I'm trying. But it's tough, especially when my wife is trying with her lawyer to do other things.
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Kids & Divorce
Hey DG ...... although I can't relate to everything you have described, I can come pretty close. My wife and I went our separate ways after 19 years. At the time my son was 13 and my daughter 15. I live in Arizona, and as such they do give the men there due. If there isn't a reason a man shouldn't have joint custody, then the court will usually award it.
As for your ex planning all of this stuff. If you can show a pattern prior to her walking out, you can hold her liable for her depleting your accounts, not paying the bills and even cashing in her 401K. The court does not take too kindly to that kind of stuff.
Also, in our situation, I read everything I could, and gained as much knowledge as possible on the subject. It put me back in a position of control, instead of being in reactionary mode. This in itself was very satisfying.
One last thing. My ex also tried to use the kids against me at times. I just kept telling myslef that no matter how much she is pissing me off, it is not worth using the kids as pawns. I am here to tell you that it paid off, and over time the kids saw the difference.
Good luck and keep focused on your kids. No matter what else happens, they are every reason to prevail !!!!
Hey DG ...... although I can't relate to everything you have described, I can come pretty close. My wife and I went our separate ways after 19 years. At the time my son was 13 and my daughter 15. I live in Arizona, and as such they do give the men there due. If there isn't a reason a man shouldn't have joint custody, then the court will usually award it.
As for your ex planning all of this stuff. If you can show a pattern prior to her walking out, you can hold her liable for her depleting your accounts, not paying the bills and even cashing in her 401K. The court does not take too kindly to that kind of stuff.
Also, in our situation, I read everything I could, and gained as much knowledge as possible on the subject. It put me back in a position of control, instead of being in reactionary mode. This in itself was very satisfying.
One last thing. My ex also tried to use the kids against me at times. I just kept telling myslef that no matter how much she is pissing me off, it is not worth using the kids as pawns. I am here to tell you that it paid off, and over time the kids saw the difference.
Good luck and keep focused on your kids. No matter what else happens, they are every reason to prevail !!!!
Well I have no doubts that this was planned for a long time. At least back to early last summer when she put her 401k in a local bank fund. But proving it will be hard.
Found out yesteday from my brother in Oklahoma, that she had called the night before and talked to his wife. She must have a new job and got a $2000 sign on bonus and she said she intended on selling her Explorer which my name is on the title for a car that gets better gas milage. She would not speak to me last night when the kids called, but I called and left a message saying she could not sell it without me signing for the title and that if she did, I wanted half of the money as I paid about 5k for her down payment. Also, I had been after her for almost two weeks to bring the kids last night to the school for open house so the kids could meet their teacher and find their classroom. Of course she did not, but she allowed her sister in law to pick them up at daycare and take them to the school. Not only did she not want to show her face, she did not allow me as the father to do it. That pissed me off bigtime. But I have already sent my lawyer a fax this morning to keep on file to use in court to show as her unwillingness to work with me and put undue stress on the kids.
Found out yesteday from my brother in Oklahoma, that she had called the night before and talked to his wife. She must have a new job and got a $2000 sign on bonus and she said she intended on selling her Explorer which my name is on the title for a car that gets better gas milage. She would not speak to me last night when the kids called, but I called and left a message saying she could not sell it without me signing for the title and that if she did, I wanted half of the money as I paid about 5k for her down payment. Also, I had been after her for almost two weeks to bring the kids last night to the school for open house so the kids could meet their teacher and find their classroom. Of course she did not, but she allowed her sister in law to pick them up at daycare and take them to the school. Not only did she not want to show her face, she did not allow me as the father to do it. That pissed me off bigtime. But I have already sent my lawyer a fax this morning to keep on file to use in court to show as her unwillingness to work with me and put undue stress on the kids.
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Sorry, I can't remember reading it anywhere but has the divorce been filled yet?? If not file first!!
no, we have only been seperated for a little over a month. Seems like forever though with her crap. Wish I could go ahead and file.
Did you know it states in the bible that man must brew the coffee in the morning?
It does..................."HEBREWS".
It does..................."HEBREWS".
Just trying to get a sense of humor back in my life. Haven't had that much lately.
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I'm going to give you that one seeing as how you're overcoming a rough time ... :yikes: 
ok heres a better one NT.................
Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"
Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"
Hmmmmmmmmmm? That depends on Albob!Monolith said:
Any chance you can get down to Vegas this year? That'd definitely cheer you up.
Man, if you can head to Vegas.....I love Vegas.
I live in Miami but I make the trek to Vegas at least once every couple of years.
You'll definitely chill there...unless you've already been there, in which case
I live in Miami but I make the trek to Vegas at least once every couple of years.
You'll definitely chill there...unless you've already been there, in which case
I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe I bet I ate 2 gallons 
I bet I ate 2 gallons 
That was good!dg806 said:
Sounds like it was exactly what you neededdg806 said:I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe
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JerseyDevil said:Sounds like it was exactly what you needed
Well not exactly what I needed but close
I could have used a LLBBN!
For once, I'm not stressed out today. I'm listening to some Kenny G..................
Wish I wasn't at work though. I would love to be camping somewhere!
Wish I wasn't at work though. I would love to be camping somewhere!
oh..................I learned to play "Taps" on my Harmonica.
Are you taking anything additional vits for stress?
Nah...............I usually do good with stress anyway. I'm the type that can let something go in one ear and out the other. I usually don't worry about anything, and that always bugged my wife.......lol. And she is even being nicer lately. She must want something? We do have a mediation meeting Sept 2. She must be planning on asking for something? (Mediation is required by NC law for purposes of trying to work out child custody before it goes to court)
Hey Dg, is so good to hear you sound so happy. It must have been a blessing.dg806 said:I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe
In Miami, our beatiful mountains are called buildings
Well, you know what they say. Women, cant live with 'em, cant bury out back without a bag of lime and alot of water!!
Just found this journal. DG, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids. I couldn't imagine my wife pulling that crap on me. From your words, you are definately the bigger person in the relationship. Overtime your kids will be very apprecialble of your actions and putting them first. In the long run your wife will get what she deserves (children not respecting her).
By the way, I live in NC also, just went skiing at Badin Lake 2 weeks ago.
By the way, I live in NC also, just went skiing at Badin Lake 2 weeks ago.
Cool! I call it Little Mexico now!bludevil said:
So how's it been going lately. Ex still being civil?
Hey Dave!
I JUST saw this thread... I know I spoke to you about this already, but again I want to say I am very sorry for your pain. What your wife did to you was unforgivable.. not knowing where your children were for a week is no short of torture.
Be strong Hun... you know, I honestly believe in the end you will be better off. I will pray you get your babies!!
Cyndi
I JUST saw this thread... I know I spoke to you about this already, but again I want to say I am very sorry for your pain. What your wife did to you was unforgivable.. not knowing where your children were for a week is no short of torture.
Be strong Hun... you know, I honestly believe in the end you will be better off. I will pray you get your babies!!
Cyndi
Hey dg,
Just passing by to see how everything was going. I hope that this gets resolved quickly for you and painlessly for the kids....
take care...
Just passing by to see how everything was going. I hope that this gets resolved quickly for you and painlessly for the kids....
take care...
