Another Day in the shits!!! Bored as hell

[P-funk]

Well, another day in the shits! I have almost completely isolated myself form the outside world. All I do is sit here in my apt. and read, eat and sleep (if I am not working out that is). I wonder why I have no life and feel like such a loser at times and now I know...I never fucking do anything! I have been so bored all day (and all weekend) and I was supposed to go this party with a freind of mine and his wife tonight to watch the fireworks here in Manhattan but he went out to the beach all day yesterday and got so drunk that he doesn't feel like going out at all today (LOL.....I always wonder how my training partner can go out and get wrecked like that and show up the next day to train like and animal, heavy and hard). So now I am not going to the party (because (a) I don't drink and (b) it is his brother in-laws party so I know no one there). This sucks, I hate not having anything to do. I guess I will go out to eat and then walk over to the East river and watch the fireworks by myself like a compete loser. Sometimes I can't stand my life.....

 

[Akateros]

Hi, P-.

You're not a loser. Is it post-comp doldrums, perhaps? I found the same thing; after doing nothing but sleep, train and eat (apparently) for three months, I had completely lost touch with the outside world.

Cheer up. Have fun at the fireworks. Say hi to a random stranger.

Drunk people are all boring.

 

[P-funk]

Hi, P-.

You're not a loser. Is it post-comp doldrums, perhaps? I found the same thing; after doing nothing but sleep, train and eat (apparently) for three months, I had completely lost touch with the outside world.

Cheer up. Have fun at the fireworks. Say hi to a random stranger.

Drunk people are all boring.

Oh no, it has nothing to do with the post competition....lol, I have been like this for years....anti-social as hell. I lack personality greatly because of it.

 

[Akateros]

Ya figure? Sometimes I think it's because other people lack personality myself.

I might be a tad on the misanthropic side though. Or just crabby.

 

[P-funk]

I might be a tad on the misanthropic side though. Or just crabby.

LOL, good call

 

[Akateros]

I did find the post comp made it worse though. Where before I'd felt like an alien passing as human, during and after I pretty much lost the ability to pass.

 

[Arnold]

Oh no, it has nothing to do with the post competition....lol, I have been like this for years....anti-social as hell. I lack personality greatly because of it.

I think we are a lot alike!

I have always been kind of a loner myself, luckily I am married now so my only friend (other than you guys online) is her. The only reason I go to any type of events, partys, etc. is because she makes me go! Otherwise I would be doing exactly what you are.

My advice is to find yourself a woman.

 

[Akateros]

Welcome to the "I Hate People" corner.

 

[P-funk]

I think we are a lot alike!

I have always been kind of a loner myself, luckily I am married now so my only friend (other than you guys online) is her. The only reason I go to any type of events, partys, etc. is because she makes me go! Otherwise I would be doing exactly what you are.

My advice is to find yourself a woman.

Yes, this is the problem. I have no outlet to meet someone. One of my good freinds says that I need a girl that is the opposite of me, out going and very social so that she can drag me out to events. All of my freinds were really surprised when I was competing because on stage I have no fear at all and don't give off any appereance of being nervous. But once I step off stage I quietly stand in the corner of the room. A client of mine that was at the show said he was fascinated at my social behaviour and the way I handle myself on stage compared to how I am off stage. lol....I am a total wreck.

It sounds like we are a lot alike though

 

[Akateros]

I married someone even less social than I am.

Not to say that I am sorry!

 

[P-funk]

Welcome to the "I Hate People" corner.

I wonder about that statment. Sometimes I don't know if it is people that I hate or if it is mylsef that i hate??


When did you compete?

 

[P-funk]

I married someone even less social than I am.

Smart move....

 

[Akateros]

I wonder about that statment. Sometimes I don't know if it is people that I hate or if it is mylsef that i hate??

Well, yes. That has occasionally been a problem. I am working on that bit.

When did you compete?

End of April. I'm going to do another (or 2) in November.

 

[P-funk]

Well, yes. That has occasionally been a problem. I am working on that bit.

End of April. I'm going to do another (or 2) in November.

Great, how did you do? Was there a thread with pictures? I may have missed it.

 

[Arnold]

One of my good freinds says that I need a girl that is the opposite of me, out going and very social so that she can drag me out to events.

that is how Gena is, outgoing and social. (as they say opposites attract)

and as far as going to the corner of the room, yup that is exactly what I do.

the only exception is if I am around my family (dad, mom, sister).

