If you were incredibly sadistic, you could have tracked down a photo of this gal's husband and replied back to her through the yahoo personals.
Of course, that would have probably destroyed her family quicker than just participating in an affair with her.
I'd personally stay away. I mean, if your wife had two kids, what would you think of her/the man she was with that ruined your whole life?
Stinks about the North Carolina rule. At least you weren't in Virginia. A relative of mine was a good, upstanding guy. Awesome father. Church deacon. Really in shape. His wife was a deadbeat who refused to work, didn't cook, terrible mother. The woman goes out and has multiple affairs, which he finds a PI to investigate. Long story short: she gets the house, the kids, and child-support to the toon of $2,400 per month.