Goodbye Everyone

[Leslie]

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to extend my farewell wishes. I will not be posting here any longer. Unfortunately, this site among other things fitness related have caused some friction in my life.
I have decided I need to focus more on the important things in my life before I lose them all.

Its been a blast posting here. All of you have been great. Thanks for all the laughs, ass kickings, advice and motivation. Special thanks to DP and W8 for helping me with my first show. I DO still plan on competing again in some form or another, just not sure what.

I WILL miss you guys!
I hope everyone has a happy holiday season. May the new year bring big muscles!

Goodbye all!

Hugs n Kisses

 

[Rusty]

Damn, and such a fine body......Oh, sorry..........I think you need to rethink what is important to you. I'm a firm believer that YOU are the most important thing for YOU.

 

[kuso]

 

[craig777]

Take care beautiful, you are a special lady.

You tell your soon to be fiance that if he doesn't treat you like a prize jewel that a whole bunch of bodybuilders are going to come knocking on his door.

Have a wonderful life sweetie.

 

[I Are Baboon]

We all hate to see you go, Les. Take care. Try to drop in once in a while to say hi.

 

[naturaltan]

take care!

Good luck with any future contests.

 

[Dr. Pain]

Leslie, thank you...BUTT I'm so NOT liking this. You will be so missed.
Not only are you an incredible person, but you are also a gr8 Asset to this board. Your humor, knowledge, love, contribution.....well....we are truely losing a gr8 member.

Take care....know that we are all here if and when you need us.

Please stop in if life allows from time to time and let us know how you are doing?



DP

 

[Tank316]

You will be greatly missed here Les, please take care, enjoy the holiday season. Hopefully, someday, you can stop in and say hello.

 

[Arnold]

You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

 

[ZECH]

Les, Best of luck!! Like everone here said, you are an asset to this board. I have enjoyed knowing you. But I agree with Prince. Sounds like a control issue and that doesn't sound too good. Make sure it is something you won't regret.

 

[mesomorphin']

This is a sad development. Sorry to hear about the friction in your life. (Don't they make special lubes for that? Anyway, friction is not always a bad thing. Hell, if it weren't for a little friction -- and a firm grip -- several IM'ers would have no sex life at all!)

Hopefully, things will settle down to the point where you're comfortable coming back. In the meantime, you should consider donating your avatar to one of the deviants on the board, err, I mean to science!

 

[PB&J]

Goodbye, Although I never knew you, I totally understand about the friction that comes with life. Hope you can work it out.

Good luck and God bless always.

 

[naturaltan]

Originally posted by Prince
You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

Compromise to me means (in regards to spending time with spouse) spending equal time between your spouse and other interests. If you are alloting more time to other interests, then I believe the spouse has the right to voice his/her opinion.

If on the other hand, a spouse/SO gave an ultimatium, then there are bigger issues at stake.

 

[butterfly]

OMG Les... I'm SO going to miss you

I've really enjoyed getting to know you and teaming up against all the local pervs with you always brightens my week!

Remember that I'm here if you need another chickie to gab with. Don't pull a PB and disappear altogether. Try to stop in from time to time to let us know how things are going with you.

You've got a beautiful spirit and I'll miss you!!!

 

[Scotty the Body]

I wish you the best with everything Leslie, I'll mis you here so try to come back every now and then just to say hi if you can.

 

[Dero]

What,Les leaving?????

Les we will missya!!!
I will missya buddy!!!
If it's for the best then let it be.
Happy life

 

[w8lifter]

Well...that fucking sucks!

Take care Les...we'll all miss you

 

[Vai Fan]

Sorry to hear you're leaving. I've enjoyed reading your posts, and I'm truly sorry that in light of this recent event, you didn't win the "biggest jackass" competition.

Best of luck to you.

 

[lina]

LES!!!

Don't leave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with what Prince and NT said.... it's all about balance, compromise and priorities...

Take a break from posting...we all get bboard burnout once in awhile (except kuso I guess) or need to take time away to focus on other things, i.e. SO, goals, relationships, etc... post less often, but you don't have to leave?

Anyway whatever you decided, you will be missed. I have enjoyed watching your transformation and your fun spirit!

Take care!!!

 

[Hammerlynn]

Leslie take care of yourself! You WILL be missed! Thanks so much for the help that you have given me in the past...I'm back to what you guys told me to do in the first place

 

[Leslie]

Ok, maybe ONE more post Just to clarify..........

I jsut want to say my boyfriend has NOT given me an ultimatum. This was my choice. I do not think its forever*crosses fingers*, just for a while~like Lina said.

I have to get my life back in order, on track. I am leaving for Fl for a much needed vacation next week.

Once the dust settles, I hope to be here again. Just not sure when. I WILL be thinking of all of you

Thanks for all the kind words. I sure do feel loved

Goodbye.......again

 

[Twin Peak]

Originally posted by w8lifter
Well...that fucking sucks!

