Hey i'm a 15 yr old guy (16 in oct) but I need some advice on a bit of a problem. Alright. I met this girl about 7 months ago or so. Online that is. She lives in Florida, and I live in pennsylvania. I actually was on a wrestling chat and she was too (i know not many girls like wrestling but she does and I like that). Well i'd go on like everyday and talk to her if she was on. She really didn't trust me at first. She wouldn't even tell me her first name, or anything. She is just like that with everyone. Well after I persisted for a long time she told me to add her to yahoo. So I did and then we just talked on there a lot. She is into the same type of things as me....(some girls may find her interest weird though) but she likes wrestling, working out, anything physical really. Running, swimming. Ya know. We like the same type of music for the most part. Same interests all around really. We're like best freinds sort of. It's only online I know but we're still really close. We can talk to eachother about anything. Well about 1 month ago I started having feelings about maybe trying a long distance "relationship" with her. And asking her to be my GF. I've been in one before but it didn't work out because the girl didn't have enough time and when she did I didn't. So that ended, on a good note though so we're still good freinds.........OK BACK TO THE GIRL I LIKE NOW! lol Well she lives far away but I said that next summer I was going to try and come down. So we're both looking forward to that. Well I started giving tiny hints that I like her, and she was doing the same (or so it seems). We get along great. She talks to me about everything and if somethings going wrong I try to comfort her (as much as possible online), and she said that i'm really important to her. It's a mutual feeling there. Well she is always saying she needs a BF, and once she changed her name on yahoo to "I need a boyfreind" and she knew I was going to be coming on soon.......so i saw that and I changed mine to "I need a girlfreind" as a joke, but as a joke that maybe something could happen. Well she said "well you need a GF and I need a BF soooooo........." and that's what she did. I just did a little "lol" deal and brought up something else. She said today actually "i've always fancied you" I really want to ask her out and I know that that was a perfect oppurtunity but I choked and blew it. I was just wondering what you all make of the situation.......would you go for it if you were me? if so how would you bring it up? If we tried something and it didn't work....then we have a strong enough freindship that we'll still stay freinds so that isn't really an issue. Well any CONSTRUCTIVE advice would be appreciated. I really don't want any assholes coming on here bitching at me saying i'm stupid, and dumb, and stuff like that! thanks
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Communication is the single most important thing in life. I dont care what anybody tells you. If you can advance your communications skills through having a relationship with somebody (where ever they are) why not?
Take care dude.
Take care dude.
How can you ask her out if you've never met her in person. If I was 15, I would get off the dam chat rooms and go to the mall or someplace else and meet real girls. Don't waste your time.
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Pal, this is a ridiculous idea. Long distance relationships are a horrible idea and rarely ever work out, let alone the fact that you have never even met her. People are different online than they are in real life so you need to take that into account. I know that at 15 you wanna hold on with dear life to any chick that shows interest in you but it is very important to learn social skills and interacting with girls you meet. You don't need a girlfriend, and if you did have one it would be so you two could experience things together as a learning experience like kissing and all that shit. You would have no physical contact at all, why would you want to do that. Just keep talkin to her if you like, but focus on meeting girls that live close. You should be in high school right? well this is the only time in your life that you are going to be surrounded by so many young impressionable females that aren't concerned with meeting a rich guy. you need to take advantage of that and experience things for yourself without being tied down toi someone you have never met. Its a horrible idea IMO. just my two cents. peace
gr81 said:
Nobody said he had to be exclusive
let me tell you soething man, you are 15 and you have NO idea what you are talking about, PEOPLE< (girls) are different on the internet then they are in person, you guys are faaar away and have way different lives..... you are 15 man and i know in fact we all know how it is to have a crush or a new love, put wait and see soon you are gona talk less and less and less untill she is just a chick that you used to talk to on the net.........................................................
but listen to this.......................i was siting on the internet bored one night when i got an instant message from some chick that says she got my nick name from her friend who said i was hot...............anyway i ended up talking to her for a couple of days (of course we are a lot older than you and mature))) so i found out she lives really close to me like 8 miles, and we decidet to meet, anyway long story short almost 3 years later we are now still dating and having fun, see these things happen ((((by the way she is really hot and im still atracted to her ALMOST as much as when i first met her, ))) im not braging here im just saying that yeah there a re two sides to the story but yours will probobly end up the way most of the people here think it will................so good luck little man and best wishes but if i were you i'd try and score with the hot neighboor chick across the street (( if you have on, ofcourse. LOL ))
but listen to this.......................i was siting on the internet bored one night when i got an instant message from some chick that says she got my nick name from her friend who said i was hot...............anyway i ended up talking to her for a couple of days (of course we are a lot older than you and mature))) so i found out she lives really close to me like 8 miles, and we decidet to meet, anyway long story short almost 3 years later we are now still dating and having fun, see these things happen ((((by the way she is really hot and im still atracted to her ALMOST as much as when i first met her, ))) im not braging here im just saying that yeah there a re two sides to the story but yours will probobly end up the way most of the people here think it will................so good luck little man and best wishes but if i were you i'd try and score with the hot neighboor chick across the street (( if you have on, ofcourse. LOL ))
First off, "Looks dont matter" as long as you're not ugly. And being pretty helps.