 

[Akateros]

No, I didn't post any. I came in third, but out of three. I was not strict enough with my diet, not quite lean enough (according to one of the judges, who I know, I could've taken second if I had been). I thought it better to be safe than sorry with the dieting part.

Of course I did take first in Masters, being the only one there who'd admit being over 35.

You're a musician, aren't you? I'm an actor. What's that about, compensation? I'll do anything fearlessly if you put me on a stage first.

 

[Fit Freak]

Funk...cheer up bud...regardless of your social behavior...I WOULD ALMOST GAURENTEE much of these emotions are being stired up as a result of the post-comp blue.

I am EXTREMELY social yet after the comp...I basically remained alone for 2-3 weeks doing nothing but lying around and eating.

Things improved within a month and now are better than ever.

Just try and get ou tthe house...go for walks...attend events alone (nothing wrong with that)...maybe try something new. You never know who you may meet

 

[P-funk]

Wow, that is great. When do you start your diet for the next show!

You're a musician, aren't you? I'm an actor. What's that about, compensation? I'll do anything fearlessly if you put me on a stage first.

Yes, I went to college for music (I think I am going to go back to college to be a phyiscians assistant). I feel comfortable performing but a lot of depression stems form when I played music because, being the perfectionist that I am, I would put a lot of pressure on myself and spend hours (8-10 a day) in my bedroom practicing and telling myself bad things like "you suck", "you'll never be good at this", "you are nothing", etc....I have really dug myself into a hole.

 

[P-funk]

Funk...cheer up bud...regardless of your social behavior...I WOULD ALMOST GAURENTEE much of these emotions are being stired up as a result of the post-comp blue.

I am EXTREMELY social yet after the comp...I basically remained alone for 2-3 weeks doing nothing but lying around and eating.

Things improved within a month and now are better than ever.

Just try and get ou tthe house...go for walks...attend events alone (nothing wrong with that)...maybe try something new. You never know who you may meet

thanks FF...I hear ya man...you always have really great input

 

[Monolith]

Hey P, is it actual social anxiety? Shyness? Maybe depression? Any other symptoms?

I ask, because there are a lot of neat drugs that can help...

 

[P-funk]

Hey P, is it actual social anxiety? Shyness? Maybe depression? Any other symptoms?

I ask, because there are a lot of neat drugs that can help...

Uh OH!! here comes Dr. MONO to perscribe me somthing.

It is all three reall...social anxiety, shyness and depression. The worst part is I always feel like I am a burden on people, on my freinds. I never go out becasue I feel like I drag the group down. In bars they are havin good time and I am standing there, not drinking, not talking (realy what would I have to talk about anyway?) so I feel like I am brining everyone down and it is hard for them to hang out with me. So I rarely call people and I rarely leave my apt. for fear of ruining someone elses evening.

Got and scripts for my Doc??

 

[Pierzin]

Join a club

dude
FitFreak is right. Join a club.
Hey, don't feel bad. My dad's having a party, but that's 30 miles away. Luv ya pops, but not this time. I said no thanks to that. I dont wanna deal with all that gawd awful traffic. Crap, I am tired of goig somwehere every holiday! Screw that! I wanna get drunk(or maybe just buzzed hehe), and my familys so conservative, ugh. Just waitin for the party to start here.

Consider yourself lucky, P. You have a pretty good gig going. I have friends with degrees comin out the anus working for peanuts because they have to repay their student loans.

Who needs fireworks anyway? They're stupid!
I'm gonna stuff my face and go to bed!
Peace, P

 

[Monolith]

Uh OH!! here comes Dr. MONO to perscribe me somthing.

It is all three reall...social anxiety, shyness and depression. The worst part is I always feel like I am a burden on people, on my freinds. I never go out becasue I feel like I drag the group down. In bars they are havin good time and I am standing there, not drinking, not talking (realy what would I have to talk about anyway?) so I feel like I am brining everyone down and it is hard for them to hang out with me. So I rarely call people and I rarely leave my apt. for fear of ruining someone elses evening.

Got and scripts for my Doc??

Man i feel exactly the same way (at least it sounds that way). A lot of times i dont go out just because i think ill screw up other peoples times, or i just dont feel comfortable socializing... period. I also dont like to drink... not because i have some moral/ethical stand, but because of its health effects (although every once in a while ill get plastered). But because of that, going out usually sucks... because all my friends ever do is drink.

