbs. but i needed a way to tell him that i didn't need his help and i wouldn't get stuck under that weight. thats why i never offer to spot anyone unless its asked for.

you coulda said-if i need a spot i woulda asked.

Tell him how many reps you're expecting to get and to not even TOUCH the bar unless it's going down. This is what I tell all of my spots. A spotter is there to aid you if you get stuck, not to hurt your ego.

My spotter usually just lets me take the bar down(touch chest) and then on my way up he has like 2-3 fingers on the bar and is screaming at me lol

He is trying to manipulate you; he may be looking for a workout partner and is using an ulterior motive to persuade you. OTOH, he may be as Deeznuts says, simply trying to be helpful.

The next time he tries this, you finish your set. You rack the bar. You stand up, and you quietly tell him, that he is dangerous, in that he disturbs concentation when it is needed most. Thank him for his concern, assure him you do not need his assistance. IF he argues further, move just a hair close to his personal space, and remind him that he should mind his own business. If he persists, report it to the management (I doubt it will go that far).

Originally Posted by Trouble

He is trying to manipulate you; he may be looking for a workout partner and is using an ulterior motive to persuade you. OTOH, he may be as Deeznuts says, simply trying to be helpful.

The next time he tries this, you finish your set. You rack the bar. You stand up, and you quietly tell him, that he is dangerous, in that he disturbs concentation when it is needed most. Thank him for his concern, assure him you do not need his assistance. IF he argues further, move just a hair close to his personal space, and remind him that he should mind his own business. If he persists, report it to the management (I doubt it will go that far).

Or you could just have trouble whoop his ass, from this post she seems a little hardcore!!



If you don't WANT a spot tell him you don't need one...if you want one but are afraid he's going to lift it for you, explain quickly how you want to be spotted....

I am a nice guy and am very outgoing. I have offered people a spot on heavy benches before and sometimes they refuse and it doesn't hurt my feelings...I just know there's been times where I would've liked a spotter there and almost been timid when it comes to asking someone to basically stop what they are doing just to help me, know what I mean??

Or you could just say, no thanks...

Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Or you could just say, no thanks...

Actually that is a bit rude, I would say do not touch the bar unless I tell you to. After the set is done you can say thank you and I will not need a spot again, if I do I will ask.

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

Actually that is a bit rude, I would say do not touch the bar unless I tell you to. After the set is done you can say thank you and I will not need a spot again, if I do I will ask.

I think this seems to be the best route................thanks everyone for the advice.................

upset?? you should not be getting emotionally torn from a spot at the gym.

You got a spot, you didn't need/want one. Make him know that, thats all. Whats the problem??

The Generale was in the middle of a set.

He didn't ask for a spot.

If you know how to spot correctly, you do not lay hands on the bar. Its dangerous, like I said, when someone does it unexpectedly.

This would be spotter then proceeded to :spot: for another 3 sets, unasked and innanely maintained he was needed to prevent eminent failure. Fallacious logic, and like I said, manipulative.

I have found such people need more overt encouragement to mind their own business.

It is most certainly NOT rude to say, no thanks, as Dale suggests. It may not be enough to persuade the more persistant spotter wannabe from interfering in a workout.

Here's what you do.



"Aw naw, that's ok bro, I got it, Thanks."


Bam, done.

I would read to much into it. I would love to have someone come over to me and ask if I need a spot. I would simply say thank you and tell him if you need a spot you'll tell him. No reason to feel like an asshole, but next time tell him you prefer to lift alone, no biggie.

Originally Posted by BigDyl

Here's what you do.



"Aw naw, that's ok bro, I got it, Thanks."


Bam, done.

Now when you do that do you step up in his face or just remain where you are???