I am in need of sex advice.
As odd as it may seem, I am a 24 year old virgin. Yes, I've waited that long for Mister Right and have finally found him. Alas, many problems have gotten in the way of us consummating our relationship...
The reason that has come up most often is that he is intimidated by my virginity. I don't get that, but...okay. Then he said that he has finally started to grow as a person and wants to find out who he really is. I pegged that one as bull shit pretty quick and it hasn't come up since. A few nights ago I gave him a blow job and we started to get pretty frisky. When it came to intercourse, he stopped and said that he doesn't have a condom with him and went on to talk about an ex-girlfriend getting pregnant and having miscarriage, or what she claims was a miscarriage. A completely understandable reason. I sure as hell don't want kids yet. I lost my train of thought...there is always some reason for not having sex. Most of the time it's a new reason or me being a virgin.
Anyway, he has recently started talking about me taking birth control. Before we dated, I normally hung out with him and a friend of his. Their conversations usually consisted of politics, sex, or religion. One of their sex talks included how horrible condoms are and that he can't get off at all when he's using them. So, I'm extremely tempted to try birth control to see if he'll jump right in with no reserves. However, I have a major fear of doctors and I react badly to most medications. I can't take something for a head ache without having strange or horrible results.
Sorry, this is so long, but there are three more problems. He has a huge penis. I haven't seen many or touched any before him, but I was seriously shocked the first time I saw it. Considering the fact that I've never had anything bigger than a tampon in me, it is a tad terrifying.
The biggest problem, I think, is that he hates sex. I found this out a few days ago. He had talked about how horrible all of his relationships were before we got together, but there has got to be more to it than I realize. The majority of his relationships before were based on sex. According to him, they had sex all the time and he never really found it enjoyable. Plus he is a very romantic person or used to be. He thought that sex was the ultimate way of emotional bonding and what not. Now he thinks that is bull shit. He thinks of masturbation as just a normal thing, like eating and breathing. He does it to balance his hormones and moves on. I don't mind him masturbating all the time, but when it comes to actual sex, I have to disagree with him. I didn't stay a virgin so that things would be this way.
Okay, the third problem. He has a hard time reaching an orgasm and had had a lot of sex before having is first one. I guess he usually runs out of steam before he can get there and, thus far, I've run out of steam as well while trying to help him get there. I think that it has to do with his medication, but it could be psychological. Although we aren't having intercourse right now, I would like to help him with this. Any techniques that I could try while we're messing around would be great. He's given me a few directions like where he likes to be licked and touched, and that he likes it "rough". I tried to get a bit more rough when I was giving him a blow job, but I didn't really know in what way he meant.
As odd as it may seem, I am a 24 year old virgin. Yes, I've waited that long for Mister Right and have finally found him. Alas, many problems have gotten in the way of us consummating our relationship...
The reason that has come up most often is that he is intimidated by my virginity. I don't get that, but...okay. Then he said that he has finally started to grow as a person and wants to find out who he really is. I pegged that one as bull shit pretty quick and it hasn't come up since. A few nights ago I gave him a blow job and we started to get pretty frisky. When it came to intercourse, he stopped and said that he doesn't have a condom with him and went on to talk about an ex-girlfriend getting pregnant and having miscarriage, or what she claims was a miscarriage. A completely understandable reason. I sure as hell don't want kids yet. I lost my train of thought...there is always some reason for not having sex. Most of the time it's a new reason or me being a virgin.
Anyway, he has recently started talking about me taking birth control. Before we dated, I normally hung out with him and a friend of his. Their conversations usually consisted of politics, sex, or religion. One of their sex talks included how horrible condoms are and that he can't get off at all when he's using them. So, I'm extremely tempted to try birth control to see if he'll jump right in with no reserves. However, I have a major fear of doctors and I react badly to most medications. I can't take something for a head ache without having strange or horrible results.
Sorry, this is so long, but there are three more problems. He has a huge penis. I haven't seen many or touched any before him, but I was seriously shocked the first time I saw it. Considering the fact that I've never had anything bigger than a tampon in me, it is a tad terrifying.
The biggest problem, I think, is that he hates sex. I found this out a few days ago. He had talked about how horrible all of his relationships were before we got together, but there has got to be more to it than I realize. The majority of his relationships before were based on sex. According to him, they had sex all the time and he never really found it enjoyable. Plus he is a very romantic person or used to be. He thought that sex was the ultimate way of emotional bonding and what not. Now he thinks that is bull shit. He thinks of masturbation as just a normal thing, like eating and breathing. He does it to balance his hormones and moves on. I don't mind him masturbating all the time, but when it comes to actual sex, I have to disagree with him. I didn't stay a virgin so that things would be this way.
Okay, the third problem. He has a hard time reaching an orgasm and had had a lot of sex before having is first one. I guess he usually runs out of steam before he can get there and, thus far, I've run out of steam as well while trying to help him get there. I think that it has to do with his medication, but it could be psychological. Although we aren't having intercourse right now, I would like to help him with this. Any techniques that I could try while we're messing around would be great. He's given me a few directions like where he likes to be licked and touched, and that he likes it "rough". I tried to get a bit more rough when I was giving him a blow job, but I didn't really know in what way he meant.
which IM member has a erection prob.....it's Akira!!!
the switch from goats to human could pose a problem..
