When you date someone, do you tell them everything?

[Vieope]

Everything?

 

[greekblondechic]

No.

 

[goandykid]

hell.no. unless it's a very serious relationship.

or there's always the case where you get mad at your partner and blurt out the obligatory "o yea well i fucked your best friend" or something along those lines

 

[Vieope]

But doesn´t it feel good to tell people your secrets?

 

[greekblondechic]

Sometimes..

 

[goandykid]

not when there's consequences

 

[Vieope]

So when you say something to your partner you carefully think how it may affect you in the future?

 

[goandykid]

And watch how and when you say it.

 

[goandykid]

What are you trying to tell her?

 

[busyLivin]

Everything?

not everything.

 

[maniclion]

No way that would take forever.

 

[ALIENEGYPT]

Everything?...they usually don't last long enough for everything.

 

[Vieope]

What are you trying to tell her?

If I didn´t tell her, would I tell you?

But it is nothing really. I always acted the way you described above but it would be nice to not worry about it anymore.

 

[goandykid]

But it is nothing really. I always acted the way you described above but it would be nice to not worry about it anymore.

Then tell her. Get it off your chest; if she's serious about the relationship she should be able to accept w/e it is.

 

[Vieope]

I am not the serious one.

Anyone with stories about something they told but really shouldn´t?

 

[Little Wing]

there are things about me that might make it hard for a man to be a part of my life. my kids come 1st, things like that. i think if you are headed into a serious relationship if it's not already obvious to the other person they need the reality check.

 

[goandykid]

do your kids not know your gay?

 

[goandykid]

woooooooooooooooooooooah jk ur a girl

 

[Little Wing]

yes i'm a girl. very.

 

[naturaltan]

 

[Eggs]

I've told Jenny pretty much everything I can think of, even the not so "relationship friendly" stories

I don't think you should blurt your life out to everybody that you come across, but if its something serious that could very well turn into one of those life long things, then you should share with them. If they can't take what you've done in your childhood or whatever else, well.. thats not the kind of person I'd want in my life.

 

[Little Wing]

i think if you want someone to love you it's only fair that you let them see the real deal. deep, dark n all.

 

[John H.]

Everything?

Hi "V",

I do not believe EVERYTHING should be told. The important things, yes. But there should always be mystery in a relationship because it can keep a relationship "alive and well". KNOWING everything about someone is not always a good idea - I think good surprises about someone would always be welcome...

(What if YOU told everyone your are a "WABBIT"? Let THEM find it out for themselves... )

Take Care, John H.

 

[John H.]

But doesn´t it feel good to tell people your secrets?

Hi "V",

Sometimes it is good to KEEP "secrets" because it can cause "mystery" in a relationship that is good.

Once a secret is revealed it is no longer a secret and there goes the mystery...

Take Care, John H.

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

Yes, why hide anything?
If they won't accept you for the weird, sick, and twisted person you are, then why be with them?

 

[Eggs]

Hi "V",

Sometimes it is good to KEEP "secrets" because it can cause "mystery" in a relationship that is good.

Once a secret is revealed it is no longer a secret and there goes the mystery...

Take Care, John H.

Well, I'm not sure I agree with that John. First off, why if a couple loves each other and click on that basic primal level, would they need to have mystery in their relationship? I know girls (and I guess guys) like that "bad boy" persona that has mystery to it, but thats someone you hit it up with in high school and college, not somebody that you marry.

Why? Because next thing you know their psychotic ass that was hiding their dark secrets starts beating you and cutting your body for their enjoyment. I'm not down with that crazy shit.

Secondly, if you really care for someone, I think you'd want them to care for you... knowing the entire you, and not basing that concept on some false front that you put up to entice them. If thats the case, the person doesn't really care for you, they care for the "actor" that you currently are, not whats deep inside.

Why get into a serious relationship at all if you can't share everything about yourself and be accepted for who you are? That just seems counter-productive to me.

 

[Eggs]

Yes, why hide anything?
If they won't accept you for the weird, sick, and twisted person you are, then why be with them?

Exactly

 

[Little Wing]

if you really care for someone, I think you'd want them to care for you... knowing the entire you, and not basing that concept on some false front that you put up to entice them.

yep.

 

[Vieope]

Yes, why hide anything?
If they won't accept you for the weird, sick, and twisted person you are, then why be with them?

Yeah.

 

[Vieope]

Eggs is such a nice guy. I wonder how his responses would be if Jenny was not on IM.