should I be offended?

[sendit08]

maybe an even better question...
would you be offended?

My wife has decided to pay for a trainer at our gym.
If it were a nutritionist I would encourage it but come on.
I have made enourmous transformations and come a long way.
I feel like its a smack in my face to do this.
especially because I have tried and tried to get her to train and now this trainer is doing it with ease.
and taking our money.

and also, NO its not a male trainer its a chick and for the record she has no certifications except cpr .

 

[Eiserner Hahn]

i would probably be upset

 

[HARD AT IT]

Consider it a blessing bro. I used to train with my ex and that sucked. I get way better w/o by myself or with one of the fellas for sure. Women lift a lot different then we do. I would never do it again, unless she was experienced.

 

[dieseljimmy]

Yeah maybe a little...

but maybe she just doesn't want to go as hard you. or maybe she thinks your a pussy and wants to go harder.

you know I have a three year old and she will whine and complain to my wife all day long. Me she complains but not as much and too our nanny she's as sweet as fucking pie. She won't complain at all. Because she is not as comfortable with my nanny. Maybe there's a mentality that's similar... Maybe she doesn't want to workout with you because she knows she will feel comfortable complaining. Maybe she knows that she will work harder for a stranger... Just thinking

 

[Intense]

Some guys love lifting with their wives but for me it's more of a headache because I get nothing done with her always complaining about something lol.

 

[kristaleigh]

From a girl's perspective lifting with your man sucks. Especially if he knows what he's doing. The last thing a woman wants is for her man to see her be weak in an area that he's strong in. I'm a trainer and know what I'm doing and I still feel that way. I'll lift at the same time as my man, in the same place, but never actually together. I do my thing, he does his, no fighting, all good. If I need a spot, then yes, I'll grab him, otherwise I'd rather him glance over and see me rocking my workout than be standing over me tearing it apart. Trust me, training your girl is a baaaad idea even if you are an amazing trainer. It will kill your relationship.

 

[Getbig2]

Some guys love lifting with their wives but for me it's more of a headache because I get nothing done with her always complaining about something lol.

Lol same here! My girls says she wants me to train her, but im always on the free weights where its surrounded by perverts according to her lmao, shes sexy so I know guys are slobbering lol but its all good im not the jealous type, so I tell her its better that they stare cuz she looks fine, then be staring and saying how ugly you are! But anyways I just tell her to find a gf and workout with them, cuz I go to get swole not to worry about whos looking.

 

[heavylifting1]

Did you offer to train her yourself?

 

[HFO3]

I wouldn't be offended at all. Simply ask her why she wants a trainer, I would bet you understand her reason and agree with her once she tells you her reason.

My wife and I train together and we have a good wo's and a great time. However, we are on very different levels so we don't push it, sometimes we do our own thing, sometimes I train her and do my own thing later, keeping things very open really makes it simple and pressure free. Honestly, does anyone really enjoy WOing out with the SAME PERSON all the time, I know I don't. Too much of a good thing isn't a good thing it's monotonous.

 

[dave 236]

Hell I want my wife to train...just not in the same gym as me. I'd gladly pay someone ( especially a qualified woman) to help her. I can't talk to her like other trainees or I get cutoff at home.

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[Getbig2]

Hell I want my wife to train...just not in the same gym as me. I'd gladly pay someone ( especially a qualified woman) to help her. I can't talk to her like other trainees or I get cutoff at home.

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lol

 

[c4x]

Maybe shes under the impression that she will build muscle in the same fashion as you?

 

[Jack_Hammer]

be thankful bro! A trainer is going to tell her what she wants to hear and not be honest. I used to train a girl I was with and I was honest and that didn't go over to well. don't be offended!

 

[Swfl]

she is probably intimitaded by your progress and wants to be on your level, so she is doing what she feels is going to get her the results. I know my wife is like that she gets upset when i make progress and she doesnt. I would take it as money well invested and let the trainer bitch kick her ass. then you encourage her tell her how great she looks then go home and knock the bottom out of it. WIN-WIN!!!

 

[Watson]

damn i couldnt/wouldnt lift with my wife, id rather be re-circumsized with a rusty nail file....

ur wife wants to do it alone so u will be proud of her, if u train her then she cant take credit

be happy ull be hitting a tighter body soon

 

[REDDOG309]

Don't make it about you because it isn't, Just be happy that she is trying to take better care of herself.

