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Actually, I think people misunderstand or are oblivious to some fundamental societal beliefs behind the whole "bro's vs. ho's" idea. A big ideal about BvH is about loyalty and repsect. In fact is the ideal is followed correctly it will get you laid more.
Let me give an example - Say you like some girl. You don't know if she is interested in you and you are wanting her to like you. You have set plans with some of your friends but ditch them because on a whim she decides to hang out, or maybe you ask her. You are subconciously suboordinating to her. Her schedule has become more important to your at the expense of your "friends" and yourself.
You already put yourself in an uphill battle and if she finds out you ditched your friends she will percieve herself to be more important than you within the context of the friendship. She can view this as, "hey, you are ditching your best friends you have known for so much longer than I. The development in relationships can't even be compared." and she will subconciously judge you. Relationships that end up from meetings like this end up having the guy pussy-whipped and not having much say in the sexual activity within the relationship.
Now alot of people take this following response, "hey as long as you are getting laid, fuck it". But friends are friends for a reason and true loyalty is a rare thing to find. That doesn't mean you are your friend's bitch. Good relationships don't work like that. A real friend will understand you as long as you are willing to be honest with them. A real friend will help you get laid, but there will be situations in which you may have to give up sex because of your friend, but those will be rare. However there will be many situations in which you can belittle your own value and that of your friend by disregarding loyalty, oh yeah and you don't get laid either. Having respect for yourself and your close friends will get you laid more in the long run. That's if you try.
So surround yourself with encouraging loyal friends that will benefit from benifiting you. Real friends will feel good when they know they did something to help you feel good!
I speak generally. Disregard any ultimatums I may have used.
Let me give an example - Say you like some girl. You don't know if she is interested in you and you are wanting her to like you. You have set plans with some of your friends but ditch them because on a whim she decides to hang out, or maybe you ask her. You are subconciously suboordinating to her. Her schedule has become more important to your at the expense of your "friends" and yourself.
You already put yourself in an uphill battle and if she finds out you ditched your friends she will percieve herself to be more important than you within the context of the friendship. She can view this as, "hey, you are ditching your best friends you have known for so much longer than I. The development in relationships can't even be compared." and she will subconciously judge you. Relationships that end up from meetings like this end up having the guy pussy-whipped and not having much say in the sexual activity within the relationship.
Now alot of people take this following response, "hey as long as you are getting laid, fuck it". But friends are friends for a reason and true loyalty is a rare thing to find. That doesn't mean you are your friend's bitch. Good relationships don't work like that. A real friend will understand you as long as you are willing to be honest with them. A real friend will help you get laid, but there will be situations in which you may have to give up sex because of your friend, but those will be rare. However there will be many situations in which you can belittle your own value and that of your friend by disregarding loyalty, oh yeah and you don't get laid either. Having respect for yourself and your close friends will get you laid more in the long run. That's if you try.
So surround yourself with encouraging loyal friends that will benefit from benifiting you. Real friends will feel good when they know they did something to help you feel good!
I speak generally. Disregard any ultimatums I may have used.
