Married guy needs help w/wife

[MuskokaGirl]

Swimming is probably the best for this situation, along with a healthy diet

 

[johnmarten]

Go for HCG Diet

Hi, let her try HCG diet. I think she has developed some abnormal fats. You can bring home homeopathic HCG drops which is extremely safe. Along with that, she has to follow Very Low Calorie Diet (VLCD). The drops are easy to administer and one can carry along them quite easily.

This is the easiest as no physical exercise is required. You can order it without consulting a doctor.

 

[guidojuice4ever]

i told my wife you dont loose wieght you dont get the magic stick easy as that

 

[Domas]

Go on diet with her, just to be supportive, and if you don`t need to lose weight, eat somewhere else, tell her it is only because of her health...

 

[AmFitNow]

I have read somewhere that if a heavy person tries to eat alot less, the body will go into a mode like it is being starved and will actually gain MORE weight.
Your wife, not just because of weight, but for bettering health, would benefit from optimum nutrition guidelines, warm ups and some excercise. As suggested above, biking is good excercise and definately so is swimming.

 

[AmFitNow]

In a few more posts, I am going to post a thread about something really cool that helped my mom. It was amazing to see, and I want to let people know about it. I will post it in open chat forum, and try to swing by here in nutrition forum.
It would be great for your wife, too if you both started a good nutrition plan together. It would be easier for her to start with you than to try and go it alone, eventhough she has your support. Hang in there.

 

[Built]

I have read somewhere that if a heavy person tries to eat alot less, the body will go into a mode like it is being starved and will actually gain MORE weight.

Nope. If a heavy person tries to eat a lot less, most of what they lose is fat.

 

[Gissurjon]

I think this is just one example lending credibility to the "social rank" theories.

Basically, in a friendship, be it romantic or otherwise, people are the happiest when around people of similiar social ranking. In other words, with someone in your league.

While you may be proud to land the home coming queen, and happy that she has chosen you, you will constantly wonder if she will stay with you or returns your feelings. Likewise, if you are the one higher on the ladder, you tend to take a more high handed approach in your relationships, because you can easily do "better".

TLDR: Your wife feels resentment towards you that you are now rising above her in social value.

I don't know if it's true, but it's an interesting theory.

i pretty much agree with you. sabotage of this kind is really common but it is also about as selfish as one could get. imagine somebody hiding their partner's school book so they wont get that degree and that higher paying job. i think when you are married it is important that both people are committed to improving in what ever they do. try coming home and telling your wife you turned down that 60% payraise because youre just so damn comfortable where you are at. if one is not willing to put in effort to move with your improvements that person just might get left behind. they say surround yourself with people that have good influence on your life and goals. (IM NOT TELLING ANYBODY TO GET A DIVORCE) lol

 

[emma2train]

First off, get her hormones tested. Women starting in their thirties have fluctuations that can cause specific weight gains and patterns. If her hormones are all in line then it is time to look at diet. I agree that Atkins is great for a start. The suggestions of biking and swimming are great too. Looking into a mild pain management program might be good too. I have had chronic pain for over 10 years and when it's bad for long periods of time it can affect even the most positive person.

WOW that sucks about breaking your knees.

 

[emma2train]

Also have her thyroid checked. Hoshimotos is a thyroid condition that is commonly onset as women age and usually goes undetected.

 

[emma2train]

Kyle64-years ago I had been in a stable and long term relationship and had made some great improvements to my appearance. I was very fortunate that we had amazing, open communication and talked about how it made my boyfriend feel. He was a little insecure about it at first. I guess it;s not uncommon for people to get the 'new hair, new man' feeling. To explain, new hair or new body can mean the change is for or to get someone else. It's just important to let your wife know that she is your queen. If you liked her going to the gym, maybe just make a comment sometime telling her that you thought it was fun when she went and you would enjoy it if she tagged along sometimes. That way she doesn't feel pressured to go and it gives it meaning as a couple and not a physical recommendation.
You are definitely a wise man to never tell a woman she should diet.