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Do you believe in spanking?
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Spankity Spank Spank
Originally posted by craig777
Yep, I had a few of the weirdos here email me asking where I have been.
I like spanking hotties and on occasion, bending over and getting spanked by a dominatrix.
firestorm
Banned Member
True,, thier minds are not mature yet so why hit them for it? Having your (not You directly ROB) children "fear" you isn't good either. All I can say (and like I said, I have 2 boys), is getting your children to respond to you can be done without hitting.
firestorm
Banned Member
PROOF OF MY POINT.
firestorm
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firestorm
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It's actually funny sometimes. One of the boys will do something that they know is wrong and I may never even find out about it. They will come up to me or their mom and tell us what they did and then ask what their punishment is.
The little guy Joey who is 6 came up to me 3 weeks ago in tears. I asked him what was wrong and he was barely able to get it out that he and his brother were doing flips on the coutch and broke it. They broke the springs in one section of the sectional sofa. (he was told not to do flips on the coutch prior to this several times) Well I told him not to cry and that telling me would lessen the punishment more then if I had found it out myself. They both got 2 weeks of 19:00 bed times and no video games, friends. I told them how much that sofa cost 2 years ago and that they were going to have to pay for a new one. Joey tells me that he didn't have any money so I told him that they would work for me until it was paid off. So now both of them are making their beds, clearing the dinner table, running the vaccuum etc. I told them they both owe me $1,000. Joey asks me at least once a day how much do I owe you now Dad. It is pretty funny if you think about it.
The little guy Joey who is 6 came up to me 3 weeks ago in tears. I asked him what was wrong and he was barely able to get it out that he and his brother were doing flips on the coutch and broke it. They broke the springs in one section of the sectional sofa. (he was told not to do flips on the coutch prior to this several times) Well I told him not to cry and that telling me would lessen the punishment more then if I had found it out myself. They both got 2 weeks of 19:00 bed times and no video games, friends. I told them how much that sofa cost 2 years ago and that they were going to have to pay for a new one. Joey tells me that he didn't have any money so I told him that they would work for me until it was paid off. So now both of them are making their beds, clearing the dinner table, running the vaccuum etc. I told them they both owe me $1,000. Joey asks me at least once a day how much do I owe you now Dad. It is pretty funny if you think about it.
firestorm
Banned Member
Originally posted by I Are Baboon
My mom would use whatever she could get hands on. A belt, a spoon, a spatula, a stick, a broom handle.
Same Mom as me IAB. She wouldn't be Italian by chance would she? My mom's favorite tool of punishment was a big ass wooden ruler.
firestorm
Banned Member
Originally posted by buff_tat2d_chick
YES!! I do believe in spanking. However, I limit its use. I can't even say what age I stop spanking because it depends on the child. My kids are very polite and have wonderful manners. When we go eat out as family we ALWAYS have several comments on how good and well behaved they are...epecially for there being 5. I teach respect and always piont out the rude assholes (like mma was saying) when the adults can't say "thank you" I always used that as a learning curve and remind the kids how it felt not to be acknowlegde and to make sure they don't act like that.
Back to the point. Spanking is necessary IMO. I have spanked with a belt before, but haven't in years. Hasn't been necessary. I do feel it can get out of hand so I am careful to monitor how I feel and make sure I am not sooooo angry that I am going to "beat" the child. In that case I go and cool down and address it when I am calmer...they usually still get the spanking if it was necessary. My 3 year old only gets an occasional "tap" on the butt...she still thinks its the end of the world, so its very effective
OK this is exactly why I never hit my kids. I was also banged up alot as a child by both my mom and dad. I remember how I felt. I remember the fear. I remember being afraid to tell my mom and dad ANYTHING! I'll never forget report card day!!! Walking up the street after school with that brown envelope was like walking the Gallos. I think I even heard sprirts whispering in my ear: "DEAD MAN WALKING" (MMA will get that one)hahaha but seriously for these reasons and the emotional scars they left taught me to not follow (as many do) in my parents footsteps. I never want my kids to feel about me how I felt towards my parents. I want my kids (as Nicky does now) to not be afraid to come home after school and tell me he got a C on a quizz. I tell him no problem, we'll study a little harder and make it up on the next one!
firestorm
Banned Member
Ok I've just read the LAST POST on here that I care to. (Again about using a belt). What the Fuck!!! How stupid can you people be? It isn't about the amount of PAIN you inflict on a LITTLE child (and I stress the word LITTLE) it is ANY action of discipline showing your disapproval or disapointment in them that makes them respond. A "love tap" with a hand (If you feel you MUST PHYSICALL strike your child) pounds home the same point without physically harming your child with a damn piece of leather. Any child psycologist will tell you that is overkill and down right child abuse!!!! Totally not necessary in the least.
