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[haveanidea]

Long but feed back is appreciated!

Hey guys and gals,,
I need some input(probably should come from a womans point of view though).

I recently married my wife last month. Things are going great, with the exception of yesterday.

All this time I dated her, she never really told me the address for her work(I know the name of the company)...I asked her time and time again when we were dating,,, and she would casually say... oh its in "so n so" city. I tried finding the company, but it wasnt listed(trust me ,,, when we were dating I tried searching for it)..I know its a legit company, because she brings stationary and such from her job,,, and I even tried calling her job,,, but they wouldnt give me the address. I got frustrated,,, and decided not to ask that questions anymore...until..

Yesterday... Since we are married,,, Im like "hey honey,, where is the company that you work for?" She was teasing me,,,, saying im not gonna tell ya...etc etc... Then she said she would tell me later. Well later came,, and before she left for work,,, I asked her again... She said I will tell you tomorrow..
So I get PISSED! I mean,,, she is my wife now... not just a date. Sigh... I walk her to the train station like I normally do...But then I keep going with her.. At this point she is getting pissed. So I say,,, why cant you just tell me,,, .... and she says just wait for tomorrow,...Why do I have to wait till tomorrow!...etc etc (im sure you can imagine an arguement in a train station).

****heres where I go wrong...
Feeling she is keeping something from me,,, I get angry at that,,, not just the simple point of not telling me the address. So I yell and throw my ring in her face....
After many appologies later from me... were on good terms again..

Sigh but dont you think its weird she wont give me the address??
How should I bring this up again,,, because I still dont know...

I mean,,,.... cant a guy send his girl flowers?

Feedback is appreciated.

Sincerely
-B

 

[goob]

Er.... follow her one morning. Stay well back, cloak and dagger style, I guess that's one way of finding out?
Very strange that she won't tell you that.

 

[Mista]

Something is suss

 

[Mista]

If you want to go James Bond style you can get GPS trackers and software off ebay

 

[haveanidea]

I know

Er.... follow her one morning. Stay well back, cloak and dagger style, I guess that's one way of finding out?
Very strange that she won't tell you that.

I know... makes me think things I dont want to think about if you know what I mean....

Its almost making me alittle bit jealous..and I dont want to be that typacle jealous husband.

-B

 

[haveanidea]

If you want to go James Bond style you can get GPS trackers and software off ebay

any good brands...have to look up and see how much they cost.

-B

 

[haveanidea]

Something is suss

I know,,, I hate feeling that towards her.. she is my wife.

-B

 

[KelJu]

Why did you marry her when she didn't trust you enough to tell you where she worked?

 

[haveanidea]

Why did you marry her when she didn't trust you enough to tell you where she worked?

I trust her,,,, its just this one thing....

Sigh
-B

 

[Little Wing]

it's creepy that she hasn't told you. not right at all. it's a totally bullshit situation and you should not tolerate it.

 

[Little Wing]

half the people reading this or more, including me, are wondering if she is a hooker or working in a massage parlor... make her tell you or leave.

 

[haveanidea]

half the people reading this or more, including me, are wondering if she is a hooker or working in a massage parlor... make her tell you or leave.

I know what you mean,.... but I know its a software solutions company....

-B

 

[Little Wing]

or she's fucking her boss. or maybe she is not telling you because she's a cleaning person or something but it is wrong. she owes you more respect and loyalty than this game. she shouldn't be toying with your trust. you were right to get pissed.

 

[Vieope]

half the people reading this or more, including me, are wondering if she is a hooker or working in a massage parlor... make her tell you or leave.

It is very strange. Why dont you ask her parents?

 

[haveanidea]

It will be hard for me to bring it up... since we just got in a huge fight...
-B

 

[oaktownboy]

Er.... follow her one morning. Stay well back, cloak and dagger style, I guess that's one way of finding out?
Very strange that she won't tell you that.

word..i was thinking the same thing...instead of throwing ur ring in her face, u should have followed behind her and just saw where she got off..

 

[oaktownboy]

or she's fucking her boss. or maybe she is not telling you because she's a cleaning person or something but it is wrong. she owes you more respect and loyalty than this game. she shouldn't be toying with your trust. you were right to get pissed.

always right to the point

 

[haveanidea]

maybe this blog is a bad idea... now I really cant get this shi off my mind...

