Gay men and Lesbian women just want to be able to get married, no one can force a Church to perform the ceremony, I've seen Churches turn down Man/Woman marriages because they conceived out of wedlock. These folks just want to make a valid commitment to one another the same as Husbands and Wives do all of the time.I think we're coming at this from two different angles. I am saying that the government should have no right to force any religious figure to either marry or recognize the marriage of a gay couple.
If they want to go sign some papers in front of a judge to attain equals rights, then as I've said before I'm all for that.
Sure they can have legal papers drawn up that basically make them joined financially and able to make decisions if the other one is say in a coma or on life support.....but that's a costly tedious way to go about what could be handled with one move.... And yes in some places they can have a civl union and then go have a wedding....
If they want to combine the two into one ritual and be married the same as a man and woman are, they should be able to as well.... Many times the civil and spiritual ceremony are performed as one act and recognized by the state as such having given rights to the person performing the marriage the right to act as an agent witnessing on the states behalf...... You are just trying to avoid the fact that civil union, equal partnership, etc is marriage, maybe not in the eyes of your lord or god. Why so many hang onto "Marriage" the word as only able to be performed in its Christian Holy Matrimonial context is beyond me, their are Marriages of the Atheist, Buddhist, Hindi, Wiccan kind all of the time.