Good for you for breaking that cycle. I can tell you are a good dad
firestorm
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Thanks Lina and yea I do my best. In fact I'm at work and just called home to say good night to both of them. They are my best friends and I want them to feel the same way. I like being their dad and their friend. I never had that and you know the saying, You always want you kids to have it better then you. This I can already say I've accomplished that.
Damn I thought it was spanking as in a good way. But I'll still answer on the subject that I thought it was...
Hell yes I believe in spanking!! If she ain't spanking me while I'm riding then I ain't riding her the right way!!!!
Now on the real subject.
Not sure. I want to say no. But deep down I know that sometimes a spanking may be needed. I'm just hoping that I have been a good enough father and a strict enough father that when I say "no" he knows that I mean "no" and that he will know the difference between right and wrong and understand that there may be consequences (sp) if he chooses wrong over right.
Lord knows I've been bad more times than I was good and I can't remember getting a spanking I didn't deserve... as a child and as an adult
Hell yes I believe in spanking!! If she ain't spanking me while I'm riding then I ain't riding her the right way!!!!
Now on the real subject.
Not sure. I want to say no. But deep down I know that sometimes a spanking may be needed. I'm just hoping that I have been a good enough father and a strict enough father that when I say "no" he knows that I mean "no" and that he will know the difference between right and wrong and understand that there may be consequences (sp) if he chooses wrong over right.
Lord knows I've been bad more times than I was good and I can't remember getting a spanking I didn't deserve... as a child and as an adult
firestorm
Banned Member
Good Post PitBoss. I see you don't use "weapons" on them either such as belts, cooking implements, shoes, baseball bats, or chainsaws.
In my opinion and mine alone, I think that if a parent has to resort to hitting in any way shape or form it is due to their lack of good reasoning and or communicational skills. And of course, no self control when they reach a certain level of frustration.
In my opinion and mine alone, I think that if a parent has to resort to hitting in any way shape or form it is due to their lack of good reasoning and or communicational skills. And of course, no self control when they reach a certain level of frustration.
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david
I prefer other methods besides spanking such as timeouts or in the corner.
I make it a game. They go there for 30 mins... graduate and are allowed to sit and watch TV thereafter with me dictating what they can watch. Such as I'll throw a learning tape in. They MUST watch it! If they don't they recieve 10 mins back in TO or the corner.
However, if they misbehave in TO or the corner, I'll keep adding 10 more mins....
They end up behaving real nicely!
I make it a game. They go there for 30 mins... graduate and are allowed to sit and watch TV thereafter with me dictating what they can watch. Such as I'll throw a learning tape in. They MUST watch it! If they don't they recieve 10 mins back in TO or the corner.
However, if they misbehave in TO or the corner, I'll keep adding 10 more mins....
They end up behaving real nicely!
firestorm
Banned Member
There ya go Dave, we're on the same frequency.
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david
I hear ya! firestorm
Banned Member
OK, no I don't have kids but I have friends who do. Now fire dude, you are big enough your kids probably know when you raise your voice it's serious. But from what I've seen from friends they try all the reasoning, and time outs and take this and that away and there kids are still the biggest brats I've ever see.
But when I raise my voice they listen just due to the fact they are intimidated by me and I'm not even a parent.
I'm not saying kids should be beat, but if they don't respect there parents after they have tried all the other methods. Then fuqin give them a spanking, they will learn to respect you then. Now don't over use the spankings, but strategically placed and at the apropriate times I beleive they are deserved and should be used.
There are many ways to dicipline children, but just like training in the gym, what's good for one guy isn't necessarily good for the next.
firestorm
Banned Member
I hear what your saying my friend but I'd hardly compare child raising to the gym. You are dealing with little people and their personalities not iron or innerself for that matter.
I've seen how some people "attempt" to reprimand their kids and they do a pretty half assed job at it. Raising the voice is intimidating but taking away a childs freedoms or favorite things works a hell of a lot harder then an ass whoopen. An ass whoop lasts 3-5 seconds and then it's over. The kid gets back in line for a bit and all you really did was make the child fear your hand.
My methods of punishment lasts for much longer leaving them more time to think of the actual act that got them in trouble. You think about it, would you rather me punch you in the arm for disagreeing with me or make you sit in a quiet room with nothing to do for 2 hours reflecting on your reason for disagreeing with me.
A smack on the ass again lasts 3 - 5 seconds... I take away playstation for 2 days for a lie. My kids think about that lie much more often my way then just giving them a smack. I can't tell you how many times in a 2 day punishment my little guy will ask me how many more hours until 2 days is over for his lie punishment.
Didn't mean they were the same, was trying to say not all respond to the same type of reprimand/disipline/punishment.
I admire how well behaved you and many on this board's kids are. But also have seen how now days when parents aren't allowed to dicipline there kids without fear of child services and crap like that coming down on them. The many of the kids today have zero work ethic or respect for anybody or there property.