-B

 

[haveanidea]

K Im talking about it to her right now via email....maybe we will resolve this... stresses me out sooo f'n bad...

-B

 

[JOHNYORK]

maybe ure jsut a weirdo posting a bs story on a body building forum???

 

[haveanidea]

I guess I could be.... why would I go through soo much detail and stuff and waste my time... I did this,, cause I needed to talk to someone,,, and I didnt want to have to go to my family..

-B

 

[oaktownboy]

maybe ure jsut a weirdo posting a bs story on a body building forum???

ROFLMAO..a classic response from mr.york himself I didn't know if u still had it in ya.

 

[Triple Threat]

She's probably a lawyer. No wonder she's embarrassed.

 

[Mudge]

If you are talking to her via email who does the IP belong to?

 

[squanto]

you are a fucking idiot for marrying this woman. no offense.

 

[goob]

you are a fucking idiot for marrying this woman. no offense.

He has a point, every story being different. Nothing like tomahawk missile delivery. I must say, that I'd like to know her story, well and truly before commiting to that level.
Dude, grab some. I don't know whos in control in your relationship, but from your post, sounds like her. This to a certain extent, is the norm. But, as the adage goes, 'give them an inch', they'll take a mile. Take control. No offense, but this is your wife,.......... no secrets , ...or if any, very fucking small potatoes, you should know 90+% of your wifes past. Your wife's work (etc...), past and current, must come in that equation.

 

[lioness]

Dang...a hooker! MEN! I thought maybe she did something like work for the CIA...but then, she'd have a legit cover I suppose.

How long have you known her?

I'm thinking...if you've asked her many times, and she hasn't told you yet...she probably won't. She's probably gonna dig her heels in pretty hard if that's what she's been doing.

The best predictor of someone's future behavior...is their past behavior.

I'd keep my mouth shut for awhile...back off her...and check it out on my own (good suggestions in this post).

I think 'snooping' is almost always wrong. If something is so wrong that you snoop....things clearly are amiss. However, you've been upfront. For you to ignore this would be sticking your head in the sand.

Check it out.

Good luck.

Sorry.

 

[KentDog]

Sounds very strange. Has she told you where she works yet? You had said she told you she would "tell you tomorrow." How old is she?

 

[haveanidea]

well..UPDATE!

Sounds very strange. Has she told you where she works yet? You had said she told you she would "tell you tomorrow." How old is she?

Ok guys... She said she was going to tell me the next day... but obviously not... situation was still to hott! So I backed off for awhile.... I usually take charge,, ,but this scares the shi out of me... I want to continue this marriage..

Anyways... I let it cool down for awhile... she knows I still think about it. But here is the good news... The software corporation she works for is on the internet,,, it gives a PO box but no real building address..but it left a telephone number and emails... I once called trying to get there address but even they wouldnt give it to me... alittle CIAish I know.. probably because they do software and coding for ATM machines....and dont want people just walking around the building.... anyways. I did a search on Intellius on that phone number and they had the address! Success!!? we will see tomorrow. I will try to get there tomorrow(with flowers as originally planned) I know she is going to get pissed,,, but what is a husband going to do?

-B

 

[BigDyl]

Ok guys... She said she was going to tell me the next day... but obviously not... situation was still to hott! So I backed off for awhile.... I usually take charge,, ,but this scares the shi out of me... I want to continue this marriage..

Anyways... I let it cool down for awhile... she knows I still think about it. But here is the good news... The software corporation she works for is on the internet,,, it gives a PO box but no real building address..but it left a telephone number and emails... I once called trying to get there address but even they wouldnt give it to me... alittle CIAish I know.. probably because they do software and coding for ATM machines....and dont want people just walking around the building.... anyways. I did a search on Intellius on that phone number and they had the address! Success!!? we will see tomorrow. I will try to get there tomorrow(with flowers as originally planned) I know she is going to get pissed,,, but what is a husband going to do?

-B

I've figured it out for you bro.

Either...

A. She's in the CIA and is like stfu, if she tells you she'll have to kill you

or

B. Her "software" company makes software... if you count writing code for a proprietary video player that can play her exotic sexual acts as software.