Need advice on woman....please help part II

[Randy]

Personally I think that your experience was touching Bustinout , but everyone's situation is different. This was his first love, and there could be something special there with her. That is up to him to decide. Again, everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Being that it was is first sweetheart, he could be throwing away the best thing that ever happend to him.. Again, that is up to him to decide. Then again, maybe not. But the important thing here is that you need to make that decision Flex. The best advice I can give you is follow your own heart. You can sit and listen to peoples love stories for days. But each will be totally different and with different circumstances. By no way am I an authority, but I do have common sense.

 

[BUSTINOUT]

Originally posted by Randy
Personally I think that your experience was touching Bustinout , but everyone's situation is different. This was his first love, and there could be something special there with her. That is up to him to decide. Again, everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Being that it was is first sweetheart, he could be throwing away the best thing that ever happend to him.. Again, that is up to him to decide. Then again, maybe not. But the important thing here is that you need to make that decision Flex. The best advice I can give you is follow your own heart. You can sit and listen to peoples love stories for days. But each will be totally different and with different circumstances. By no way am I an authority, but I do have common sense.

WTF does common sense have to do with any of this? News flash...if you are following your heart, common sense pretty much goes out the window. I think you missed my point alltogether. The fact that it IS his first love is all the more reason to think things through. I'm all for following ones heart, but it has to be combined with what is smart too. I agree, everyone deserves a second chance. I would much rather know that I gave it my best, than to wonder "what if". I'm not advising FLEX to tell her to "F" off and forget about her, but at the same time, going running back with his tongue hanging out like a lost puppy ain't the answer either. That is why I said if he calls her back, just to keep the temperature "luke warm". Whether is was his first love or not is not even the issue, but that is the worst reason to make hasty decisions because he has no reference point...nothing to compare it too. That is like saying your first lay was the best ever...well no crap Einstein...it was your ONLY lay! None of us are authorities in this area, I agree. But "common sense" has very little to do with this. How can it be "common" if everyone's situation and opinion is different as you say? I'm just telling the chap that rarely is the first one the last one. It's easy to get all freaked out like that.

Good luck FLEX, sorry for the little rant.

 

[Randy]

Common sense to follow his own heart, rather than listen to all these BS Stories about other people's situations and their advice. That is what it has to do with it! This is not football .
It sounds like your writing a play book for him. My point is simply this, while he did ask for help; the best advice is for everyone to leave him alone to follow his own heart and make his own decision like I said. End of Story. I think he is old enough to do that and doesn't need his hand held. Whether he calls her, emails her, or lets his tongue hang out during the conversation. That is his own business.

 

[J'Bo]

Originally posted by Flex
thanks jb, i knew i could count on your for some quick dating info haha

whats msn..email?

alls i would do is call and say hello....thats bad youre saying??

i don't think i could handle to bodacious babes at once (you and babs), so you'll have to take turns haha

i meant instant messenger flex

you really think it would be a hello only? my geuss is she would ask you to come over to "watch a movie" you would snuggle get comfy and be right back in the same place you were.

no you probably couldnt

believe me you will find someone else in time she isnt the only one you will ever care about.

sounds like these are issues that come from yourself if you are going back to her because you dont want to be single anymore. there are plenty of great women out there...you just cant look for them.

reason why your not attracting good girls is cause you attract what you are...so stop being a ho

i think that you need to call her though because your mind is made up...go with your head and not your heart on this one though...you will always wonder what she wanted if you dont call.

i like this one "She was your first and that should always have a special place in your heart, but she will not be your last" -BO

randy...you dont know the whole story and if he did get back with her the same thing would happen again...mark my words...our little flex is not cured of his first yet.

randy your obviously single arent you or unhappy at that. dont hack on anyone here or youll get it. opinions are opinions and leave it at that. there is nothing wrong from learning from others mistakes so you dont have to make them yourself. everyone knows that each situation is different and so we are telling him what we would do. you dont even know his sit. so and apologize then go read his first post and off

 

[BUSTINOUT]

Originally posted by Randy
Common sense to follow his own heart, rather than listen to all these BS Stories about other people's situations and their advice. That is what it has to do with it! This is not football .
It sounds like your writing a play book for him. My point is simply this, while he did ask for help; the best advice is for everyone to leave him alone to follow his own heart and make his own decision like I said. End of Story. I think he is old enough to do that and doesn't need his hand held. Whether he calls her, emails her, or lets his tongue hang out during the conversation. That is his own business.

If it's not too much to ask...try not to be a dick...k?

 

[Flex]

Originally posted by J'Bo

you really think it would be a hello only? my geuss is she would ask you to come over to "watch a movie" you would snuggle get comfy and be right back in the same place you were.

sounds like these are issues that come from yourself if you are going back to her because you dont want to be single anymore. there are plenty of great women out there...you just cant look for them.

reason why your not attracting good girls is cause you attract what you are...so stop being a ho

i think that you need to call her though because your mind is made up...go with your head and not your heart on this one though...you will always wonder what she wanted if you dont call.

yes, i do think it would just be a hello. now she is 40min away, so its not like she lives next door anymore. but if i did go visit her, i am a cuddleslut.....

it's not like i'm calling b/c i can't stand being single now, i'm calling cuz like you said "i will always wonder what she wanted....". then again she did call at 2:30am, so she was prob. drunk and had the balls to say the truth (truth comes out when you're drunk).

HAHA j'bo you're too funny. I don't not attract good girls, i just don't like any of them. maybe its cuz i compare them to her, who knows. i am not a ho haha. i'm actually a very nice guy, chicks dig nice guys and guys that treat them like absolute shit, no in between. its all this test. in my body....i gotta get it out somehow haha

i'll call her and just say hello thats all. thansk again everyone....i'll keep you guys updated....

