Whats the best way to approach women in the gym

[Kathybird]

OK I got one. A friend just happened to mention it. The guy asked the gals at the front desk to ask her if she might be interested in coffee with so-and-so, over there, the one in the grey tee shirt. He arranged it as she was leaving so she wasn't distracted during her workout, and didn't have to approach her in the parking lot (sorry MuscleGirl, that's where the mace is comin' out...). She thought it was cute. They've been on a "real" date since.

 

[MDR]

MDR, by that analogy, The bar is for drinking. While that is the case, many a woman have been picked up at the bar.

The only reason I mentioned a drink at a bar or coffee is that it involves less commitment then an actual date. If you are concerned about giving the wrong impression, you can pick a place that does not have that kind of reputation. Always thought that a quick meet the first time out is a great way to get to know someone a bit. The activity itself does not really matter. It just gives you a chance to see if a real date is in order, and gives her the chance to do the same. If she is comfortable with you and enjoys chatting with you, chances are much greater that she will be comfortable on a date. Also, there is less pressure going out with someone that you know a little bit.

 

[lynnlynn]

Men do not talk to me while I am at them gym. I think this is because I pick up heavier stuff than they do.

 

[Curt James]

I can't speak for the others, but I pretty much use the New Post feature for checking new posts. I don't surf female chat.

Yup.

 

[Muscle_Girl]

MDR, by that analogy, The bar is for drinking. While that is the case, many a woman have been picked up at the bar.

Sure, it can be viewed as that, but its social drinking.. otherwise people would drink at home. It has evolved into a place where people go to pick up/get picked up.

You will meet people anywhere that is frequented by the public, it will be on a situational basis and depend on the person... take a few swings, you may get some strikes, but you may get a hit or home run.

Now.. commence the sausagefest!

 

[Glycomann]

I've always felt it to be kind of slime ball-ish to hit on women at the gym. I also see the gym as a place of zen and don't want to be bothered. I think some women might think the same way. I don't believe they want to feel uncomfortable and hit on every time they go to workout. I know there are women out there who's sole purpose is to be ogled and macked to when they go to the gym. I'm not concerned about those sluts.

My question is what is the best approach to break the ice and not come off like some creep? Im respectful of women and don't like invading their space.

Thoughts?

the only thing that works is to grab their coochie.

 

[KelJu]

MDR, by that analogy, The bar is for drinking. While that is the case, many a woman have been picked up at the bar.

No, a bar is for getting drunk, and that includes all the things that go with getting drunk: socializing, dancing, hitting on chicks, ect.

 

[TJTJ]

OK I got one. A friend just happened to mention it. The guy asked the gals at the front desk to ask her if she might be interested in coffee with so-and-so, over there, the one in the grey tee shirt. He arranged it as she was leaving so she wasn't distracted during her workout, and didn't have to approach her in the parking lot (sorry MuscleGirl, that's where the mace is comin' out...). She thought it was cute. They've been on a "real" date since.

You're saying he had one of the girls at the front desk to ask a woman out for him when she was leaving? How old are these two? Thats like a high school move. It seems like he didnt have to balls to ask her himself. I mean it sounds like a plan because if she declines it wouldn't happen to his face and seen being rejected in public.

After she said yes did he come running over to get her number?

 

[Arnold]

how about a nice smack on the ass?

 

[flexxthese]

You're saying he had one of the girls at the front desk to ask a woman out for him when she was leaving? How old are these two? Thats like a high school move. It seems like he didnt have to balls to ask her himself. I mean it sounds like a plan because if she declines it wouldn't happen to his face and seen being rejected in public.

After she said yes did he come running over to get her number?

You're the queerbag that's too afraid to talk to a woman. So who are you to judge her example of something that worked?

 

[TJTJ]

You're the queerbag that's too afraid to talk to a woman. So who are you to judge her example of something that worked?

Are we playing internet tough guy? Trying to stand up for her? Dude relax. I wasnt judging shit. Im sure she didnt take it the way youre taking it, up the ass. And youre calling me a queerbag?!

What she described sounded like something a kid would do. Im willing to approach them. Not hand notes around and hope the teacher doesnt catch me. I appreciate her chiming in, though.

