The "X" position
How to do it: You sit on the bed with your legs in front of you; she straddles your torso.
Difficulty (on a scale of 1 to 10): 3
Payoff: 7
This position allows more gentle rocking than in-and-out thrusting--a change she'll love. "Guys don't like to hear this, but a lot of women find powerful thrusting distracting and simply prefer to be filled up' while they concentrate on stimulating the clitoris," says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Sacramento. To make this position really rock, hold hands with each other and lean back so you're connected only at the hands and genitals. Concentrate on wriggling the base of your penis against the upper part of her vaginal opening, grinding against her clitoris. (Warning: Some men don't like having their penises bent this way. If you're uncomfortable, try one of our other positions.)
What's in it for you: Since there's little steady motion to wear you out and only moderate stimulation to the head of your penis, you should be able to last longer than usual. Once she's had her fun, switch to a position that hits you in the right spots.
How to do it: You sit on the bed with your legs in front of you; she straddles your torso.
Difficulty (on a scale of 1 to 10): 3
Payoff: 7
This position allows more gentle rocking than in-and-out thrusting--a change she'll love. "Guys don't like to hear this, but a lot of women find powerful thrusting distracting and simply prefer to be filled up' while they concentrate on stimulating the clitoris," says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Sacramento. To make this position really rock, hold hands with each other and lean back so you're connected only at the hands and genitals. Concentrate on wriggling the base of your penis against the upper part of her vaginal opening, grinding against her clitoris. (Warning: Some men don't like having their penises bent this way. If you're uncomfortable, try one of our other positions.)
What's in it for you: Since there's little steady motion to wear you out and only moderate stimulation to the head of your penis, you should be able to last longer than usual. Once she's had her fun, switch to a position that hits you in the right spots.
