Well, if communication with both the husband and wife was so bad- that either was refusing to pay more attention or give affection, then why should it be so completely bad to search and find it some where else. We werent meant to be unhappy, especailly in marraige, and if it does mean fooling around with another person to fill that empty void, then do it. You will regret knowing that you never tried, or that you never sort after that happiness or affection you needed and desired. Why remain in a relationship where you arent getting what you want or need?? You only have one life....