So Im GETTING DIVORCED

[Little Wing]

now we need a nice dear doctor i fell down and somehow this got wedged in my anus thread

 

[Diesel618]

Sorry bud. Marriage and monogamy are both overrated and retarded IMO.

 

[OfficerFarva]

I'm starting to think KOS trolled us all and was looking for attention so he made this shit up. Either way he's not the brightest bulb out there.

 

[HFO3]

I'm starting to think KOS trolled us all and was looking for attention so he made this shit up. Either way he's not the brightest bulb out there.

agreed, maybe too much time on hands, who knows...

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

nah...it happened....people have been asking why ive been less active....this is why...I am fully capable of getting attention

 

[HFO3]

nah...it happened....people have been asking why ive been less active....this is why...I am fully capable of getting attention

I hope you and tonya start to learn from your past mistakes, love your wife with the commitment of your life to her, not jus when warm and fuzzy feeling. She will respect you and follow you IF you show her your worthy to be followed. No cheating , ever. Move away from the mother in law, if you move. If not, keep her out of y'all's BS. Hope this helps man

 

[[SIL]]

move your mother in law in..

 

[theCaptn']

This is one fucked up thread

 

[SheriV]

This is one fucked up thread

20 or so minutes I'm never gettin back.

 

[Little Wing]

a little late for kos but this might help other people here.

i think some men confess affairs to wound and some to try and repair but usually it does nothing but harm to confess.

sometimes women stay but ease the pain you caused with one beautiful boy after another. a man wants physical loyalty but a woman wants your primary attention and devotion. she may stay even when a man cheats but often will secretly seek the primary attention of others. the man simply wants the woman but the woman wants the desire of the man... if a man is a cheater that part of her will turn away toward men who desire her as the cheater, in her mind, desired his mistress. if we can't be your queen we will be someone else's. i know this because i lived it.

if a man cheats and truly regrets it and wants to be a devoted partner that doesn't repeat the mistake there is no need to confess it. why burden her with the knowledge? what good will it do?


i agree with this line of thinking

TIME: Should you confess if you feel guilty about it?
No. I've got to tell you that this is very, very important. I'm a person who is just an advocate of truth. I really will do anything to tell the truth, so it took me a long time to get to the point where I say, just don't tell. Because how does it make a person less guilty to inflict terrible pain on someone? Which is exactly what the confession does. It puts the other person in a permanent state of hurt and grief and loss of trust and an inability to feel safe, and it doesn't alleviate your guilt. Your relationship is dealt a potentially devastating blow. Honesty is great, but it's an abstract moral principle.... The higher moral principle, I believe, is not hurting people. And when you confess to having an affair, you are hurting someone more than you can ever imagine. So I tell people, if you care that much about honesty, figure out who you want to be with, commit to that relationship and devote the rest of your life to making it the most honest relationship you can. But confessing your affair is the kind of honesty that is unnecessarily destructive.

Read more: Why We Have Affairs ? And Why Not to Tell - TIME

 

[djh0905]

not sure if good or bad thing

 

[OTG85]

I went threw this shit then it got ugly and fingers started getting pointed.I Rember she was doing gear also so I guess its even.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

move your mother in law in..

we lived in diff towns....she bought a house here!

 

[jay_steel]

She would have to be a crack whore to lose custody. Maybe.

not true with the new huge issues with narcotics being one of the deadliest drugs on the street and the fact that she was stealing it from her work points out two factors. She has a drug issue, and is not mentally capable to be responsible enough to hold a job. This being said she would not be awarded custody of the kids unless KOS just fucks everything away. My good friend in the Navy got full custody as an active duty service member who was deployable because he proved his wife smoked weed to much and was lazy.

 

[jay_steel]

I told my self if i ever got a divorce it would probably be my fault lol (wife is near perfect like has HUGE ethical values) I would take off and leave the country and work as a contractor. You can easily sit there and have a pitty party KOS or you can suck it up and realize you both fucked up but how can you better your self from this. In reality you will never be successful unless you fail. Period people who are born with money are not successful because it was given to them. If you can rise from the dirt and build your success then that shows your true character.