Read the OP. Im not 'afraid" to talk to women, dickhole. Im asking what women think is a gentlemanly way to approach a woman at the gym. Because there are plenty of slime balls who visit the gym and Im sure creep them out.

And GD whats with all the dudes hanging around the Female forum, anyways?

 

[Kathybird]

Thats like a high school move.

That's why she thought it was cute. He'd never talked to her before this. And she's 34. I assume he's around the same.

After she said yes did he come running over to get her number?

No, she left her number with the girls at the front desk.

It should be mentioned that the front desk girls are cute and a bunch of giggly types, they're bubbly and talk to everyone a bit as they come and go. I wouldn't put it past them to have suggested the maneuver to the guy.

 

[TJTJ]

Cool. Well, thanks.

 

[Curt James]

You're saying he had one of the girls at the front desk to ask a woman out for him when she was leaving? How old are these two? Thats like a high school move. It seems like he didnt have to balls to ask her himself. I mean it sounds like a plan because if she declines it wouldn't happen to his face and seen being rejected in public.

After she said yes did he come running over to get her number?

Lots of people meet other people by introductions from their friends. This seems like a close cousin to that.

Whatever works, right?

 

[TJTJ]

Lots of people meet other people by introductions from their friends. This seems like a close cousin to that.

Whatever works, right?

Oh for sure, and thats my biggest issue. Without a family or close friends to introduce me to, Im stuck with the stranger approach. What Kathy mentioned is something I definitely would not have thought of.

 

[Curt James]

I wouldn't have either. Good luck, man.

Just keep expanding your circle of friends. Be yourself, blah blah, right?

 

[TJTJ]

haha, right. Thanks dude.

 

[Muscle_Girl]

And GD whats with all the dudes hanging around the Female forum, anyways?

I have been asking this for weeks, but they still lurk in the shadows ready to pounce on anything and everything in the female forum.

 

[TJTJ]

I have been asking this for weeks, but they still lurk in the shadows ready to pounce on anything and everything in the female forum.

This is what Im talking about. Just like at the gym.

 

[MDR]

Men can post in this forum (obviously) as long as they are respecful to the women present. Plus, there are a lot more men than women overall on the website, so it just makes sense that there would be a lot of posts from men.

 

[TJTJ]

Men can post in this forum (obviously) as long as they are respecful to the women present. Plus, there are a lot more men than women overall on the website, so it just makes sense that there would be a lot of posts from men.

true

 

[Muscle_Girl]

Men can post in this forum (obviously) as long as they are respecful to the women present. Plus, there are a lot more men than women overall on the website, so it just makes sense that there would be a lot of posts from men.

I just write it off as all these "men" wanting to be women!

 

[niki]

I just think they are fascinated with us....

 

[KelJu]

when you search the new posts on the right hand side it shows what section the thread is posted in. Now you guys know.

Now can we get

I'm not going to change my surfing habits for anyone. If something looks interesting in the new posts list, I'm going to reply to it.

 

[MDR]

I just think they are fascinated with us....

Guilty as charged!

 

[HialeahChico305]

Just wait till they start using the "peaka-boo machine" and stare at them like a piece of steak. One of two things will happen, either you get her horny or she most likely will feel disgusted by your "inappropriate" behavior. Scenario #2 most likely willl occur but hey at least you got a good peek at the goodies

 

[vortrit]

No, a bar is for getting drunk, and that includes all the things that go with getting drunk: socializing, dancing, hitting on chicks, ect.

Agreed. Last time I went to a bar a chick hit on me. She was DTF and let's just say we almost did it in the parking lot. We got to her friends house who told us not to do it in the house so I boned her out in the front yard at three in the morning. It was fantastic.

 

[vortrit]

Yup.

No post from virgins please.

 

[HialeahChico305]

Agreed. Last time I went to a bar a chick hit on me. She was DTF and let's just say we almost did it in the parking lot. We got to her friends house who told us not to do it in the house so I boned her out in the front yard at three in the morning. It was fantastic.

craiglist date?

 

[Gissurjon]

the only thing that works is to grab their coochie.

finally somebody that spells coochie like i spell coochie. How do you spell punany?