You need to get your calories and macronutrient ratio's right!! At the moment you are just stabing in the dark.
I would consider starting a bulk at ~1.5g of protein/pound, 0.4g fat/pound and try for 1.8 to 2g carbs/pound. That means ~300-330g carbs, 250g protein and 70g fat.
See how you go and adjust accordingly...
I would then aim for 6 meals + PWO shake... Your first 4 meals should be predominately carbs and proteins as this is when you are most active and you will need the energy. A little fats (not around workouts) would be ok too - which means in your first two meals... Your last 2 meals you should limit your carbs to vegetables and add in a bit more fats - these will slow the digestion of the protein in your meals and help keep you anabolic during the evening.
So, something like:
Carbs + protein + a little fats
Carbs + protein +/- a little fats
Carbs + protein (pre workout)
Carbs + protein (post-workout shake)
Carbs + protein (post-workout meal)
Carbs + fats
Carbs + fats
That means, if you are having 4 meals + PWO shake with carbs in them you should aim for ~50-60g of carbs in the meals and ~80g carbs PWO.
Protein should be in each meal. Aim for 50g PWO and then split the other 200g ~ evenly across your meals.
Fats I would keep predominately in your last two meals with a small amount in your first meal as well... ~15-20g in your last two meals with 10g in your first meal and then a little fats from your other meals and you will easily hit your fat target.
Lastly, eat as many vegetables as you want and add lots of water as well.
swick said:
Meal 1
5 eggs/w yolks (I heard from a body building buddy of mine to keep all the yolks in for now)
Orange juice w/multi vitamin and some strawberries (gotta have my OJ, whats wrong with it?)
Oats or pumperknickle bread (whats wrong with wheat toast?)
Well... That sounds.... exactly like the last one!!

Firstly, you DO NOT need 5 yolks in one sitting!! That is 30g of fats right there - fats you are much better off getting from other sources. As I said before drop it to one or two and add in whites instead! Even better, drop it to 1 yolk and then add flax or fish-oil capsules.
Juice is a highly concentrated form of sugars, although whole fruit is great, by juicing it you for-go some of the benefits (phytochemicals, fibre etc) and instead just get the concentrated calories. What is wrong with having real fruit instead?
Wheat bread is going to give you nothing as well - most of it is nutrient void, processed garbage with high fructose corn syrup, salt and other nasty stuff added to it. Whole grains are your best bet they have more fibre, more protein, are lower GI, are usually lower II, have more vitamins/minerals and phytochemicals and are usually more filling.
Meal 2
5oz (2 can) Tuna and ...
1 sweet potato
(what sort of vegatables? is asparagas ok?)
Sounds much better (although '1 sweet potato' is somewhat vague). To get 50g carbs you are going to need around
All green vege type stuff is good - typical vegetables could be broccoli, spinach, cauliflower, cabbage, celery, brussel sprouts, zucchini etc etc... You could also have salad with lettuce, mushroom, tomato, cucumber. Asparagus is ok.
You could have some fats (fish oil capsules??) if you wanted.
Meal 3.
Around 30g worth of protein from cottage cheese and some oats or legumes?
Sounds fine. Although, as I said before, 30g of protein might be a bit small for your size. Also, you might want to consider having the CC in the meal previous to this one, and have the tuna here. The CC is a very slow digesting protein, and, as this is pre-workout, the tuna might be a little more appropriate to deliver amino-acids to your muscles with better timing.
Either oats or legumes (chick-peas, red kidney beans, black beans etc) would be great. As for size, ~50g carbs would mean ~1 cup oats.
Workout
post workout shake (2 scoops whey) with 1 bannana and some oats
Looks good. For ~80g of carbs you would need 1 cup rolled oats and 1 med-large banana. If the scoops of whey give you ~25g each then that is perfect as well.
You could also consider skim milk in place of some of the oats... but it is up to you.
Meal 4
5 more egg whites (or more tuna) and some legunes or sweet potato
5 whites = 17-18g of protein. You need twice that amount.
Sweet potato would be a great choice here too.
Meal 5
Precooked chicken/fish (or more cottage cheese) and veggies with 1.5 scoops of protein shake and some walnuts
Drop the protein. Go for fish (salmon would be excellent) + walnuts + vegetables.
Add in a meal after this one with cottage cheese + more walnuts and you are set.
What brand of legumes and oats do you suggest?
Brand?? Well I have no idea, I am in Australia.
For oats, for breakfast scotch oats/steel cut oats are the best. If you can not find these then thick whole-grain rolled oats are the next best thing.
For legumes - any brand will do... Most legumes (chick-peas, lentils, beans etc) are available in a variety of different brands.
Should I add all the calories up and make sure I am getting enough?
I think start at 2800 to 3000 cals/day and increase from there if appropiate.
I will drink milk with every meal and water casually thru-out the day. sound good?
Factor milk into your diet - don't just 'drink it'.. It is EXCELLENT for anabolism (one of the best substances out) but you have to count it.
Water - drink it in the gallons.