anyone care to talk bout how shitty my relationship is

[Curt James]

sometimes in a long term relationship you have to eat shit...the reason being is that you/me/guys/anyone....we all suck sometimes...and the thing we need the most is someone to put up with our shit...i was not always mature enough to do what i needed to as a husband...sometimes when you are frustrated about the other person...the thing you really need to do is look in the mirror

love is so awesome until real real life sets in....love isnt really what you like about someone...its about how much you are willing to go thru and put up with out of that person....anything worth having takes work

Good on you, KOS.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

bro u have no idea if her car were to break down it would be my fault and i dont ever drive her car, she got mad this morning cause we had to go to my gmas this morning for christmas, also on way home the pie she placed in the seat spilled and she starts yelling at me, im always at home for this girl im not out drinking and partying with friends or stupid shit like that, i dont drink period, whenever im at walmart or something ill always get her something like a little bear or some shit and this is after 3yrs not many guys keep that up, im telling u i dont know wat i do wrong ive tried everything to make her pleased with me but i just cant do it anymore i guess

you cant tell me man...ive been with the same girl 7 years today....shes put up with a ton out of me...ive put up with a ton out of her....if youll be happier without her then get rid of her...i used to cheat on my wife all the time...went thru a 2 year period where i was really a piece of trash i couldnt stand to get off work and go home...but she stood by me out of love...then one day i pushed it too far...came home....baby gone...wife gone....thing is when they take all the bad withem an leave...they take all the good to


cant love in slices...if you dont love her then you shouldnt have made this thread and its a non issue

but you did make the thread so you must care
the symptoms you describe sound like a complicated woman in distress

beleive me regret is a hell of a thing to live with

i carry guilt with me everyday for the shit ive done

 

[antonoverlord]

thread was made to talk bout it thats all helps to be able to say how u feel, its not that i can just say hey were over its not that easy for me i really do care how she feels but ur right bout the cheating part thatll hurt more and does it matter if i love her if shes never gonna change then wat just put up with it for ur whole life cause u love her, sometimes theres more to it than just loving someone

 

[Miss Springsteen]

i know u did and ill get it fixed or watch it on another computer maybe use my buddies to check it out, i wont let him watch though, lol thats my video lol jk

Lol okay sounds good!

 

[Curt James]

bro u have no idea if her car were to break down it would be my fault and i dont ever drive her car, she got mad this morning cause we had to go to my gmas this morning for christmas, also on way home the pie she placed in the seat spilled and she starts yelling at me, im always at home for this girl im not out drinking and partying with friends or stupid shit like that, i dont drink period, whenever im at walmart or something ill always get her something like a little bear or some shit and this is after 3yrs not many guys keep that up, im telling u i dont know wat i do wrong ive tried everything to make her pleased with me but i just cant do it anymore i guess

I'm probably not the one to give advice, but if you're married then consider KOS's advice. If you just living together and single? Three years may seem like a long time but it's vapor. Life's too short to be miserable. Gtfo. And I mean that in the nicest way, brother.

Might want to wait until the holidays are over, but have you talked with her about your concerns? Ask if she wants your relationship to work. If not, sell the place or put her stuff in storage and look for roommates. Good luck.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

women are complicated...if you go thru a tough time in your life where you dont act like yourself is it ok for your woman that you depend on to tuck tail and run cause you hurt her feelings?

give me a break...thats pussy talk...i used to do the same shit...wife hurt my feelings id go fuck someone else...take the easy way out...put a band aid on the issue

there is a root problem...find it..be a man


i bet you all the money in my bank account(not much)
that when you find someone else...you will deal with there shit too...but you probly wont love them or have 3 years invested

 

[antonoverlord]

ive told her that i feel like shes always mad at me and im not ever sure why she just says no im not and gets all defensive about it then it turns into a fight. Where not married but we live together she moved in with me after maybe 5months

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

ive told her that i feel like shes always mad at me and im not ever sure why she just says no im not and gets all defensive about it then it turns into a fight. Where not married but we live together she moved in with me after maybe 5months

something your not saying...what happened to her?

how long she been like that?

 

[Curt James]

Maybe she's angry you haven't given her a ring.

That didn't work for me, though. lol

Seriously, I'd be out.

You two need counseling. Again, I mean that in the most positive way possible. Had another girlfriend who was all about counselors. We didn't work out but there's something to having another set of eyes look at things and move the conversation along.

That can be a very good thing.

 

[antonoverlord]

women are complicated...if you go thru a tough time in your life where you dont act like yourself is it ok for your woman that you depend on to tuck tail and run cause you hurt her feelings?

give me a break...thats pussy talk...i used to do the same shit...wife hurt my feelings id go fuck someone else...take the easy way out...put a band aid on the issue

there is a root problem...find it..be a man


i bet you all the money in my bank account(not much)
that when you find someone else...you will deal with there shit too...but you probly wont love them or have 3 years invested

i understand yes u have to put up with shit in every relationship theres no fairy tales here, but how are u suppose to fix the problem if the probllems who u are, ur saying i should change for her or wat, i think u think im just raggiing on her and u really think its my fault that i make her this way, but i assure u its not i try to make this thing work when we get in fights she just wants to leave and act like it didnt happen i cant do that i have to have closure and know that the problem is really ok but anyhow ur girl is probably there for u, do u feel like she loves u cause at this point i feel like theres no love for me, would ur girl get up and move because u had to move to another state for idk any reason at all, this girl would not

 