Second.. Unless you have some Hebrew in your blood it wont work out. And yes, I mean you'd need money.. And alot of it. "Ill come down once or twice a year" wont cut it. Im with cappo and gr81 on this; meet girls IRL, its just too far, and she would REALLY(And I mean R-E-A-L-L-Y) have to like you to have that relationship for over 2 years before you could even live near each other. Then, somebody has to give up their entire lives to go to the other person. Ill say this; if she came to you; you're set for life if you're not an asshole. If you go to her theres still a high chance you'll be single within a year and living in a state that has temperatures like Hawii.. during an eruption.
Third, IS she hot? If it doesnt work out hook me up, Im in Florida!
Hey QG, 3 years.. You planning on dropping the question anytime soon?
Second.. Unless you have some Hebrew in your blood it wont work out. And yes, I mean you'd need money.. And alot of it. "Ill come down once or twice a year" wont cut it. Im with cappo and gr81 on this; meet girls IRL, its just too far, and she would REALLY(And I mean R-E-A-L-L-Y) have to like you to have that relationship for over 2 years before you could even live near each other. Then, somebody has to give up their entire lives to go to the other person. Ill say this; if she came to you; you're set for life if you're not an asshole. If you go to her theres still a high chance you'll be single within a year and living in a state that has temperatures like Hawii.. during an eruption.
Third, IS she hot? If it doesnt work out hook me up, Im in Florida!
Hey QG, 3 years.. You planning on dropping the question anytime soon?
i have no reason not to do it....she is really cool and we are just best friends, ofcourse we have fight and all that usual shit couples have but we are just in love and we get along, we are taking a trip to germany this december and celebrate the new year with my family, after that im off to the police academy for 14 weeks (which neither of us is worried about, well she is a littlebit because she knows i like cop women, but thats normal))) anyway.... after i get back from the academy and work a few months ill be ready..............
Wow, you do know women are EVIL, right!? Just kidding, Thats awesome 
Do they require officers be tasered and peppersprayed(Not at the same time..
) as a part of "training" in Utah? I ask because do it here in Fl, LOL; Thats gotta suck!
Do they require officers be tasered and peppersprayed(Not at the same time..
) as a part of "training" in Utah? I ask because do it here in Fl, LOL; Thats gotta suck!
yeah they do, i mean it is better for you because of court purpuses when you tase a guy and go to court you can show that you know how it feels when a lawyer asks....................i did get sprayed before and its a bitch man...i know a lot of cops and im kinda already in that lifestyle, im also a police Explorer and its is just great i can wait........but i dont get it a lot of people want to become officers these day and they dont even know anything about it, i guess COPS on tv make them excited..........................you gota be honest with yourself and make sure that you have the right mindset to be in control when the worst happens......
Who knows man. I have been online long enough to have met people online that I am friends with IRL now, and some that I have never met that I still talk to. I am seeing someone at the moment that I met online and things are great, but she lives much closer, definitely got lucky on that one.
Good luck, and keep a level head (easier said than done I know).
Good luck, and keep a level head (easier said than done I know).
Ohh boy; bro you???re 15 in school there should be no reason for you getting close to anyone that far from you. In high school there is a girl for everyone, weather you want a relationship or just looking for some fun on a Friday night. I just don???t see how this is going to work for long. If you lived close by it would probably be something different but from Pennsylvania to Florida that???s a long way brotha
Put yourself up on Hot or not.com dude. Meet some local chicks, if you enjoy the idea of online 'meeting/dating'
besides you cant have sex in long distance relationships
thats the best part of the whole thing too
thats the best part of the whole thing too
B&R said:
dude run, as fast as you can, im serious
I did the same thing with a girl i met online for like 6 months....run its not gonna happen, you have to be 18 at least to have one of these relationships...
Im telling you, honestly just talk to her, dont get so rapped up in her that you have to talk to her everyday, just let her go
you can still talk to her but dont get emotional man....seriously..
IRL?
First off, looks obviously do matter if being ugly is an exclusion criteria.
I think you should step away from the computer and go meet some chicks like everyone else suggested. Maybe you just need a hooker to get your confidence level up.
I think you should step away from the computer and go meet some chicks like everyone else suggested. Maybe you just need a hooker to get your confidence level up.
Dale Mabry said:First off, looks obviously do matter if being ugly is an exclusion criteria.
I think you should step away from the computer and go meet some chicks like everyone else suggested. Maybe you just need a hooker to get your confidence level up.
And 'T' cells level down
In real lifeSpitfire said:
Dale Mabry said:
Nono, Looks DONT matter for anybody, as long as they ARENT ugly! If they're ugly, then they do. Same for pretty people. But for the 80% of people who are neither, looks dont matter.
hey elite newbie, your what age?
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B&R said:
Dr. Puncture sees your problem.
you seem to lack communication skills and ability to use paragraphs, i think this could reflect your style of interpersonal skills, and be holding you back from finding you lifepartner
j00 m34n m3h?myCATpowerlifts said:
20 in september
Same here.. At 15 your hormones are raging, you'll fuck anything with a pulse.. Go get laid.MaxMirkin said:He doesn't need a lifepartner he needs to get laid. I'm w/ Dale on this one, get a hooker.
I have to laugh at myself B&R said:
Chain Link said:Third, IS she hot? If it doesnt work out hook me up, Im in Florida!
myCATpowerlifts said:
I just realized that little difference. Oh well, at 15 they got pubes, right? Its all good
Fear is your worst enemy dude. Crash through those fears and get LAID!! Run an ad in the personal section of the local paper "15 year old male virgin has temporary opening for sex slave ... must be (insert your preferances here) and under 45 years of age". Just stay away from school teachers cuz they been getting a lot of bad press over this issue lately.
