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Originally Posted by Witchblade
Agreed 110%.
Disagree 120%
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I totally missed that comment earlier. While i'm here though,... it is a fact that in the last 20-30 yrs since the birth of the internet and multi - media boom that there has been alot of information that has become available on what has been happening in families and marraiges in the last 50 yrs and more prior that. It is ouur generatations now , and probably most noticable in the late 20 - 30-40 yr old bracket that has been the greatest bulked group product of the afteraftermath of having heard all that stuff.. from the massive divorce stats..of whom were our parents and elder siblings and friends and so on and so forth , to abuse and neglect situations to single parenthood and disfunctional family awareness - of which apparently almost every single family iis in some capacity or other and more pulbicised cultural issues and more international issues that require a sdtance that could make a difference and so the story continues and it's aspects continue to branch into many many smaller and less currently spoken about issues for their relative newness and complicated nature.. riight up to and including education and income and independance and all of these sorts of things that play a role in how well ppl set up lives to facilitate a happy and healthy and successful marraige.. or even relationship withouut marraige... and that's even beforre considering bringing children into the world together..
Hell - .. i know sooo many ppl who are married - with children and without - good jobs and not - flithy rich and dirt poor and somewhere in between and there is no way in hell i would marry under aaany of their circumstances!!..
i do believe though that if someone is fortunate enough to meet someone who is allso aware of those things and each of their own will and insight are prepared to get their owwn shit together to avoid those traps in life that a marraige would work and have the best chance of success it could.. but that is a f*cking big ask and for myself .. if i don't get that.. then.. shrug.. and they have to want to maintain their health and fitness lonng into old age whereever practical outside community project projects which they should have some of also..
.. The saadest part about all that though is most ppl don't even knoww that shit and so they either take aanything they can get under whatever circumstance even when it means they're singing up for a life of shiit, or they get quietly dark and sardonic about it all .. not that I'd personally know what that was like,
,.. and end up segrogating themselves from any real opportunity of it . What do you do ??.. i know there are ppl here who are married and in relationships, so without trying or wanting to offend those of youu, i think that about as good as we're getting on it, is to each work on our own shit and hopefully by the time we sort it out some one we liike and can work with and be into long term will 've come through and be ready to do likewise.
Until then - well whatever really. if someone's cheating on you and you can be honest, well maybe they are some things that might help to consider. ..as much as it hurts and sucks.
Blooming tianshi lotus.
...lol.. how fun we arre
( shrug)... the gods be honest I guess... it'll pan out or it wont.
I hope. 