Paul Mitchell the hair guy, was homeless when he created his company. The reason why his bottles are black and white was that was all he could afford to print on a white bottle. So every min you spend feeling sorry for your self or eating your emotions away thats a min lost where you could turn your life around.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

someone link me to the pity party...I stated both our mistakes...u will never see me saying woe is me

 

[Little Wing]

Tonya can still hold a lot of different jobs like home health care where meds are not involved and make extremely good money.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

shes gonna get where she was... im gonna manage her better....we ar going to manage the money better....big lesson in finances to go from 6 grand a month minimum...to a 1/4 of the total

 

[charley]

KOS, you're lucky that you are not getting 'negged' for how you deal with personal matters[I know you don't care] , its a 'soap opera' here, you have me thinking that your emotional I.Q. is 60. you seem to not understand 'tact' & you become a side show, not a man protecting your family's dignity. Who cares what us assholes in IM think , people enjoy your pain & suffering, IMO don't feed the animals. In my house wifey would stab me & when I recovered she would stab me again....

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

I have a few real life friends....not many....they are tonyas friends...tonya would hate me telling people she is going to see all the the time as opposed to nameless faceless people on the forum

 

[Little Wing]

saying you are going to manage her better is a red flag for spousal abuse called controlling. Sanctuary for the Abused: Dealing With Control Freaks

 

[Little Wing]

now we need a nice dear doctor i fell down and somehow this got wedged in my anus thread

dear shrink, this thread got wedged in my anus

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

saying you are going to manage her better is a red flag for spousal abuse called controlling. Sanctuary for the Abused: Dealing With Control Freaks

lw stop acting like a decayed bleeding heart all the time...you don't know my wife....you don't know what shes done or what ive protected her from....she is a danger to herself....she would tell you that....she requires guidance and structure...I don't like playing her fuking dad all the time...but I will be the husband....on top of that we both believe in traditional marriage....clearly you don't....and it is very interesting for most of the post in this thread coming from you and all your advice when you have been married many times I think

 

[Little Wing]

it's weird to be with a person used to being controlled when they break free of the controller too. they are so used to being controlled they don't see the abnormality of it. i was 22 and John was 33 and he'd ask my permission to go fishing. i was thinking like wtf? you are a grown ass man.. if you want to go fishing with the boys you go fishing with the boys. it was funny till i realized how often something normal made him feel he was doing something wrong.

 

[Little Wing]

lw stop acting like a decayed bleeding heart all the time...you don't know my wife....you don't know what shes done or what ive protected her from....she is a danger to herself....she would tell you that....she requires guidance and structure...I don't like playing her fuking dad all the time...but I will be the husband....on top of that we both believe in traditional marriage....clearly you don't....and it is very interesting for most of the post in this thread coming from you and all your advice when you have been married many times I think

in a traditional marriage there are two adults not a man and a helpless little girl he need to manage. if you read the control stuff you will see that you said here you are afraid you won't have what you need and bingo baby. people control out of fear they will not get what THEY need. it's not Tonya that is weak it is you. no grown man has to say golly gee i will TRY to be faithful.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

he asked you out of respect genius

 

[Little Wing]

if i had said no he would not have gone because he was used to being governed like a child.

 

[KILLEROFSAINTS]

in a traditional marriage there are two adults not a man and a helpless little girl he need to manage. if you read the control stuff you will see that you said here you are afraid you won't have what you need and bingo baby. people control out of fear they will not get what THEY need. it's not Tonya that is weak it is you. no grown man has to say golly gee i will TRY to be faithful.

man it should have been you that stopped her from shoplifting....should have been you that got her off drugs twice...you should have forgiven her for stealing old peoples pain meds...you should have completely ignored her cheating....should have been you sitting here late at night when she used to go out with her degenerate mom...it should have been you that talked that fuking girl out of looking down on her son because he is autistic and different...you've got it all figured out

 

[ROID]

On a different note, I used to be like you. Wrapped up in this Internet shit.The best thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your quality of life is to leave this shit behind.I can tell you spend too much time on here, disconnected from the real world.The web is full losers, who's biggest goal for the day is getting reps or "owning" people.I know because I was that guy.This shit isn't real life, and these mother fuckers will turn there back on you quickly, believe me.I had to accept the fact that I was a loser before I could see the light and make the right changes.Once you realize and accept that you are that way, it makes changing that much easier.

You are mistaken. This is the real world.

Negged

 

[Little Wing]

.i lost all hope wed ever be connected the way i needed.....

The need to control is almost always fueled by anxiety ? though control freaks seldom recognize their fears. At work, they may worry about failure. In relationships, they may worry about not having their needs met.