 

[s2h]

Be thankful she wants to train.....and let her do her thing...it wouldn't bother me at all and I train people...my wife is a trainer and she has a trainer,nutrionist/prep coach(she competes)...I don't offer any help and she really doesn't ask for much....and it works out best that way...if we go to the gym together(which is rare)she does her thing and I do mine..

I guess its more comforting knowing her coaches are guys I know very well and were the ones who helped me early on in my bb ventures..

 

[PushAndPull]

I wouldn't take it personal, it's just her preference. It will also give you more free time in the gym. To top it off her trainer is a women, so just dream about a threesome with the trainer and your wife's future body. Future looks bright.

 

[CG]

As long as she's doing it and the cost isn't putting you out too much, I would not be bothered in the least.

 

[jshredz]

She's probably under the wrong impression that if she trains with a bodybuilder she'll look like one.

Just like all the inexperience guys you see at the gym that probably want to train with you, but the first words that come out there mouth is " I don't want to be as big as you" LOL

I would consider this a blessing in disguise, whenever I trained with my wife I would spent hours at the gym and it was a hard to get a good workout in and keep a good pace.

besides it's a female trainer to top it off, your gtg in my book

 

[Jenie]

From a girl's perspective lifting with your man sucks. Especially if he knows what he's doing. The last thing a woman wants is for her man to see her be weak in an area that he's strong in. I'm a trainer and know what I'm doing and I still feel that way. I'll lift at the same time as my man, in the same place, but never actually together. I do my thing, he does his, no fighting, all good. If I need a spot, then yes, I'll grab him, otherwise I'd rather him glance over and see me rocking my workout than be standing over me tearing it apart. Trust me, training your girl is a baaaad idea even if you are an amazing trainer. It will kill your relationship.

I agree

 

[Little Wing]

don't resent your wife putting on her big girl panties and doing what is best for her. i agree with reddog, don't make it about you.

 

[lilgumby]

I've been training my wife and setting her diets up for quite some time now ,she has had some phenomenal gains. I don't mind and Love doing it but her soon we are hiring a female (online ) that she loves this women's physic to do it all. I'm happy for the break and she is excited.


Let her grow and experience stuff, who knows you both might learn something

 

[CaptainNapalm]

I wouldn't be upset although I can understand why you might be. You have to look at it from a realistic perspective. Your wife's comfort level with you is as good as it can be which can be counter productive to get her into shape (depending on the type of person you are and she is). It's often people we don't know well or ones we don't feel too comfortable around which whip us into good shape. Perhaps your wife sees this and wants to get someone from the outside who's program she follow through. Perhaps she feels that if she's burning money on this trainer it might encourage her more not to quit. There could be many reasons for her choice but at the end of the day you should be supportive.

 

[vicious 13]

I wouldn't mind my wife just slows me down

 

[thesecretsausage]

Women often think if they train like men then they'd get too big and bulky. That's why we're all so muscly after 4 weeks at the gym. NOT! Don't sweat it, although the money thing might annoy me, how much is it?

 

[Getbig2]

Maybe shes under the impression that she will build muscle in the same fashion as you?

True, my girl used to think that weight lifting was going to make her bulky and look like a man, I used to tell her no! It will help you tone up. Smh still doesnt get it

 

[crestcreeper88]

Lol. Good conversation. Now Im an easy going guy but when it comes to the gym/working out im a whole different animal. I can just see myself forming a resentment against my girl because she "refuses" to do an exercise with 100% (imo) correct form, or something along those lines. Idk why but i can see something like that irking mr everytime I look at her. Then of course next time we get into an argument, there are like 3 examples of "asshole" things Ive done or said at the gym along with the rest of the list of complaints she saves for those special times.
Ya bro, the $ is probably the only negative in the situation but just think how much $ you'll save in Excedrin!

 

[bdeljoose]

I wouldn't be offended. My girl would be more at ease with a female trainer. She wouldn't feel the need to impress me. I would be happy that she is motivated to train.

 

[C3p0]

You got lucky. I used to train with my girl but now I just send her doing her own thing. All the limp wristed curls and "I cant do it!" then doing 20 reps bullshit drove me F'ING NUTS. Its like having the absolute worst training partner ever. Curls on the incline bench and shes resting the 5lb dumbells on her shoulders at the top with the most limp wristed b.s. I have ever seen. If she was a man I would punch her in the face. But shes not. So I made a routine for her that keeps her on the other side of the gym at all times. And I dont care about her gains. She could stand to gain like 20-30lbs of fat. So if shes half assing it cool, I hope she doesnt get any gains.