However like I said, spankings shouldn't be all the time, or a consistent punishment, but only used when the other options have failed.
firestorm
Banned Member
dvls' Quote:
"However like I said, spankings shouldn't be all the time, or a consistent punishment, but only used when the other options have failed."
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Ok I'll give you that one D. I'm just glad all my other options haven't failed. And those of my neighborhood friends. None of them hit their kids either and they are really good kids. (ooops one neighbor used to use whoopens on his boys too but they are 10yrs and older now) His boys are very good kids also.
"However like I said, spankings shouldn't be all the time, or a consistent punishment, but only used when the other options have failed."
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Ok I'll give you that one D. I'm just glad all my other options haven't failed. And those of my neighborhood friends. None of them hit their kids either and they are really good kids. (ooops one neighbor used to use whoopens on his boys too but they are 10yrs and older now) His boys are very good kids also.
I agree with you that everyone is different, my oldest hated standing the corner, so that was his punishment, my daughter rarely had to be punished because she always sent herself to her room(LOL), her punishment was having to listen to me explain what was right and what was wrong, she still plugs her ears, haha, and my youngest is my hardest, he has to be the center of attention, he's a real character, so his punishment is timeouts in his room on his bed, for 1 minute of his age, and if he talks or opens the door, he gets 1 min added, he's actually stayed in there for 21 minutes b4 and that was when he was 3, as I said b4, I have spanked my children in fear, but always held them and cried with them while explaining safety, it's only been when they were doing something to threaten their life, just last night, my daughter swung her bike into the middle of the road, did I spank her, hell no, she's 8, I took her bike away for a week, children need to be accountable for their actions, she also has been acting out on the bus, so she is not allowed to sit with her best friend, this entire week...........she thinks it's HELL week with Mom, but she will learn not to do these things again....this is a really good thread, also with my oldest all I had to do was threaten to call his father, and his whole attitude changed......my youngest have not experience their Dad being around, so I can't use that on them..........but threatening to call Auntie has a similar affect on them,,, hehe
And have you heard the term"spoiled rotten", I'm living proof of that and I tend to spoil my kids alot, probably because of guilt but they are not greedy like I was, my mother ignored me, I do not ignore my children, I adore them........I want to see how many times I can edit this god damn thing, I am such a fucking perfectionist...............grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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I don't "hit" my kids, only smack them on the butt when they need an attention getter. My daughter, now 4, is very good as long as her brother, 6, doesn't have an influence on her. My son is borderline hyperactive. He is constantly getting into mischief. We've tried your approach by eliminating the things that matter to him, but that doesn't seem to work. In reality, he doesn't seem to care. My daughter will actually put herself in timeout. Timeout works with her, but will never work on my son. My son seems to be slow in developing the cause and effect skills that are needed to fully understand certain consequences. It also doesn't help when the kids he chooses to run around with at school are worse than he is. Again, I do not HIT my kids, but will smack them on the butt once to get their attention.
being a stepfather is really tough. i was brought up happy, healthy and got a swat on the butt when i was outta line, and as i got pass the swatting stage, i got a cuff across the head or a kick in the ass, and i had it coming every time. my step daughter is 5 and she walks all over her mother, but being that her dad is such a freak, are hands are tied. i believe in a swat across the butt to get their attention but also to let them know that no means no. like i said before, i grew up just fine....
mmafiter
Banned Member
For all those opposed to "spanking", I don't mean beating, or whipping, I'm talking about two quick swats on the butt, what would you do in this situation?
Parent: Billy, go to your room.
Billy: No.
Parent: Billy, go to your room!
Billy: No!
Parent: That's it your grounded for a week!
Billy: I don't care!
Parent: I'm taking away your t.v and computer!
Billy: So?
And it just continues. This scenario isn't happening to me, cause I would have kicked Billy's ass long ago, but I've seen it many times. The kid just reaches a point where he doesn't care. I used to work with young offenders and they were the worst for this. You could give them time-outs, take away treats, etc, and they would just tell you to "fuck off". Eventually I'd just grab the kid and throw them in thier room, and they got the message. If you pissed me off enough, you were going to get it. Many staff enjoyed working on my shift cause it was usually quiet.
Parent: Billy, go to your room.
Billy: No.
Parent: Billy, go to your room!
Billy: No!
Parent: That's it your grounded for a week!
Billy: I don't care!
Parent: I'm taking away your t.v and computer!
Billy: So?
And it just continues. This scenario isn't happening to me, cause I would have kicked Billy's ass long ago, but I've seen it many times. The kid just reaches a point where he doesn't care. I used to work with young offenders and they were the worst for this. You could give them time-outs, take away treats, etc, and they would just tell you to "fuck off". Eventually I'd just grab the kid and throw them in thier room, and they got the message. If you pissed me off enough, you were going to get it. Many staff enjoyed working on my shift cause it was usually quiet.
i wish i had the answers, i would write a book.