Take care Les...we'll all miss you

Couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[bekahleigh23]

I hope i'm not too late! Goodbye, hope you can come back, have a great well-deserved vacation.

 

[mmafiter]

Originally posted by Prince
You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

I'd have to disagree with you here. Just look at the posts on this thread alone where guys have referred to her ass and nude photo's and other sexual innuendo's. As you all know, I have dealt and am still dealing with this issue myself.

What if were the other way around? What if you're spouse/ girlfriend were on here getting proposals and having intimate conversations with another guy? I suspect you guys wouldn't be very happy about it.

I commend her on making her S/O a priority in her life. People think that words don't mean anything, but they do. If my wife were uncomfortable with what I was writing online, I would cease immediately.

I don't think it's a control issue at all. It's a matter of one person not feeling comfortable with this type of behaviour and the spouse/girlfriend deciding that a real relationship is more important than a bunch of horndogs on the internet.

Good luck Leslie, you are a very mature and caring person to take a step back and re-evaluate what's important to you.

 

[Arnold]

mmalifter, you are turning it into something else.

yes, I agree if a spouse is flirting, having cyber sex, etc., on the net then it would be best that they cut themseves off all together to save their marriage.

however, I do not think that everyone does this or has this problem. I am married, do you ever see me flirting or making any type of posts that are out of line? no

I do not think there is anything that I do or have done on this board or any other that I would have a problem with if my wife read it.

And as far as I know neither does Leslie. She simply stated that she wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend, and I am just saying that you should be allowed to have other interests and hobbies and your spouse should not try and take that away.

 

[mmafiter]

Originally posted by Prince
mmalifter, you are turning it into something else.

yes, I agree if a spouse is flirting, having cyber sex, etc., on the net then it would be best that they cut themseves off all together to save their marriage.

however, I do not think that everyone does this or has this problem. I am married, do you ever see me flirting or making any type of posts that are out of line? no

I do not think there is anything that I do or have done on this board or any other that I would have a problem with if my wife read it.

And as far as I know neither does Leslie. She simply stated that she wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend, and I am just saying that you should be allowed to have other interests and hobbies and your spouse should not try and take that away.

Oh, I thought you were saying if her boyfriend wants her to stop posting on the board, and if she repects his wish, that she was letting him control her. I must have misunderstood.

And I would agree, YOU don't act innapropriately. I was just using you as an example. I wasn't picking on you, I was trying to make a point. Sorry.

As for Leslie, well I don't really know her story, but if her boyfriend is uncomfortable with what's going on, then I think she's right to take a step back. I don't want to keep using Leslie as an example, cause I really don't know what her situation is, but I have my suspicions and I bet I'm close.

So, let's just say in general, that I understand where a spouse could get upset with the way guys on message boards constantly hit on the women. The guys aren't all to blame though, many of the women are attention seeking and will bask in all that attention to feed thier own ego's.

Imagine you are at a bar and some guy comes up to your wife/girlfriend and says the kind of things that are said on the internet. Wouldn't the person's spouse be pissed off? I know, most of the banter is just idle chat, I bet if these people said these things face to face with a significant other present, there would be some serious fighting going on.

Just something to think about/debate.

 

[butterfly]

The difference between real-life and the internet is that the internet is for entertainment and to get an occasional tidbit to learn something.

Of course people wouldn't really say the same type of things in the real world that they say here. You have to keep things in perspective and if you can't then you shouldn't be here on this site or any other.

You don't see fade jumping down a guys throat b/c he makes some remark to me or if I make one to someone else. He has it all in perspective. He knows I love him and only him and whatever talk goes on here is for mere amusement.

Like Prince said... I don't believe that what you first described is the situation with Leslie. Her man just wants to get her off the computer and spend more time with him. He's not complaining about what's going on here.

I think what you are really wanting to debate isn't the issue here, mma.

 

[Arnold]

Originally posted by butterfly
Like Prince said... I don't believe that what you first described is the situation with Leslie. Her man just wants to get her off the computer and spend more time with him. He's not complaining about what's going on here.

I think what you are really wanting to debate isn't the issue here, mma.

Exactly!

It sounds more like a jealousy issue where the boyfriend wants the girlfriend all to himself, but I could be wrong we do not have much info to go on here.

 

[mmafiter]

Originally posted by butterfly

I think what you are really wanting to debate isn't the issue here, mma.

Fair enough.

 

[naturaltan]

Originally posted by mmafiter
Imagine you are at a bar and some guy comes up to your wife/girlfriend and says the kind of things that are said on the internet. Wouldn't the person's spouse be pissed off? I know, most of the banter is just idle chat, I bet if these people said these things face to face with a significant other present, there would be some serious fighting going on.

Just something to think about/debate.

I guess I'm one of the rare no jealous types. Speaking on only your bar example, it happens to Mrs.NT all the time. I know that at the end of the night, she's coming home with me and that she truely loves me. She does not go after the attention, she just attracts attention. It's a mystery to me!