Yes, I am kind of an asshole, that is for sure. But, in my defense I dated this girl that was smoking hot, had a kid, and made me wait a really long time for sex saying she had only been with a few guys and wanted to make sure it was more than just dating/sex. Not a problem, I down with that. Dated for like a month and finally I got some and it wasn't good at all. I have a normal length, fairly girthy member, and this girl was so loose that I just couldn't see myself in a relationship at all. Now, she was emotionally invested and I was the asshole! She was pissed and thought "once I got what I wanted I bailed." Terrible situation. I want to avoid that at all costs, so normally if a girl is making me wait more than a few dates then I start to wonder how it will play out.
I tried to ask her about the child birth experience even told her about this girl in my office that is pregnant and trying to decide if c-section is right for her, and I thinking she would offer up some insight about her situation. Nothing.
See, I don't want to waste her time or get her emotions involved, so this is not just about me being shallow.