Stop sh*t stirring please.
You don't have your facts correct. Get the right information and then do what you want in your life... but don't just spread your ignorant opinion all over the board - it is not appreciated.
GENITAL HERPES AND ORAL HERPES ARE DIFFERENT
What you are doing is comparing the cold and the flu. Sure - some of the signs/symptoms may be similar - but they are not the same thing and one is a lot more severe than the other!
Herpes Simplex 1 (cold sores) is generally transmitted via saliva and primarily causes mouth ulcers (cold sores).
Herpes Simplex 2 (genital herpes) is a SEPARATE VIRUS STRAIN. It USUALLY results from independent transmission via sexual contact with people who have actively shedding genital lesions.
They used to be very easy to distinguish (based purely on the site of the infection)... However, due to oro-genital sexual practices, isolates of the simplex 1 virus are detected on the genitals and isolates of the herpes simplex 2 virus are detected in the mouth.
You can't catch 'genital herpes' (simplex 2) from someone who has 'cold sores' (simplex 1) and you can't catch 'cold sores' (simplex 1) from someone who has 'genital herpes' (simplex 2).
Now - you CAN get sores on your genitals from herpes simplex 1... And you CAN get sores on your mouth from herpes simplex 2... But as GG said - simplex 1 is not as bad. The lesions usually only last 1 week and don't cause too much of a problem (they are smaller and less severe). Herpes simplex 2 causes larger, more painful lesions that take up to 2 weeks to heal.
I have read 2 schools of thought on this
In terms of your fear of contracting the infection... Do what you see fit to 'avoid' infection but as I said before - you probably have herpes simplex 1 already [if you REALLY want to know - go to your doctor and ask for a test - they can test you to see if you have ever had the disease].... About 80% of all people do. So in order to avoid ALL contact with infected individuals you are going to have to avoid EVERYONE because you will not be able to tell who has it and who doesn't...
50-80%
Simplex 1 is usually contracted in childhood - and the kid usually gets something similar to a 'flu' and will then also develop mouth ulcers [but just on a side note - they need not get mouth ulcers - infection can occur in the eye, on the skin and the fingers... so just because you didn't have a mouth ulcer or you DON'T get mouth ulcers now doesn't mean you do not have the virus]...
After the mouth ulcers/primary ulcer heals you might not have any further signs (most people) but, during this infection, the virus enters nearby nerves and travels up to live in nerve 'ganglions' (where nerve cells hang out). This is why 'herpes is for life' - because the bodies immune cells can't get to it. So you will STILL have the virus - it is just you don't get the sores.
Does that mean YOU'RE infective? And that you can transmit the disease??
NO!
A better answer would be probably not
People who are infected DO NOT shed the virus 100% of the time. It sits in the ganglion 'latent' - meaning it is INACTIVE and CAN NOT BE TRANSMITTED!! It is NOT replicating! It is only when the virus is REACTIVATED and it travels back down these nerves to the skin or mouth sites that the virus will replicate and can be spread (when it does this it usually causes a 'tingling' or 'burning' sensation - but it will not always go on to develop the sore).
You have no way to be sure you are not shedding...there not always signs like tingling or burning when it's happening...!!!
Reactivation occurs for many reasons - and it depends on the person. Some people find that sunburn can trigger reactivation. Others find it is stress. Some females get them when they get their period... Most will get it when their immune system is 'stressed' like in other illnesses (eg: getting a cold or the flu) or more severe things like cancer or contracting AIDS.
Sure - Don't kiss anyone with obvious lesions or anyone who is experiencing that 'tingling' or 'burning' sensation... and don't have sexual contact with anyone who has these either... But there is no way you can completely isolate yourself from everyone who has the virus.