Anyway, ive found wellbutrin (bupropion) to help quite a lot for all those things. I also have a tendency towards very mild OCD and ADD, which has improved a LOT since ive started the wellbutrin. Most doctors will give you a month or so free in samples... and after that, i think the generic drug is pretty cheap (my insurance covers mine, so im not really sure what it is exactly). Everyone's brain chemistry is different, though... but i think if you could get something, it'd help a lot.

Imagine having to work out with an uneven barbell. i.e. a 45 on one side, a 25 on the other. You can get stronger, you can get bigger... but itll be a lot harder to reach perfection with your muscle symmetry constantly out of whack. You'll never be able to reach your full potential, or be able to play on the same level as people with an evenly weighted bar. Now imagine that symmetry is your neurochemistry. Some neurotransmitters might be depressed, others might be elevated, etc. Theyre not "symmetrical." Yeah you can get by, you can function... but you'll never reach your potential. You'll never be able to enjoy yourself fully without "fixing" your mind... without evening the weight on that bar.

Thats the way i feel about it, anyway. I <3 drugs.

 

[aggies1ut]

I can so relate to all this. All I do is sleep, eat, workout, read, school (during most of the year)....blah. I go for walks, I see movies by myself, etc. I'm one boring, anti-social person myself.

Lol, sorry I couldn't add any positive feedback.

 

[Jill]

Me and my man are pretty anti-social too. We just eat, train, and work basically. We got invited to a club with some friends yesterday, but didnt go, of course-Its not like we've been to a club lately, its probably been a year. We also didnt go cause everyone was leaving at 10:30-11, our bedtime..

There is nothing wrong with being a 'loner' I guess you could call it. Most of the time I like doing things alone rather that bringing a friend along to annoy me.

I think you need to find a lady with some of the same interests as you-just so you are on the same page as one another. She can still be outgoing and social, but its great when someone enjoys the same things as you. (Training) Cheer up.

 

[P-funk]

I think you need to find a lady with some of the same interests as you-just so you are on the same page as one another. She can still be outgoing and social, but its great when someone enjoys the same things as you. (Training) Cheer up.

Finding this person is easier said then done my freind. I don't want to meet anymore girls at bars as that has been nothing bit chaos in the past, plus those girls usually have no intrest in what I am doing and it is odd because I don't drink. Meeting somone in the gym is impossible because I don't talk to anyone when I am there. When I am working out I am working out. I don't pay attentino to anyone around me. I just workout. I don't like to socialize when I train. Also I am usually sweating like a pig (LOL).

 

[derekisdman]

Are all people on the internet like this? Because this sounds like me too, except I don't consider myself a loser. I'm 19 and people say that I have no life because I don't go out often or don't have a job, but that's just the kind of person I am. They don't understand that I enjoy hanging out at home and just relaxing. If your not doing these things like going out all the time and being really social and are sad and really want to do them, then you should - but make sure that you're not doing them just because society tells you that's how you should be. Everyone thinks they should be a certain way and do things because that's just how it's supposed to be, but you should just do what makes you happy and comformtable.

 

[P-funk]

Are all people on the internet like this?

I believe a lot of people that are sitting on the internet, especially on a friday and sat. night, are in a similiar boat.

Everyone thinks they should be a certain way and do things because that's just how it's supposed to be, but you should just do what makes you happy and comformtable.

that is the thing. i am not happy. the problem is i have no idea how to get off of this sinking ship.

 

[aggies1ut]

Finding this person is easier said then done my freind. I don't want to meet anymore girls at bars as that has been nothing bit chaos in the past, plus those girls usually have no intrest in what I am doing and it is odd because I don't drink. Meeting somone in the gym is impossible because I don't talk to anyone when I am there. When I am working out I am working out. I don't pay attentino to anyone around me. I just workout. I don't like to socialize when I train. Also I am usually sweating like a pig (LOL).

Lol, except for the part about girls in my case, this is very true. Bars are usually full of the type of people that you don't want to date. In the gym, I just zone out and dripping sweat off equipment is not exactly appealing.

Hum. Maybe I should start going to more sporting events and car shows or something.

 

[sara]

My friends think I don't like them or something.. I don't go out to clubs with them and get drunk.
cheer up P-funk!! you will be fine and less stressed after the competition