Hi, I am new to this and need some advice.
My partner and I have been together for 2 year. we love each other a lot ( Well I love him, not sure if he loves me at the moment lol) The last year he has gotten into bodybuilding, which is his dream. I was never all for it but it was what he really wanted to do, so of course I said to go for it. First it started with a strict diet to see if his body would react to it, now about 10 months later and 9 weeks out of his comp he is in " Prep mode" No carbs for 4 weeks, starting last week. I help him with his injections etc
He was suppose to compete in three weeks but will have to miss that as his coach hasn't been there for him enough in the last 8 weeks and he isn't ready to compete. He is really upset about it, obviously. and I know its taken a toll on him and our relationship as he has been putting in 100% effort for his trainer with times that suit him which takes away from us & Family time etc.
Anyway the problem we are facing is lately we have been fighting so much, We never normally fight? all he cares about is training, training, training. Which I don't have a problem with even thought i miss him SO much as long as there is a balance however that balance is no longer there any more. He is grumpy, not himself, trains all night with his trainer, twice a day. He isn't the him.. bubbly, sweet,funny, loving guy he once was.
All he does is make comments on what everyone else is eating and how everyone else is training. ( I train 3-4 times a week, only carido because I am not into it like he is and he once loved that.) I feel like maybe now he wants a chick who is into body building? is this just what he is going through now or is he not into me any more?
I want to support him but I don't know how. He says i don't support him but I'm trying so so hard. Can anyone give me any tips. Will he go back to normal? why does he hate me all of a sudden? Am i being a sook ?
Its so hard feeling this low and lonely and knowing i can't talk to him about it without him thinking I'm picking a fight and not supporting him.
He asked me to get him some ice cream and I got the wrong one ( Cheat Meal) he was so mad at me saying I didn't care.
so after venting, my real question here is, Is this normal, do all partners of a body builder feel this way? How can I support him? Am I doing anything wrong.
Thanks, sam
My partner and I have been together for 2 year. we love each other a lot ( Well I love him, not sure if he loves me at the moment lol) The last year he has gotten into bodybuilding, which is his dream. I was never all for it but it was what he really wanted to do, so of course I said to go for it. First it started with a strict diet to see if his body would react to it, now about 10 months later and 9 weeks out of his comp he is in " Prep mode" No carbs for 4 weeks, starting last week. I help him with his injections etc
He was suppose to compete in three weeks but will have to miss that as his coach hasn't been there for him enough in the last 8 weeks and he isn't ready to compete. He is really upset about it, obviously. and I know its taken a toll on him and our relationship as he has been putting in 100% effort for his trainer with times that suit him which takes away from us & Family time etc.
Anyway the problem we are facing is lately we have been fighting so much, We never normally fight? all he cares about is training, training, training. Which I don't have a problem with even thought i miss him SO much as long as there is a balance however that balance is no longer there any more. He is grumpy, not himself, trains all night with his trainer, twice a day. He isn't the him.. bubbly, sweet,funny, loving guy he once was.
All he does is make comments on what everyone else is eating and how everyone else is training. ( I train 3-4 times a week, only carido because I am not into it like he is and he once loved that.) I feel like maybe now he wants a chick who is into body building? is this just what he is going through now or is he not into me any more?
I want to support him but I don't know how. He says i don't support him but I'm trying so so hard. Can anyone give me any tips. Will he go back to normal? why does he hate me all of a sudden? Am i being a sook ?
Its so hard feeling this low and lonely and knowing i can't talk to him about it without him thinking I'm picking a fight and not supporting him.
He asked me to get him some ice cream and I got the wrong one ( Cheat Meal) he was so mad at me saying I didn't care.
so after venting, my real question here is, Is this normal, do all partners of a body builder feel this way? How can I support him? Am I doing anything wrong.
Thanks, sam
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