Relationship advice PLEASE HELP!!!!!!@#!

[BUSTINOUT]

Originally posted by ST240
k but i need a way to make her know that im not fucking around and that if shes just wasting my time dragging this shit out i dont even wanna bother

Try that thing where you move your lips and words come out...TALK TO HER!!!! She is not a mind reader and neither are we. Not every girl you day is going to act like she is totally "in to you". Hell, marries couples don't even do that 24/7. That is why is called trust. But first, you need to get this crap with the other guy settled, before you drive yourself nuts. Good luck bro. Hope it all works out. BTW, I'd take bits and pieces of different people's advice. Not all of one persons.

 

[Burner02]

Good post...even coming from...you..

was'sup, BO!

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

Originally posted by rockgazer69
if J'Bo reads that you've had it.

firstly i was kidding

and second
Its not like i would ever have a chance with her anyway

 

[J'Bo]

actually rockgazer i tend to ignore ignorant comments...even if they are a joke because this guy was actually looking for some help....not a joke.

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

and i feel he got what he was looking for
so i felt i'd **try** to lighten the mood a bit

but i guess you old grannies are stuck in your ways

 

[J'Bo]

and i geuss you young terd's dont know how to joke when its appropriate....isnt it past your bedtime?

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

Listen, he got advice
He thought about it
He figured his plan

This was serious for 3 pages...thats good enough
one thing wouldnt hurt....Ive been in a lot of serious threads, where someone like randy will just pop in and say some shit
and then everyone will

So me saying one thing is not gonna kill anyone

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

isnt it past your bedtime?

wow....just wow

I cant concieve how much thought was put into this "diss"

 

[OceanDude]

lol... I have given my best advise. Unsubscribing since I know where it's going from here.

-OD

 

[Rich46yo]

Cat maybe you should find a immature tennie forumn to post your nitwit remarks at. Dude you have some serious growing up to do.

To the poster I'd say the "talk to her" approach is the best one. Dont be angry, dont ever let another person hold the keys to your self esteem. If the relationship doesnt work, for whateevr reason, then move on. It never pays to crucify yourself over it. Sounds easier then it is I know. But time heals any wound.

I suggest looking into a mirror and see a person whos to important to ever let someone else destroy. That "someone" who'll appreciate you is out there. You just might have to look more................take care............Rich

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

^ no your a immatur tennie forumsnnns

 

[Skate67]

update:

i was with her for about 4 hours before i actually got around to saying what i had to say. these 4 hours were pretty awkward and i knew she could tell something was up.

Anyways, we were sitting down in her living room talked and reading a fashion mag or something and after about a 10 second silence i said "can i talk to you about something?" and she immediately said "i know exactly what you're going to say but go ahead anyway" quite odd. but i said something like "when we first started going out you were totally into me and it was great. we were having fun, connecting blah blah blah. but now youre acting kinda strange, almost as if you dont like me anymore. And if you dont like me, then i dont want to be going out with you anymore, so you need to tell me how you feel" and she replied with something like "no no i totally know what you mean, i dont know whats gotten into me lately blah blah blah" but she told me that she still did like me, and if she ever started to feel different about me, she'd let me know. Then she somehow hopped onto the subject of 'i hope when this does end we can still be friends'. Which totally put up my guard about how she was just keeping me around cuz she didnt want to totally lose me. Then i said "you know i dont know if i believe you, about you still liking me... You really need to tell me because id rather not go out with you, than stay together with you just dragging your ass cuz you feel you have to" still she said she still liked me. so we agreed to stay together for the time being. But it doesnt look too bright .

On a side note i talked to her same friend who brought up a very interesting point. She said she thought my girlfriend liked the idea of us together (how much i like her and how well we get along) rather than me myself. kinda hard to explain.

Anyways thanks a lot everyone youve helped tons!!!

