Anxiety "Attacks"

[Ruben]

Hello Everyone, not many of you know me but I use to "lurk" here sometime ago...

Well here it goes.

I have been getting anxiety attacks before haveing sexual relations or just getting close to a girl it freaks me out(by close I mean date a girl) I can't go more then two weeks talking to a girl. Once it get's serious I freak out..I was hoping someone on here had some info that might help me or a similar situation. I live a very stressful life but I don't think that has much to do with my relations with girls.

This has taken a lot for me to admit so please don't be a stick in the mud.

 

[Hell]

Xanax/Valium, Benzo's could help.....Go see a psych for a script and some help

 

[SFW]

+1 for xanax. You'll go from reserved nerd to arrogant prick in a few minutes. Stack with 151 for optimal jerkyness.

 

[dayday87]

+1 for xanax. You'll go from reserved nerd to arrogant prick in a few minutes. Stack with 151 for optimal jerkyness.

And do things like try to crawl thru a window at a bar when it isnt open, then tell the bouncers they are fucking dumb because said window is open. Then get kicked out and THEN wake up and not remember a thing.

 

[REDDOG309]

Sounds like a fun night to me

 

[Hell]

I know exactly what ya'll are talking about!! Ive had soooooo many of those night over the last 10 years...

 

[dayday87]

Sounds like a fun night to me

Well the problem is not remembering it, I probably had a blast doing it.

 

[REDDOG309]

I like when my friends tell me the next day that i did this or i did that, and i'm like i did what to who. Then i go out and check the car for dents and blood stains.

 

[KelJu]

Having my life in order seems to help me. Also, powerful psychedelic drugs help. Your anxiety is a result of letting your fears and pain sit on the back burners of your mind to the point that they boil over. Prescription drugs help, but they only help while you are on them.

 

[heavyiron]

Xanax is pretty damn effective for anxiety. Just go to the doc and describe your symptoms and tell him you want Xanax.

 

[Little Wing]

get help BEFORE you're a 41 year old that never left his parents and dates girls on yahoo because your whole life is designed to not do things that make you or your parents anxious.

 

[Little Wing]

seriously. the years add up fast and this will control as much of your life as you let it. so far you are letting it but you are here asking for help. you need to go get help. see a dr.

 

[Ruben]

Having my life in order seems to help me. Also, powerful psychedelic drugs help. Your anxiety is a result of letting your fears and pain sit on the back burners of your mind to the point that they boil over. Prescription drugs help, but they only help while you are on them.

KelJu, thank you very much. This seems to be kinda spot on. I really don't want to take meds for this, I want to get rid of the problem not postpone it. Do you have any suggestions to trying to overcome this on my own or with out drugs?

I have Kaiser so I'll see if I'm covered to see a shrink...otherwise I'll be doing this on my own..

Thank you very much.

Everyone else I just LOL'd at your post(s).

 

[Little Wing]

you'll see a dr if you don't have to pay one? i have seen that kind of commitment to a persons mental health rob him of a life. the 41 yr old i mentioned is a real person and he has no life at all because he was so arrogant he thought he could deal with this without help. give yourself a year but if it's not gotten better or it's worse then see a dr no matter what it costs.

the only mental thing i think could help that you could do on your own is trying to really think about the girl's feelings. ask yourself how do i want to make her feel. if you concentrate on making her smile or making her feel relaxed maybe it will help you not be so nervous.

you can also find really good audio tapes online for free that help with anxiety.

and the loling at others who were only trying to help you shows you're kind of a douchebag i bet that's not helping with the ladies.

 

[Little Wing]

that chimp that ripped off the woman's face was given a xanax before it happened. steering clear of meds isn't such a bad idea.

 

[Ruben]

seriously. the years add up fast and this will control as much of your life as you let it. so far you are letting it but you are here asking for help. you need to go get help. see a dr.

you'll see a dr if you don't have to pay one? i have seen that kind of commitment to a persons mental health rob him of a life. the 41 yr old i mentioned is a real person and he has no life at all because he was so arrogant he thought he could deal with this without help. give yourself a year but if it's not gotten better or it's worse then see a dr no matter what it costs.

the only mental thing i think could help that you could do on your own is trying to really think about the girl's feelings. ask yourself how do i want to make her feel. if you concentrate on making her smile or making her feel relaxed maybe it will help you not be so nervous.

you can also find really good audio tapes online for free that help with anxiety.

and the loling at others who were only trying to help you shows you're kind of a douchebag i bet that's not helping with the ladies.

The LOL'd comment was becuase they were cracking jokes about going through windows...

Thank you for all the good advise. I will be seeing someone hopefully in the next week as I have to set a few bucks aside for a $100+ visit.(I'm 21).

I was hoping there's more I can do on my own but I don't see how...

that chimp that ripped off the woman's face was given a xanax before it happened. steering clear of meds isn't such a bad idea.

Yeah, I'm not big on drugs..unless that's my last resort.

 

[Ruben]

I apologize if I came off as a douchebag...

 

[Norton1977]

For the short term +3 for Xanax.

But definately get help, you dont want to rely on it forever.

 

[heavyiron]

I find that stimulants like caffeine make me more anxious. I would dump all stimulants first.

 

[blergs.]

Xanax/Valium, Benzo's could help.....Go see a psych for a script and some help

dont listin to this guy, dont take that shit.

 

[blergs.]

go look into cognative tharapy and look into valarian root and kavakava root.