 

[Randy]

JBO, I'm far from single, and Flex, I'm not being a dick.
I just think it is fun to listen to all the love affair experts coaching our friend Flex. He is a big boy, let him make his own decision. I don't know all the circumstances and is not my business to know them all. I'm sure there are many details that he left out in his postings to you.

Your right though, I will definately drop out of this one.
You go JBO.....

 

[Randy]

That's ok Babsie, I never take anthing on these forums personal. :

 

[BabsieGirl]

It's just that it was funny and I made a really good crack at ya.

 

[Randy]

You enjoy this don't you Babsie?

 

[Randy]

BUSTINOUT,

I guess I was being a prick to you . I appologize. I really didn't mean to offend ya.

But JBO, you sure are a bitch . Dam, feel sorry for the guy that dates you. If your married, it is incredible you even got that far.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and I voiced mine. It didn't deserve all that trash mouth talk from your foul mouth.
You tell me to fuck off and flip me off for voicing my opinion. I admit I did appear to come across sarcastic to Bustinout, but I didn't intend to be. (Again, I just voiced my own opinion). So why don't you take your trash mouth talk elsewhere. I sure don't want to hear it.

SO JBO >

 

[J'Bo]

actually i was not even using my potty mouth but thanks.
i thought that you were out of line when you were talking to BO and so i stuck up for a guy i know is GREAT. ok so i geuss i am a bitch for that. dont matter to me i never told you to eff off either...i told you to ass off flex is a little boy and he needs a women to set him straight (sometimes) and i think that i did tell him to do what he wanted but also said what i thought would happen. anyways i am so not in an arguing mood. i am in a warm snuggle lovin mood so i will leave things at that

 

[Randy]

If you weren't using your potty mouth, God! I would hate to hear when you use it.

And telling me to ass off? What is that? You know it meant fuck off.

Well... I'm not in an arguing mood either, but when I voice my opinion and someone trash talks me, I am going to respond.


So I will leave it at that...

Originally posted by J'Bo
actually i was not even using my potty mouth but thanks.

 

[J'Bo]

you callin me trash mr. ?

k so lets just admit that the both of us kinda went loopy...and forget about it

 

[Randy]

Ok JBO, fair enough.

 

[BUSTINOUT]

Originally posted by Randy
BUSTINOUT,

I guess I was being a prick to you . I appologize. I really didn't mean to offend ya.

Yep, ya sure were, but no harm man. I know how to be a prick right back.

 

[Randy]

LOL I guess the prick comes out in all of us from time to time.

 

[BabsieGirl]

Originally posted by Randy
You enjoy this don't you Babsie?

You know it

 

[Randy]

Babsie,

Where's your picture under your name?
I would think you would have one being at almost expert posting level (holding a total of 857 posts) Oh, and that wasn't meant to be sarcastic either.

I got all the prick out of me already earlier

 

[Randy]

Watch it though Babsie, I'm catching up to your butt. I'm holding a whole 175 under my belt.

 

[Randy]

By the way, What is a Babsie? I don't think that is a proper name, so it must have some special meaning? Or I'm just a moron and don't see it.

 

[Flex]

Update.......figured you guys like this drama shit so here you go hahaha...........

Call me a nice guy, a sucker, a dumbass......whatever you wanna call me.........

So she keeps im'ing me and so i finally gave in and started being nice (that's just the way i am). I told her to call if she wanted to "really" talk, so she did.

We ended up talking for like an hour, and she was like pouring her heart out on me, but not begging for me back you know what i mean? She was telling me how she just wants me in her life whether we're friends or going out (guess i'm a great guy haha), and she says she realized she was a "dick".
She did party that night, and i even asked her if she was being so honest and nice cuz she was drunk, but she said no. She sounded sincere, adn it was nice to hear what she had to say.

Anyways, she asked, and i agreed to hang out sometime...we'll see where this goes........

 

[gr81]

well now you've done it, all I have to say is good luck.

 

[Randy]

See Flex, was that so hard. Way to go... It's not that your giving in after waiting as long as you did. But if you care for the girl sounds like you did the right thing.

 

[Flex]

Originally posted by gr81
well now you've done it, all I have to say is good luck.

ha you don't sound sincere w/ your "good luck" gr haha. we'll see what happens (how bout them f*ckin PATS kid!)

Thanks for your advice Randy, your compassion is appreciated....

 

[gr81]

I was being sarcastic my mna. you should've left well enough alone IMO. The only wasy to get over someone is to cut off ties, especially your first serious GF but hey, we all seem to want to learn the hard way. i was once in teh same position, you will learn.

hell ya, that comback by new englans was pretty sweet. I mean granted Denver was missing half of their staff, Plummer, Sharpe for teh fourth, Elam there star kicker, but impressive none the less. taking that safety turned out to be a smart move and that endxone pass by Brady was nice. good times

 

[Flex]

i guess i'll have to learn the hard way haha. call me stubborn or hardheaded, but i'll let you know if i end up getting burnt and tell you "you told me so"......

Although Denver's "main" guys were out, N.E. has the most injuries in the league playa...

 

[gr81]

hey I hope you don't get burnt bro, all I know is that everyone thinks that their situation is different and their girl is different, but most of the time she has a different agenda than the innocence that she has you believe. Girls love to keep guys, especially ex's in the "bullpen" to get attention without having to give it up. I don't want to see that happen. You know here better than I do obiously so good luck to you man, sincerely. I just know woman pretty well, despite what some of them here might say. they hate it when I am right but the truth hurts, haha hah ha.

 

[Flex]

i'll update when i get any new info...........thanks for your good wishes playa

 

[Randy]

You do that Flex...