 

[Skate67]

btw.... even when im talking to girls in real life i still say "blah blah dude/man"

 

[myCATpowerlifts]

I say blah blah too

and i like to say dude and man to them

but everytime i do
they say
Hey im not a man, or a dude

so i resorted to just saying girlie or something

 

[J'Bo]

good job for talking to her...now you know that she isnt into you at least your a bigger person for confronting it.
why are you waiting around for it to end then
perhaps you should date her friend cause you both seem to be interested in communicating with eachother more than you and the girlfriend.

 

[Burner02]

that would be great! j'bo...you rock!
what r u doing tonight? ANything? How was your class this morning?

 

[J'Bo]

thanks B
i just got home from baby bro's bday party. i got him a trampolene and he loves it he was still jumping around as i was leaving. i forgot to get pics i am heading to bed now. long long day and killed my girls this morning at boot camp they were all sweatin like piggys

 

[Burner02]

soounds like Kristen would loe to attend your class!
heh..maybe y'all can spin or something in Vegas!

She cracksme up. She is whining that her wednesday morning spin instructor..ONLY spins for 40 minutes....

 

[J'Bo]

yah she is nuts.
i only teach the boot camp.
i would never be able to get threw it

 

[Skate67]

Originally posted by J'Bo
now you know that she isnt into you at least your a bigger person for confronting it.
why are you waiting around for it to end then

i think shes still into me a bit tho. cuz she did say she was, and she also said that if she wasn't she'd tell me.

what are your thoughts?

 

[J'Bo]

i think that if she mentioned you two being friends once the relationship is over then she is thinking about it. so in my opinion either you sit around and wait for her to end it and be miserable or move on.

 

[Skate67]

Originally posted by J'Bo
i think that if she mentioned you two being friends once the relationship is over then she is thinking about it. so in my opinion either you sit around and wait for her to end it and be miserable or move on.

either way im gonna be miserable

 

[J'Bo]

miserable with someone.
or
miserable alone but with the ability to learn from the situation and make some changes for the better.
its all up to you.
personally i wouldnt stick around til she decides she doesnt want you around at all.

 

[Skate67]

Originally posted by J'Bo
miserable with someone.
or
miserable alone but with the ability to learn from the situation and make some changes for the better.
its all up to you.
personally i wouldnt stick around til she decides she doesnt want you around at all.

aw but i like her so much.... wow i turn into such a wuss when i find a girl i really like...

 

[J'Bo]

well i think you deserve a girl that likes you just as much. she is out there, trust me.

 

[Skate67]

will she have an ass thats as nice as my gf's? haha

 

[Burner02]

Originally posted by J'Bo
miserable with someone.
or
miserable alone but with the ability to learn from the situation and make some changes for the better.
its all up to you.
personally i wouldnt stick around til she decides she doesnt want you around at all.

nice post.

bud-
sounds like you are getting played. She may like you. She seems to like this other guy too. If you don't mind sharing, then fine.
Maybe you should look to find another girl to share her time with as well.
If she thinks that you aren't going to wait for her to make up her mind, then things wlil happen. One way or the other.
She will either realize that you are the guy she wants to be with, and ditch this other guy, or she will move on. If you have found another woman..then fine, no loss.
You're pertty young, right?

 

[Skate67]

yes im 19.... and im not getting played... she hasnt touched another guy since we started going out

 

[Skate67]

Originally posted by J'Bo
miserable with someone.
or
miserable alone but with the ability to learn from the situation and make some changes for the better.
its all up to you.
personally i wouldnt stick around til she decides she doesnt want you around at all.

how will i not learn if i stay with her tho

im kind of glad this relationship is happening... do you realize how much ive learned about women since the beginning of this mess? haha

 

[Dale Mabry]

Originally posted by ST240
and she replied with something like "no no i totally know what you mean, i dont know whats gotten into me lately blah blah blah" but she told me that she still did like me, and if she ever started to feel different about me, she'd let me know. Then she somehow hopped onto the subject of 'i hope when this does end we can still be friends'.

If this is went down how you say, get rid of her, she is done with you. Very classic case of lying to be quite honest with you.