 

[REDDOG309]

A good idea is to try to figure out what it is that is bringing it on, cause its always quick and unexpetcted. But try to remember what is going through your head right before it happens. Stress is a big factor for anxiety. When i had alot of stress in my life, i had alot of anxiety attacks. So belive me i know how f-ed up they are. But there is something that is triggering it, so pay attention to whats going on in your own head. And try to shed some stress if possible.

 

[Little Wing]

I apologize if I came off as a douchebag...

i see why it was funny but i hope you realize they are being serious as to these meds can and do have this affect on some people. this is valid experience. what to be prepared for if you go that route.

 

[dayday87]

The LOL'd comment was becuase they were cracking jokes about going through windows...

Thank you for all the good advise. I will be seeing someone hopefully in the next week as I have to set a few bucks aside for a $100+ visit.(I'm 21).

I was hoping there's more I can do on my own but I don't see how...



Yeah, I'm not big on drugs..unless that's my last resort.

Dude I made that comment because that has happened to me more than one time. I knew a guy that woke up in a closet with a gun in his hand after passing out on xanax.

It sounds like you had some kind of trama in your childhood where you started subconsciously pushing people away after a certain point because you were hurt very bad at some point in your life.

First figure out what is making you do that, then try to come to terms with it and work on the symptoms. Going to see a doctor is great, and you can tell them you don't want to be put on meds. Past that, its on you.

 

[SFW]

listen op. The doctor isnt going to do much but prescribe zoloft or some other garbage.

sounds to me like you might have a small penis and you fear her redicule and laughter.

no amount of therapy or meds will make your penis larger. just date asians like adam does.

GICH!

 

[Nightowl]

So, I have to ask....When you get these anxiety attacks, and you are saying this happens what every two weeks into the relationship...where are you with the relationship? How can you constitute 2 weeks as serious?

With your scenario...when you get the jitters, is it because your body is so happy about this "relationship" and you're about to "in your mind" get something that you are truly looking for? I mean, you say "serious," but I am trying to understand your thought process. How can 2 weeks be serious? Is it in your mind, because it is longer then maybe (not saying this is the fact(s)) a one night stand? Is this why your using the word "serious"? I think, that your "thought process" indeed is the complete problem, you're too sprung, and this is a great feeling, but sometimes with crashing results. Been there, done that!


Maybe a laid back approach before you get into a relationship or ask a girl out, with yourself as the DR and analyst, is the key here. This might make things run bit more smoothly. If you're the type with altered ego, like me....your approach is "the most important."

This scared little mind f*** aka "anxiety" is where you are truly interested in meeting something better and need to get a closer look. (I had one like that in a "pin striped suit," and I lost him...long ago)

You being your self instead of tons of meds, is far better approach in the long run, and besided meds will screw up your liver, so we know the "yourself" would be better.

If you think about your time to come and then the approaches you've taken in the past, you may find that indeed you're going to change some issues or ideas.?. Maybe learn to sit back instead of moving instantly forward, and if not the problem then try vice versa. Either way, in order for you to get more in tune with the inner feelings of "anxiety" you'll need to make standards with you "inner thought process." This being of what is serious and what can be the matters for future relationships. Once then laid out for your path and then taken and moving forward, you'll see "great" results, with less heart ache too.

If you've truly not been able to change your whole means of the problem, then the another result that may make it easier for you is to tell your date...I'm a bit nervous, and see if she can lessen the problem. Then with that out of the way, it may make a bit difference.

Good Luck...finding love or someone for a LTR is a blessing, once its found.

 

[Zaphod]

Hello Everyone, not many of you know me but I use to "lurk" here sometime ago...

Well here it goes.

I have been getting anxiety attacks before haveing sexual relations or just getting close to a girl it freaks me out(by close I mean date a girl) I can't go more then two weeks talking to a girl. Once it get's serious I freak out..I was hoping someone on here had some info that might help me or a similar situation. I live a very stressful life but I don't think that has much to do with my relations with girls.

This has taken a lot for me to admit so please don't be a stick in the mud.

Xanax, paxil and similar drugs are also for treating social anxiety in addition to other problems. General anxiety, panic attacks, depression and OCD are the other problems. The point of such drugs isn't to mask or cover up symptoms, despite what others would say, they are to correct what has become a chemical imbalance in the brain. The correction doesn't happen overnight much less with one bottle of pills. If you decide to go with a prescription be aware that you need to see it through the initial and occaionally unpleasant side effects, most of which go away as your body gets used to the drugs. At that point the drugs are beginning to make you better.

But it's also important to figure out what is causing the anxiety, get a grip on it and control it. That's probably the most important part. See a counselor if you can't do it on your own.

Not a doctor or any self proclaimed expert. Just someone who's been there and is still there with some things. Do your research, don't just ask on a random forum.

 

[Nightowl]

Ruben,
My typing SUCKS!

If you can't get the gest of my note, because of my typos,( and I am again sorry for that, GUILTY not wearing my glasses and my little one screaming up a storm)...Just pm me if necessary.


Good Luck!!!!!

 

[SFW]

Just pm me if necessary

 

[Dark Geared God]

Hello Everyone, not many of you know me but I use to "lurk" here sometime ago...

Well here it goes.

I have been getting anxiety attacks before haveing sexual relations or just getting close to a girl it freaks me out(by close I mean date a girl) I can't go more then two weeks talking to a girl. Once it get's serious I freak out..I was hoping someone on here had some info that might help me or a similar situation. I live a very stressful life but I don't think that has much to do with my relations with girls.

This has taken a lot for me to admit so please don't be a stick in the mud.

do like i do before it builds up too much go to a public place and punch the first asshole you see..I'll tell ya you'll feel better real fast