I need help

[bigdv]

I just threw a 7 yr relationship out the window man it sucks I agree I've been dealing with it for months and can tell you from past experience its like a big game the more you show you care the further it pushes them away its like it gives some power to know they have you by the balls Its like what the guy said earlier about nice guys and I believe it now Its hard as fuck to get over but the best way to get over a girl is to get under another one and that sayin about time is kinda true but not completely you will always wonder why you weren't good enough but eventually the pain will ease up and you wont cry yourself to sleep everynight You should build you a facebook account there is an addition called are you interested on it I swear I've met a lot of cool girls on it there is someone for everyone and the girls are there for the same reason you are whatever you do now don.t chase her don't act like you give a fuck and when she does make a move at you don't just jump back to her cause more than likely she's just checking to see if she still has a grip on your nuts Fuck I'm good looking I feel like and this shit happens to all of us I feel like I wont find anyone I'm attracted to but I think its about the nice guy shit again so quit bein nice start acting like it doesnt matter anymore don't be a complete dick just dont be bothered by it

 

[Gissurjon]

This is why nice guys always finish last...

Bitches can smell that shit and will walk all over you...

You need to treat her like the shit she is and don't give her shit...

If she can't handle your kid then she should leave him/her with you...

(You will be getting a child support letter in the mail soon anyway)

And as far as her kid goes, he/she is not your responsibility as cold as it sounds...

And please tell me your car you pay for doesn't have her name on the title...

And please don't ever consider taking this bitch back, if she claims she wants back in. She has already shown her motivation was your money...

I know this sounds harsh right now but it's what you need to hear...

In most cases, things acquired during a marriage is considered marital property. That is why even women that never work get half when they divorce.

 

[Gissurjon]

If you really care for your son then go to the court house and file papers to get full custody of your kid... Hire a lawyer if you can... Show the court she has no job and no means and claim she is a drug addict... Then call the cops and say she has stolen your car, techniquely she has...

If you are truly looking out for the best interest of your son then do this first thing Mon. Do not wait to see if things will get better with her because they will not and it will only drag this out even longer. Do these things and watch that bitches attitude and actions change real quick...

This is terrible advice. You do not want to come off as an vindictive asshole, the judge takes things like that into consideration.

I think you should do everything right and in a respectable manner, it will help you way more in a custody battle to be able to show that you are an adult that acts accordingly.

If the car was bought during the marriage, it is marital property and she did not "technically steal it"

 

[Gissurjon]

Jkelly, best thing you can do is get a lawyer.

 

[jkelley69]

thanks guys the helping her totally back fired this will be the last time i try she can explain to the kids why the have to move again in a couple of month and why she cant buy them any x-mas gifts

 

[jkelley69]

any posative suppoort helps a great deal.She only spends a couple hours a day with the kids and then they have to go to bed i have them three or four days usually thursday through sunday i have had them everyweekend since she left me i offered twice to let her have them for the weekend to spend acyual time with them and she ditched them both times to go to a party i will take them as much as i can they make me happy.

 

[jkelley69]

Found out today the kids havent had showers since i had them on saterday thats nice . And she hasnt decided on if she wants to take them next weekend im sure waiting to see if there are any parties next weekend

 

[Gissurjon]

Document EVERYTHING as long as it is true. And see a lawyer ASAP

 

[jkelley69]

I have had a lawyer since thje second day she left me she was pissed about that too like i wasnt supposed to get one and let her use the kids against me . she will find out about life some day unless she is messed up in the head and say wtf am i doing and what have i done

 

[jkelley69]

if any body elsa has any advice i am willing to listen. i want to thank everyone so far.

 

[jkelley69]

I was hopeing for more advice than this ecspecially from people who have experianced the same thing.Some days are ok but alot of days i think about actually everyday it sucks ass. I ask myself why she is doing this and treating so cold.She left the house a mess and i found birthday cards to the kids from my family and stuff the kids made me for fathers day in the garbage. I was crushed she would take it that far.

 

[Little Wing]

i'm sorry it sounds heart breaking. you might not like my opinion much but i think once a woman has kids the kids need her not a nanny or daycare that a mom that works full time is letting a much more important job that should be her responsibility fall into the wrong hands. it's bullshit that one mans salary can't do all it needs to but i think you make sacrifices and be there for the kids. and in the eyes of the law you will be ordered to pay support for the little girl too because that's the trend nowadays. i've seen guys have to pay and still get screwed on visitation for kids the court knows aren't theirs. luckily there are advocate groups for father's rights if you need one find one. ugly is as ugly does and funny but you don't sound like an ugly guy you sound like a good man. someone will appreciate that.

on not feeling bad. there's a national geographic show that shows men getting all wound up to a trance state to be able to pierce skewers through their faces etc as an act of faith. without realizing it you cause an emotional turmoil by allowing these thoughts of her to occupy too much of your mind. you work yourself into a different kind of frenzy. think of that, see it when it's happening, and push those thoughts away. do something positive like fix up a play area for the kids to surprise them on your next visit date or plan an outing. learn to quiet the thought that lead to that emotional storm.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_IMBP8wPYg

the mind is a powerful thing. direct it do not allow it to direct you.

 

[jkelley69]

I dont totally disagree in the area i live you would have to make 60000 a year to live on one salery she spent money like it grew on trees i sold 30000 dollars worth of stuff i had before we got together i never cared about what i had only them sometimes only haveing 2 pair of pants for myself and she would spend 150 a month just for clothes for her at times even if the kids needed stuff i offered to adopt the little girl and pay child support on her just to so i knew if anything ever happene to her mom she would be able to be with me and her brother and not have to battle it out in court with her family plus that little girl means as much to me as anybody elsa.

 

[Crono1000]

bitches be wack, man.

 

[Little Wing]

I dont totally disagree in the area i live you would have to make 60000 a year to live on one salery she spent money like it grew on trees i sold 30000 dollars worth of stuff i had before we got together i never cared about what i had only them sometimes only haveing 2 pair of pants for myself and she would spend 150 a month just for clothes for her at times even if the kids needed stuff i offered to adopt the little girl and pay child support on her just to so i knew if anything ever happene to her mom she would be able to be with me and her brother and not have to battle it out in court with her family plus that little girl means as much to me as anybody elsa.

just try and pull yourself together and focus on the kid's needs. nothing so much gets you out of focusing on your pain as to seek to comfort another.

 

[jkelley69]

I have to she is totally disregarding them so i have no choice and would do so any way i have never had 2 things make me so happy or mean so much to me as those kids.I can not belive she gave birth to them and their time means so little to her she should be embaressed to call herself a mom.

 

[Dark Geared God]

Document EVERYTHING as long as it is true. And see a lawyer ASAP

 

[Little Wing]

Document EVERYTHING as long as it is true. And see a lawyer ASAP

this. that she ditches them every weekend friggin makes me want to cry. don't punish the kids or let them be deprived because of her. make a good christmas for them at your house. you really need to forget this woman. just do that. if she can't even love her kids properly you NEVER will get anything near the love a good man deserves from her. you really need to close her out of your heart and let her go. to hell preferably.