Hows everyone feel about getting cheated on

[Vieope]

Weren't you the one who told a wooman who was marrying a friend of yours that you loved her? I wonder why you have such a liberal view of cheating.

Yeah. What is wrong with liking somebody?
So what if she was in a relationship? Should I stay quiet and lonely?

http://www.ironmagazineforums.com/showthread.php?t=37938

 

[Eggs]

I really don´t understand you all. You are talking about the mother of your son, the woman you loved. Yeah she made a "mistake" but she didn´t kill anyone either. You are talking about breaking up her future relationship, violence, revenge..
Jesus! It was just sex she had with another person. So what?

Thats the stupidest thing I've ever heard you say V Pfft, in Brazil you guys kill each other if the guy accidentally kicks a soccer ball in the wrong goal. I'm sure you guys would do a whole lot worse for a cheating partner.

Regardless, this isnt JUST about sex. Its JUST about trust. Which you cant have if the bitch is cheating on you.

 

[Dale Mabry]

Yeah. What is wrong with liking somebody?
So what if she was in a relationship? Should I stay quiet and lonely?

http://www.ironmagazineforums.com/showthread.php?t=37938

Whatever happened with that, did they get hitched?

 

[Vieope]

Thats the stupidest thing I've ever heard you say V Pfft, in Brazil you guys kill each other if the guy accidentally kicks a soccer ball in the wrong goal. I'm sure you guys would do a whole lot worse for a cheating partner.

Regardless, this isnt JUST about sex. Its JUST about trust. Which you cant have if the bitch is cheating on you.

It is not. I have said things way more stupid.

But think again, why do you need to own somebody? Who says that you have that right? Social conventions? Catholic church? Good thing we have anthropology to show this type of behavior happened just now.

 

[Vieope]

Whatever happened with that, did they get hitched?

Thank god no. But I didn´t get her ether.
Life goes on..
and on until the break of dawn.

 

[Eggs]

It is not. I have said things way more stupid.

You got me on that one

But think again, why do you need to own somebody? Who says that you have that right? Social conventions? Catholic church? Good thing we have anthropology to show this type of behavior happened just now.

Its not about owning anybody V. Its about a committment, trust, and communication. When you get married, you should do so because you love the person. Not in the way of a regular friend, but in the way of somebody "special". Theres only going to be one person in your life like that (and for some of you 4 or 5). This isnt just hanging out with your buddy, and having that kind of relationship where you can screw her, then she goes out and screws other guys. You can do that when you are single. Why in any way would you want to get married if it didn't mean a monogomous relationship? Why do it at all if you believe that? I really dont see the point.

The idea of marriage has purpose, and I think that marriage is something special that should be respected. If one cannot respect it, then they should not desecrate it by violating the very principals of it. Of which are: committment, trust, love and communication (and more).

Marriage is not, and should not, be some that is whimsical and done "just because". It destroys the meaning of it to have people that abuse it like that. Co-habitate and cheat all you want, and be honest to your partner and the world about the situation.

 

[QuestionGuy]

lol

Married to my wife for 5 years and caught her cheating. My son was born deaf which dont help. My son has enough shit to go through besides seperated parents. On top of it she calls me on my cell 20 x a day crying. Meanwhile I was completely faithful and wouldnt even look. And she tells me she did it cause she was jealous that girls hit on me even though im completely faithful. Just curious how people felt out there? On top of it im facing a felony charge cause I got the guy.

sorry to hear that man, dont worry aobut the charges.....it would be considered a crime of passion.. (i dont know the details of how and what you did)...if you dont have any priors you should get of with probation...its all good...good luck..

 

[Vieope]

Its not about owning anybody V. Its about a committment, trust, and communication. When you get married, you should do so because you love the person. Not in the way of a regular friend, but in the way of somebody "special". Theres only going to be one person in your life like that (and for some of you 4 or 5). This isnt just hanging out with your buddy, and having that kind of relationship where you can screw her, then she goes out and screws other guys. You can do that when you are single. Why in any way would you want to get married if it didn't mean a monogomous relationship? Why do it at all if you believe that? I really dont see the point.

The idea of marriage has purpose, and I think that marriage is something special that should be respected. If one cannot respect it, then they should not desecrate it by violating the very principals of it. Of which are: committment, trust, love and communication (and more).

Marriage is not, and should not, be some that is whimsical and done "just because". It destroys the meaning of it to have people that abuse it like that. Co-habitate and cheat all you want, and be honest to your partner and the world about the situation.

I am not saying the guy should say: "Oh well she did another person, who cares? Let´s continue married." No, because like you said, trust was lost. But that goes for any type of relationship. If I leave candy on the table and a friend knows it is mine and he takes it anyway, it is going to be candy mayhem for him. What I am criticizing here is the reaction of the betrayed. If she left him for another reason, he would get upset but not as much as she doing another man. Because it is not about marriage anymore, it is about the primitive instincts of being a male. That is the problem, what good it will do if he resorts to violence? None.

 

[Eggs]

I am not saying the guy should say: "Oh well she did another person, who cares? Let´s continue married." No, because like you said, trust was lost. But that goes for any type of relationship. If I leave candy on the table and a friend knows it is mine and he takes it anyway, it is going to be candy mayhem for him. What I am criticizing here is the reaction of the betrayed. If she left him for another reason, he would get upset but not as much as she doing another man. Because it is not about marriage anymore, it is about the primitive instincts of being a male. That is the problem, what good it will do if he resorts to violence? None.

He already resorted to violence... he's not contemplating doing more of it (at least as far as I know). Yes, there is definitely a difference between when somebody just wants to leave you and when they cheat on you. I dont disagree that it is a primitive instinct. However, I think that the expectation of monogomy is very large when entering a marriage. If someone walks in and finds their spouse cheating, it is very much a natural instinct to react to the pain and confusion they are causing you. Two wrongs dont make a right, but I think there is to be some satisfaction gained in whooping the guys ass that has sex with your wife. Though she probably deserves it more than he.

Either way, whether anybody gets their ass whooped or not, the trust is gone. Somebody cannot truly care about you and cheat on you like that. So that said, there isnt a good reason to stay with them. Life is short. Much to short to spend it with some trick ho.

 

[Little Wing]

haven't you ever loved someone so much that you would never betray them? and why would you not want that same consideration in return?

 

[Vieope]

He already resorted to violence... he's not contemplating doing more of it (at least as far as I know). Yes, there is definitely a difference between when somebody just wants to leave you and when they cheat on you. I dont disagree that it is a primitive instinct. However, I think that the expectation of monogomy is very large when entering a marriage. If someone walks in and finds their spouse cheating, it is very much a natural instinct to react to the pain and confusion they are causing you. Two wrongs dont make a right, but I think there is to be some satisfaction gained in whooping the guys ass that has sex with your wife. Though she probably deserves it more than he.

Either way, whether anybody gets their ass whooped or not, the trust is gone. Somebody cannot truly care about you and cheat on you like that. So that said, there isnt a good reason to stay with them. Life is short. Much to short to spend it with some trick ho.

So you are saying you agree with me? No, I am not agreeing with you but you are agreeing with me. Right?

 

[Eggs]

Why are you trying the Jedi mind trick on me V?

 

[Vieope]

:bounce:

 

[Maynard Keenan]

Thank you all for the advice. I really appreciate it.