I'd love to talk to the guy; but he's unapproachable. He's an old fashioned, blue collar non expressive guido (I can say that I'm a guido myself). This miserable prick didnt talk to me for 1 year because I was dating his daughter. The first time I met him at dinner he told me to "shut the fuck up". My wife, then girlfriend, knew what I was capable of doing but grabbed me under the table to stop me from ripping his throat out of the socket.
I basically kept my mouth shut all these years because, a) I'm better than that and, b) I did it for my mother in law because she was so sweet to me. Now, without that spigot of self control (my mom in law), I have released all this hatred and dont know what to do with it. I am respectful in front of him, because of my awesome wife, and will continue to be.
I would like to express this to him, but he's not right in the head because of his son being in the hospital-facing dementia from HIV going to his brain-which he doesnt want anything to do with, and the death of his wife. So really, my feelings take a way back seat in this whole fucked up thing. I just need to vent and cant do anywhere else. My brothers understand how I feel as do my friends; this is just a personal hell I need to go through. Part of me died because my mom in law died and this is basically my cross to bear.