[antonoverlord]

honestly kos shes been this way for about a year now i just shrug it off and kept going i never gave her any reason to not love me anymore never cheated on her or was talking to some other girl idk wat happened honestly, thats what id like to know and she always says theres no problem but you know with that tone and attitude oh nothings wrong come on guys we all no better thhan that and curt for the ring ya right she said she doesnt even let me borrow her car she doesnt wantt to commit im sure of it but yet she says she loves me so wat sense does that make

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

honestly kos shes been this way for about a year now i just shrug it off and kept going i never gave her any reason to not love me anymore never cheated on her or was talking to some other girl idk wat happened honestly, thats what id like to know and she always says theres no problem but you know with that tone and attitude oh nothings wrong come on guys we all no better thhan that and curt for the ring ya right she said she doesnt even let me borrow her car she doesnt wantt to commit im sure of it but yet she says she loves me so wat since does that make

a year is a long time...my wife was angry for 2 years...with good reason

i dont know man

maybe be upfront tell her you are ready to give up if she doesnt want to do something about what is going on...she moght realize she is pushing you away

 

[antonoverlord]

i will kos thanks bro for advice

 

[KelJu]

Just do what I did. Slowly die inside, turn cold, stop giving a fuck, and look at the opposite sex as nothing but someone who carries around a warm wet hole for you. Buy it drinks, tell it lies, and run as fast as possible anytime you have the slightest emotion.

I figured it out completely by accident, but I am amazed at how well it has worked.

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

Have you tried TALKING ABOUT IT?

Seriously, I've never been in this situation before and I've had 3 serious G/F's.

Just talk it out, until it's done.

Some part of you must enjoy the drama or you'd put a real stop to it.

Stop being a bitch.

 

[Dark Geared God]

something your not saying...what happened to her?

how long she been like that?

Or maybe she cheating....

 

[HialeahChico305]

Just do what I did. Slowly die inside, turn cold, stop giving a fuck, and look at the opposite sex as nothing but someone who carries around a warm wet hole for you. Buy it drinks, tell it lies, and run as fast as possible anytime you have the slightest emotion.

I figured it out completely by accident, but I am amazed at how well it has worked.

This is the exact behavior of a women who has been hurt by guys , its a lose/lose scenario for our species to act this way.

 

[GFR]

Let me get this straight.

You have a girlfriend, who you are not married to, have no kids with and don't own anything with.

Honestly I feel nothing for you, you are a fucking crybaby with no real problems. Dump her and move on. It cracks me up when people like this think they have real problems.

 

[KelJu]

Let me get this straight.

You have a girlfriend, who you are not married to, have no kids with and don't own anything with.

Honestly I feel nothing for you, you are a fucking crybaby with no real problems. Dump her and move on. It cracks me up when people like this think they have real problems.

I have to agree with you. Being a cynical and jaded person sucks and all, but I still feel lucky compared to my friends who knocked up a chick, or worse, got married. They pay for that mistake nearly every day of their life.

 

[HialeahChico305]

Let me get this straight.

You have a girlfriend, who you are not married to, have no kids with and don't own anything with.

Honestly I feel nothing for you, you are a fucking crybaby with no real problems. Dump her and move on. It cracks me up when people like this think they have real problems.

ever had a first love? Even you were young once old timer, put yourself in his shoes. ( I agree with your comment by the way, assuming the girl he is referring to is not his first sexual encounter. )

 

[Powerexpl]

Don't let her control your life man. Girls can be so deceptive. I know it's all about making sacrifices in a long-term relationship. I know all about it but women can slo go overboard. Stand up for yourself.

 

[awhites1]

just this girl weve lived together for like 3 years now and we use to be in love i quess u could say but this last year shes always mad .... now theres this girl that i really like and she for sure likes me but has a bf and doesnt want to break up with him ....

well you're not married. and it's been 3 years so sounds like it's about time duece out. "hey sweety I'm going out tonight. be back later" then

minus the shooting part... if you know you already like someone else and you're not into the old ball and chain and you aren't married i say move on. Unless you want to try to work it out but sounds like you don't

 

[colochine]

Let me get this straight.

You have a girlfriend, who you are not married to, have no kids with and don't own anything with.

Honestly I feel nothing for you, you are a fucking crybaby with no real problems. Dump her and move on. It cracks me up when people like this think they have real problems.

First world problems.

 

[GearsMcGilf]

bro u have no idea if her car were to break down it would be my fault and i dont ever drive her car, she got mad this morning cause we had to go to my gmas this morning for christmas, also on way home the pie she placed in the seat spilled and she starts yelling at me, im always at home for this girl im not out drinking and partying with friends or stupid shit like that, i dont drink period, whenever im at walmart or something ill always get her something like a little bear or some shit and this is after 3yrs not many guys keep that up, im telling u i dont know wat i do wrong ive tried everything to make her pleased with me but i just cant do it anymore i guess

You gotta get out of this one for sure. Financial issues, such as the house can be solved. You can get a roommate (sounds like that's all you have now, and a shitty one at that) and share the expense. But, life's too short for this shit. I'd also drop the chick on the side. Like dude said above, if she's screwing around behind her bfs back with you, what makes you think she won't do it to you if you become the new bf? You don't wanna jump out of the frying pan and into the fire. You ought to ditch'em both.

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

You gotta get out of this one for sure. Financial issues, such as the house can be solved. You can get a roommate (sounds like that's all you have now, and a shitty one at that) and share the expense. But, life's too short for this shit. I'd also drop the chick on the side. Like dude said above, if she's screwing around behind her bfs back with you, what makes you think she won't do it to you if you become the new bf? You don't wanna jump out of the frying pan and into the fire. You ought to ditch'em both.

This ^

Grow up Anton.
Life isn't a fairy tale. I know that's what disney wants you to believe.
But it just ain't so. Don't waste years of your life on this stupid shit bro.