So Im GETTING DIVORCED

[keith1569]

I agree....shes right here beside me but wont speak

How old is your little one? If one if you move out will it make for a more stable life your kid? When my ex told me she wanted a divorce I moved out, I couldn't stand being home having her go out at night knowing she is fucking someone else! I would of ended up in jail

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

right now I have to stay here and take care of them while she waits to see if she can get back to work...get her license back....dravin is 6

 

[LightningRod]

On a different note, I used to be like you. Wrapped up in this Internet shit.The best thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your quality of life is to leave this shit behind.I can tell you spend too much time on here, disconnected from the real world.The web is full losers, who's biggest goal for the day is getting reps or "owning" people.I know because I was that guy.This shit isn't real life, and these mother fuckers will turn there back on you quickly, believe me.I had to accept the fact that I was a loser before I could see the light and make the right changes.Once you realize and accept that you are that way, it makes changing that much easier.

 

[[SIL]]

^^you still here buddy

 

[jadean]

KOS,'
Fight for your family.

It's obvious what needs to be done here brother. Time to fight for your family is right now. Words won't be enough either, you need to show her what she means to you.

 

[SheriV]

Bullshit. Shes not a junkie and all that would happen is a lawyer sucking kos dry.

uhhh, a buddy of mine did it as recently as last year and spent a whopping 3 grand on an attorney and it took a whole two court dates. Mom wasn't/isn't a junkie or hell even do AAS (shes a jacked as fuck personal trainer) and this was in Utah which is traditionally a "mom" state. I will say this though, she was a spectacularly selfish human being who wasn't good mom material.

 

[SheriV]

Ya lawyers are expensive as fuck and all tell you your gonna win! There is no win in divorce!

a shitty attorney might...all my attorney (same one I've used for 9 yrs?) has ever said was what all possible outcomes were in a case and what were the pitfalls and advantages in any given case. What bled my bank account dry was my ex went and hired my attorneys former partner...the two attorneys turned the whole thing into blood sport.
And my ex definitely won. He literally emptied my bank account, stole my car license plates, wound up with the house I paid down payment closing costs and renovations on from MY investments before I even met him then split out of state so he only takes his daughter for a summer vacation (2 weeks) and one holiday a year. I'll tell you what though..now I have our daughter without his interference so I feel like I won.





anyway. I think all of that is irrelevant because I don't think KOS and Mrs KOS will let any of this go that far.

prepare for the worst with the house...hell I'd even consider putting it on the market but not sign more than a 3-6 month contract with a realtor. Try to do a workout with your bank to keep it. If shes on the mortgage her losing her job is definitely a hardship that qualifies.

 

[[SIL]]

marriages are overrated..the only good thing that comes out of it are kids..that is all

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

It's obvious what needs to be done here brother. Time to fight for your family is right now. Words won't be enough either, you need to show her what she means to you.

my wife and son are moving out today

 

[JR.]

Sorry man, ugh . Things will get better, just hang in there bro

 

[Watson]

my wife and son are moving out today

knowing how much u love her from ur posts im kinda shocked u did what u did bro,

i really hope it works out how u want it dude

 

[_LG_]

Any pics of the broad you cheated with?

 

[CG]

Holy shit bro. I'm sorry to hear that. I was Going to ask if everything was ok, but I didn't wanna get in your shit too much. I noticed. A little while ago that you stopped talking bout her so much

 

[oufinny]

I know i fucked up...again...dont expect a get out of jail card...shes all like how could i ever trust you? Im like you just got finished lying to me for 4 years!...

Lot of nerve the pill steeling addict to question you about trust; regardless of if you cheated or not. She lost her nursing license and can't provide for your child, man up and see the situation as it is. Fight for your kid, don't roll over and be a pussy like so many men do. She broke the law, you cheated on her; not even close to the same thing in the eyes of the court.

 

[dieseljimmy]

my wife and son are moving out today

Fuck... Slightly nauseous for you.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

knowing how much u love her from ur posts im kinda shocked u did what u did bro,

i really hope it works out how u want it dude

sheri hit the nail on the head

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

Any pics of the broad you cheated with?

I would...but she blocked me on facebook and hauled ass...tonya wanted to beat the fuck out of her...I wouldn't wish that on any girl...if I was a chick I would not fuck with her...no way in hell

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

Fuck... Slightly nauseous for you.

me too

 

[_LG_]

I would...but she blocked me on facebook and hauled ass...tonya wanted to beat the fuck out of her...I wouldn't wish that on any girl...if I was a chick I would not fuck with her...no way in hell

Werd, I wouldn't fuck with Tonya myself

 

[cube789]

 

[JerseyDevil]

I am so sorry to hear this KOS. It's obvious you love both of them. We have all made mistakes..... you, Tonya, and everyone else on earth. You said you grew up with faith. Use that for strength and guidance. It's up to you to decide whether you are going to give up, or fight like hell to get her back. I like to think, although sometimes it's really hard, that things do happen for a reason. It's not clear now, but one day it will be.

 

[vicious 13]

So the guy who talks shit about me for taking pics w bartenders cheats? I am sorry to hear this I wouldn't wish divorce on anyone. In all honesty though u give her too much credit IMO

 

[ctr10]

Time heals all wounds, hopefully for KOS things will work out and he'll have his family back

 

[c4x]

Stay away from the bottle....thats all i have to say

 

[Iz_vivit]

Stay away from the bottle....thats all i have to say

Best advice. Well top 5 at this point.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

for sure...being ridiculously poor would make that a bad investment right now to

 

[SheriV]

here is my list of things that need to get paid in this order

food
electricity
heating (this is separate from electricity for me)
auto fuel expenses
mortgage
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car payment (I dont have one because I loathe financing cars and dont have spendy tastes)
cable bill/phone (dont have cable, phone is cheap)
credit cards (pleeeenty of those...being a little late on some of those can be a credit fucker but not as bad as you think if you're only late and don't actually have the accounts closed) << these guys can be worked with as well..loss of employment is a legit reason to ask them to


non essential spending ...I make a point to do a little of this even if finances are tight for some reason because it keeps everyone sane



keep in mind my monthly out going expenses for absolutely everything we spend money on (401k, IRA, mortgage, fuel, food, clothes for four kids, dogs food/vet etc etc) is in the neighborhood of 8 grand a month...and that's AFTER I trimmed almost 2g a month over shit I honestly don't even miss and neither does anyone else in the house.

what I'm getting at is focus on essentials....it typically takes AT least 4 months before a bank will even make a move on a foreclosure and being behind puts you in a good spot for a workout on it.
If you have anything of value to sell...sell it..sell it fire sale style if you have to. if you can't eat it or pay your bills with it it isn't worth having.

and I think bigmoe commented on having her run back to momma screaming at every crappy thing would drive him nuts...
yeah I can see that but I'll tell you what. Everyone and I mean everyone always asks for their mom if they're able to when they're dying; so I can sort of see where she might go runnin home.

I would imagine her soul is pretty crushed right now. She's disappointed in herself and she's disappointed in you right now and the only thing you can control is how YOU act and respond.

 

[charley]

Stay away from the bottle....thats all i have to say

..I'd rather have a bottle in front of me, than a prefrontal lobotomy.......

 

[SheriV]

I like the addition of "pre" to that one

 

[[SIL]]

here is my list of things that need to get paid in this order

food
drugs
whores
internet
musclebears.com membership